Bumped into My Middle School social worker

[xXoblivionXx]

Tonight was my sister's middle school graduation and when I was at the ceremony I bumped into some of my old teachers, along with my old social worker. I hadn't seen him since I left middle school. He was the first adult to find out about my self harm, in fact he was the first adult that I told. I guess I have mixed feelings about seeing him again, he never ended up telling my parents as long as I stayed clean. That's was very nice of him, keeping it between us. I guess that's it, I just wanted to get that out of my head. Thanks guys.

[Miserabilia]

Wow I want someone like that, I can't trust anyone enough for that because I am 99% sure they will alert everyone, etc.

[CosmicNoodle]

Wow I want someone like that, I can't trust anyone enough for that because I am 99% sure they will alert everyone, etc.

I had the same problem. Can't be quite sure who you can trust.

[thatgothgirluknow]

me2 i wouldnt ever tell anyone

[xXoblivionXx]

Wow I want someone like that, I can't trust anyone enough for that because I am 99% sure they will alert everyone, etc.

I had the same problem. Can't be quite sure who you can trust.

me2 i wouldnt ever tell anyone

Yeah, I'm lucky that it worked out that way. I made a deal with a friend who also self harmed; I would get help if she would. But in high school my counselor wasn't as lenient, she ended up calling my parents :/ for the best I guessed but it was the scariest thing ever, telling my parents that I cut myself.

[bob97]

Tonight was my sister's middle school graduation and when I was at the ceremony I bumped into some of my old teachers, along with my old social worker. I hadn't seen him since I left middle school. He was the first adult to find out about my self harm, in fact he was the first adult that I told. I guess I have mixed feelings about seeing him again, he never ended up telling my parents as long as I stayed clean. That's was very nice of him, keeping it between us. I guess that's it, I just wanted to get that out of my head. Thanks guys.

I'm actually really surprised that he didn't tell anyone. In Massachusetts at least, if they find out that you are a threat to yourself or others, or harm yourself or others, they have to tell someone. Its a law and they could get jail time.

[xXoblivionXx]

I'm actually really surprised that he didn't tell anyone. In Massachusetts at least, if they find out that you are a threat to yourself or others, or harm yourself or others, they have to tell someone. Its a law and they could get jail time.

We have a similar law but he has a confidenality policy in which you can go talk to him 3 times without having your parents know or anything written in a file, I think that way kids are more likely going to take the first step in getting help

[xXl0sth0peXx]

That's really interesting, I know that in Pennsylvania, as long as you're at least 14, they can't tell anyone without your consent unless you're at risk of killing yourself/harming others.. So in my case, as long as I swore to my therapist it was just self harm and I wasn't trying to kill myself (because they are two completely different things), she couldn't tell without my consent.

That 3 times law is actually really smart, at least in my opinion. I'd never thought about something like that, but it makes sense actually.. It may not work for everyone but it's a good step in my opinion.

Did you say anything to him when you saw him? Or vice versa? I don't think it was a bad thing that you ran into him, especially since he seemed to be good to you.

[Miserabilia]

That's really interesting, I know that in Pennsylvania, as long as you're at least 14, they can't tell anyone without your consent unless you're at risk of killing yourself/harming others.. So in my case, as long as I swore to my therapist it was just self harm and I wasn't trying to kill myself (because they are two completely different things), she couldn't tell without my consent.

That 3 times law is actually really smart, at least in my opinion. I'd never thought about something like that, but it makes sense actually.. It may not work for everyone but it's a good step in my opinion.

Did you say anything to him when you saw him? Or vice versa? I don't think it was a bad thing that you ran into him, especially since he seemed to be good to you.

I really want to know where you guys find out about all these laws, I can't find anyting about this.
All I can find are articles saying "parents, if your child self harms, take them to a councelar and they can fix problems and talk about it in class" which is the opposite of anything I'd want.
I don't like to complain about "the system" of something but in this case I feel like it.
I mean I'm not really drawn to go to a school counceler or whatever because I completely feel like they are just going to alert everyone and make me extremely emberrased and ashamed.
I wish there was some kind of clarity , like they would put emphasis on "this is confedential! Come here and share your problems!", but since there's no such thing here,
I don't trust it.

Heck, I bet thousands of teens would get help for their problems if it was more confidential untill they choose to tel themselves.
There's pretty much no awarenes of self harm or depresiion in my school (and it's a huge school!), though I bet there are alot of students struggling, etc.

Ugh.
/:
-rant out

[xXoblivionXx]

My school does a decent job with providing information about getting help. I'm glad that thy realize that teens screw up and that they're providing ways to help