What am I doing wrong?

[Sunsfan13]

Hello, I'm a 16 year old male in highschool.
Here's a mini introduction of myself. I am of Korean heritage, but lived in North America since I was a baby (I have no asian friends, my friends say I'm the whitest asian they know). I'm the starting receiver for the school football team. I'm not part of the 'popular' group, but i know everyone there and I am acquaintances/friends with them. My own group of friends are slightly above average in the high school hierarchy where every social group is classed. I do go to parties and have fun with people. Now here's my problem.

I have no problem making friends with guys and being myself, but it's with girls I can't. I'm 16 and I still haven't had a sober hookup yet and I have almost zero girls in my contacts. This has always bothered me, but it does now more then ever. I have never had a girlfriend or friends who are girls for that matter. It's just I can't act normal around them. Like, I can hold up a conversation well and be confident, but there aren't many times I talk to them anyway. I had a talk with a close friend who lives in Germany (this guy is the most popular guy I have ever known) about me being bored on a Friday. He told me that I needed to get a girl and I know it won't solve all my problems but it'll certainly help.

I want to know how I can make friends with girls and why I have no success yet. Is it because of my heritage? Do I lack confidence? Will I change when I graduate and move on?

Sorry for the long post. Thanks

[CollegeGirl]

Well, first and foremost, don't be so caught up in the social hierarchy of high school. Trust me, none of that will even be important in college. But to address your question, maybe you should try putting yourself out there. It is very rare that a girl will make the first move nowadays. So why not try starting up a conversation and just seeing which girls attract you naturally. Hope this helps. Feel free to ask followup ?s

[CosmicNoodle]

Well, first and foremost, don't be so caught up in the social hierarchy of high school. Trust me, none of that will even be important in college. But to address your question, maybe you should try putting yourself out there. It is very rare that a girl will make the first move nowadays. So why not try starting up a conversation and just seeing which girls attract you naturally. Hope this helps. Feel free to ask followup ?s

Yep, this exactly

[sixguy6]

Hello, I'm a 16 year old male in highschool.
Here's a mini introduction of myself. I am of Korean heritage, but lived in North America since I was a baby (I have no asian friends, my friends say I'm the whitest asian they know). I'm the starting receiver for the school football team. I'm not part of the 'popular' group, but i know everyone there and I am acquaintances/friends with them. My own group of friends are slightly above average in the high school hierarchy where every social group is classed. I do go to parties and have fun with people. Now here's my problem.

I have no problem making friends with guys and being myself, but it's with girls I can't. I'm 16 and I still haven't had a sober hookup yet and I have almost zero girls in my contacts. This has always bothered me, but it does now more then ever. I have never had a girlfriend or friends who are girls for that matter. It's just I can't act normal around them. Like, I can hold up a conversation well and be confident, but there aren't many times I talk to them anyway. I had a talk with a close friend who lives in Germany (this guy is the most popular guy I have ever known) about me being bored on a Friday. He told me that I needed to get a girl and I know it won't solve all my problems but it'll certainly help.

I want to know how I can make friends with girls and why I have no success yet. Is it because of my heritage? Do I lack confidence? Will I change when I graduate and move on?

Sorry for the long post. Thanks

Don't wait to change! Change now :) it'll do loads of help for you in future and not only with women but with lots of things. There are some exercises to boost self confidence.
Look in the mirror and you tell yourself that you give yourself permission to be confident and to talk with women and make tons a girl friends do it everyday and I'm pretty sure that will help you

[LoloJones]

It doesn't matter how popular you are or aren't because most girls aren't shallow. Why not try meeting with friends who have invited girls to hang out? Also your heritage has nothing to do with this. Its your lack of confidence. Hope this helps :)

[Andriod09]

I would personally say this: You have courage, you are just trying to "fit in" with the high school stereotype. Stop it.

The reason why you "can't be yourself" around girls is because you're always with "your boys". This means that you (subconsciously) are trying to treat the girls you meet like their one of your guy friends that you hang around with a lot. This is a very bad thing to do, and it happens the other way around, as well I believe.

I'm a guy, but grew up around befriending girls, and I have a problem having guy friends (I'm straight, so imo it's not really a problem).

That's all I can really help you with, sorry mate. I wish you the best, and hope for things to change. :)