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TheRedViper
June 1st, 2014, 08:48 AM
Long story short I was best friends with a girl at my school for a year and a half. I had a massive crush on her, and she pretty much knew about it, but didn't care. She had a boyfriend (who was way older than us and didn't go to school) and they had an on-off thing. Just when it seemed like they were over, they got back together. This has happened at least five times.

Even though I was massively in the friendzone, we were still really great friends, and we really trusted each other and cared about each other. She often complained about her boyfriend to me, and said she wished I was her boyfriend instead. On one occasion she even asked if I'd be her rebound if they broke up. She knew and said to me that I'd be better for her than him, but despite this they still stayed together for ages.

So she left my school last year, but we've still kept in contact. She ended up breaking up with her boyfriend, and this lasted for several months. In that time, I actually considered asking her out, and was trying to organize us to catch up so I could ask her, but then in my as usual amazing luck, I found out last week that she got back together with her boyfriend.

I felt crushed, but not exactly surprised. I was talking to her just before on my phone and she told me about it very casually. I didn't have it in me, or think it smart to tell her how I felt. Even though she expressed on several occasions before that she loved me and said we would be good together, I didn't know how she meant it, like as friends or more.

So now I'm just sitting here, sad and disappointed but not surprised. She's the only girl that's ever been a legit friend, and the only girl I ever talked to on a regular basis. Now that she's gone I just don't have anyone like her now. I really miss her, and I'm worried that I won't get a girlfriend until I leave high school at least, since she was the only girl I talked regularly and liked, and none of the other girls at school are interested in me, and vice versa.

Being in the friendzone sucks. She even teases me with comments like "we should have a baby." She literally just said that like half an hour ago. Urgh, I really don't know how her mind works, in regards to me. I keep thinking "there will be other girls I like, and that will be interested in me." But every day this seems less and less likely.

ImagineRepublicCity
June 1st, 2014, 09:01 AM
Don't feel upset about it. Sometimes it's better to just have one friend of the opposite gender to always be there for you, not even in a relationship or anything. My closest friend is a guy and even though I did used to want to date him, I don't really want to anymore, but the last thing I want is for something between us to happen (Also, there's a lot of other reasons why but this isn't about me).

Also, you don't have to hurry with the relationship thing. In my opinion, at the current moment, relationships kinda suck. You just don't have the time and commitment in high school, because you're (well, most of us) are just horny and we just want someone to call a partner. So don't be too down about it.

You will eventually find someone, but now is just not the time. Seriously, wait it out, and good things will come eventually.

TheRedViper
June 1st, 2014, 09:05 AM
Don't feel upset about it. Sometimes it's better to just have one friend of the opposite gender to always be there for you, not even in a relationship or anything. My closest friend is a guy and even though I did used to want to date him, I don't really want to anymore, but the last thing I want is for something between us to happen (Also, there's a lot of other reasons why but this isn't about me).

Also, you don't have to hurry with the relationship thing. In my opinion, at the current moment, relationships kinda suck. You just don't have the time and commitment in high school, because you're (well, most of us) are just horny and we just want someone to call a partner. So don't be too down about it.

You will eventually find someone, but now is just not the time. Seriously, wait it out, and good things will come eventually.

Thanks for the answer. It was good hearing from someone that had been in a similar situation. And I know deep down you're right about the whole relationship thing. It kind of just sucks seeing everyone around me having girlfriends and boyfriends, and I just don't. Although I would rather be with someone I really care about than just some random for the sake of it.

ImagineRepublicCity
June 1st, 2014, 09:37 AM
Thanks for the answer. It was good hearing from someone that had been in a similar situation. And I know deep down you're right about the whole relationship thing. It kind of just sucks seeing everyone around me having girlfriends and boyfriends, and I just don't. Although I would rather be with someone I really care about than just some random for the sake of it.

I know, you do feel a bit jealous/envious because you want to experience it too, but it's actually not that big of a deal. I was in a relationship for two weeks and sure, it was fun while it lasted, but I could've lived without it.

And you're right, it's better to be with someone you really care about then someone random. I'll always be here if you're feeling a bit lonely, just PM me, yeah? c: