FWB(Friends with Benefits)?

[Microcosm]

How do I get a girl to get into a FWB relationship...? They are all so protective of themselves. Also, they think you will get feelings for them. What can I do? Anyone with experience that can help me?

[Jaseblader]

you just have to find one that's not like that... for example... my fwb is my ex that was still in love w meh

[Swagging god]

First, get into the right mind set. You want to be friends that go " Will go most anywhere to find where they belong". Basically, make the connection and see what happens, but be honest, with her.

[Emerald Dream]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[Camazotz]

Find someone that seems like they'd be comfortable with that kind of relationship and ask them politely if they're interested. Not many people are interested in a consistent FWB relationship; maybe a one-time fling, but most teens aren't comfortable with just sex for various reasons (safety, reputation, etc.).

Remember, no means no, and persuading someone into sex is absolutely wrong.

[BuryYourFlame]

Be mature about it. The more desperate you are for it to happen, the less likely it will come about. It would also be better to wait till you're older (18/19+) too. I'm not saying that kind of relationship can't exist at a younger age but in general they are destructive and everyone ends up worse off as opposed to constructive where people benefit and learn from human interaction and have greater self esteem in some cases.

They're "all so protective" because they have to be really, otherwise they will be blamed and accused if something happens. Guys have a terrible track record of not keeping things private and sexual assault as well. If girls aren't completely "protective" then society will tend to just blame them. Just on a side note.

[PinkFloyd]

To be completely honest man, there are a shit load of factors. If even one factor is missing or doesn't work, then the whole thing is faulty. I will now go into the many different factors that are required for this.

First off, you've got the type of person. You need to find a girl that is generally laid back and is flexible as far as feelings go. They can't be getting over a loss or anything like that because that means that they aren't in a fun mood. They're a lot more touchy.

Second, they themselves generally can't be even moderatley religious because chances are, they're a part of Christianity, Judaism, or Islam. All three of those religions believe in sex after marriage. So having sex with someone for fun is a big no-no for them.

Thirdly, since a friend with benefits is one that you're going to be doing the nasty with on a relatively regular basis casually, the parents can't be really nosy, strict, harsh, etc.

Lastly, you need need need to be able to still be you know.... be FRIENDS with them too. You can't have sex with them for the first time and then be really awkward about it. That's how friendships get ruined. Believe me, I've seen it happen.

Oh, and another thing, let's say that all the tumblers fall into place and you DO get a FWB. You need, need, need to use protection. They can say they don't have "X" disease but they don't know until they're actually tested. You also don't want a baby. I've had a scare like that. Not fun. So yeah, use a fucking condom. You could A: buy a pack of Durex for 4 dollars or B: Thousands upon thousands of dollars worth of baby supplies.

[ariel]

IMO, the biggest requirement is you have to make sure the person is comfortable with that sort of relationship. If you try to force something on them that they aren't comfortable with, it might ruin your friendship and then a whole bunch of crap could go down.

[Apassionato]

To be comfortable with a FWB relationship, you need to be sexually open and liberal both towards yourself and others. That's the type of girl you have to find. Not everybody will be ok with such a relationship, though you will find that, as you grow older, people are more open about it. Many people still consider sex to necessarily include an emotional connection - for those, a FWB relationship is not even worth consideration.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

There's a lot of things to consider, but I'm just gonna generalise this a bit more for you.

First of all, it has to be someone you connect with. You're going to do things you may not have done before, and both of you will have to respect each other. If you don't tell each other if this is okay or not, then it's a bit difficult.

Secondly, it happens all the time, but make sure it's someone you don't want to date. Best friends are annoying, because just a tad more and you'll probably begin to have feeling for them. If you can find things you don't like much about them which you wouldn't be able to stand if you were dating that person, that's a start.

And lastly, it's a building up thing. You can't just go up to them and be like "Friends with benefits?" no. Don't do that. It's a gradual thing. Maybe you can ask her on her opinion on the subject or talk about some puberty related questions and add in "I'm curious" here and there, or possibly even joke about it? If you know shes acting uncomfortable though, drop it. The last thing she wants is a mate begging for (not actually but could be) sex.

Good luck~

[phuckphace]

Second, they themselves generally can't be even moderatley religious because chances are, they're a part of Christianity, Judaism, or Islam. All three of those religions believe in sex after marriage. So having sex with someone for fun is a big no-no for them.

you'd be surprised how many religious teens are sexually active. at my parent's church it was widely understood among the youth group that most of the bf/gf couples were having sex, and this was at one of the more traditional Baptist churches. a friend of mine got a BJ from a girl on the bus with his Presbyterian youth group, and there's a lot of that shit going on at their camps too. I think even devoutly religious people can find ways to suppress their guilt about disobeying God. because pussy.

[PinkFloyd]

you'd be surprised how many religious teens are sexually active. at my parent's church it was widely understood among the youth group that most of the bf/gf couples were having sex, and this was at one of the more traditional Baptist churches. a friend of mine got a BJ from a girl on the bus with his Presbyterian youth group, and there's a lot of that shit going on at their camps too. I think even devoutly religious people can find ways to suppress their guilt about disobeying God. because pussy.

Well I mean teenagers that are religious themselves and choose to follow sex after marriage and not just their families. My girlfriend's parents are heavily religious, but not her. Look where that got me. Actually, don't look because that would break VT rules.