my best friend pregnant?

[Seemyheart]

Today my best friend called me crying...and when I finally got her calmed down enough, she told me she and her boyfriend had broken up and then she told me she was pregnant...she said she took a test earlier that day and it was positive. i asked her if she had to her bf, and she said she did but all he said was "ok. now you can go drop your panties for some other guys" and then he was gone.
She went over to his house later, and when she tried to talk to him, his friends called her a whore andsaid she opens her legs for any guy she sees and then they threw rocks at her...and all her ex did was laugh and tell her to go home.
And just a couple hours ago, I get a text from her saying "hes not mad at me anymore :D" and I said "seriously?! after everything hes done to you, you're gonnna go back to him??he's not going to stick around!" and she said "right now, hes what I want."
Since im her best friend and vice versa..I feel like I should support her, but I cant support a relationship that makes her so sad. I hate it when any of my friends cry...
I dont know what to do

[conniption]

I think you did the best you could have done in a situation like this. She's obviously really into this guy and will stick with him no matter what. I've seen stuff like this happen before and girls will literally do everything for a guy that's no where near worth doing shit for, but the best you can do is support her. Maybe try to talk to her seriously about her other options, just don't push her too hard because she might get defensive.

[Seemyheart]

I think you did the best you could have done in a situation like this. She's obviously really into this guy and will stick with him no matter what. I've seen stuff like this happen before and girls will literally do everything for a guy that's no where near worth doing shit for, but the best you can do is support her. Maybe try to talk to her seriously about her other options, just don't push her too hard because she might get defensive.

How can I support her when I hate the guy she loves??? She can do so much better..
She said she's doing it for the baby, says she'd rather the baby have both It's parents and not just one of them

[conniption]

How can I support her when I hate the guy she loves??? She can do so much better..
She said she's doing it for the baby, says she'd rather the baby have both It's parents and not just one of them

You might not like the decisions she's making, but sometimes there's not much you can do. Look, she's young and thinks her child won't be able to live a normal life without a father, but she's wrong. Explain to her that her baby can have both her parents, but that doesn't necessarily mean she has to stay with him. He's disrespected her and has made it obvious he's no where near ready for the huge responsibility that comes with having a baby. This guy is going to be a part of her life forever and it's best she figures out a way to minimize any problems he might cause for her and their baby.

[Seemyheart]

You might not like the decisions she's making, but sometimes there's not much you can do. Look, she's young and thinks her child won't be able to live a normal life without a father, but she's wrong. Explain to her that her baby can have both her parents, but that doesn't necessarily mean she has to stay with him. He's disrespected her and has made it obvious he's no where near ready for the huge responsibility that comes with having a baby. This guy is going to be a part of her life forever and it's best she figures out a way to minimize any problems he might cause for her and their baby.

And what if she just said she's pregnant to get him to stay??? they've already had a pregnancy scare before, like a month and a half ago. she said she's not 100% sure because it was a crappy cheap test.
the guy texted her and said he doesnt care because she told him she's not 100% sure.
It's just all sorts of messed up.

[conniption]

And what if she just said she's pregnant to get him to stay??? they've already had a pregnancy scare before, like a month and a half ago. she said she's not 100% sure because it was a crappy cheap test.
the guy texted her and said he doesnt care because she told him she's not 100% sure.
It's just all sorts of messed up.

Just as you said, this whole situation is a huge mess, so you can't expect for things to go smoothly at all. She's tripped up over this guy and now she's made a decision that will affect the rest of her life. You can get all preachy and tell her she's making a bad decision chasing this guy and things of that sort, but if she's gotten pregnant on purpose, what are the chances she'll actually listen to you? Tell her you'll be there for her, but that you don't agree with the choices she's made so far.

[Seemyheart]

Just as you said, this whole situation is a huge mess, so you can't expect for things to go smoothly at all. She's tripped up over this guy and now she's made a decision that will affect the rest of her life. You can get all preachy and tell her she's making a bad decision chasing this guy and things of that sort, but if she's gotten pregnant on purpose, what are the chances she'll actually listen to you? Tell her you'll be there for her, but that you don't agree with the choices she's made so far.

She doesn't care about the supposed baby.. earlier she texted me saying she was smoking a cigarette (her ex bf got her started on those) and I told her to put it out because it'd harm the baby and she said she didn't care she didn't want it anyways she didnt care if she lost it or not she just wants him.

I am sorry for troubling you with all of this. I just don't know where else to or who else to turn to.

[conniption]

She doesn't care about the supposed baby.. earlier she texted me saying she was smoking a cigarette (her ex bf got her started on those) and I told her to put it out because it'd harm the baby and she said she didn't care she didn't want it anyways she didnt care if she lost it or not she just wants him.

I am sorry for troubling you with all of this. I just don't know where else to or who else to turn to.

It's cool. I'm happy to help.

I understand that you're worried, hell, I'd be worried too, but she's doing some really messed up things and there's nothing that'll really stop her as long as it means she gets to be with this guy. I don't know what she's thinking and I don't think you do either, so it's hard to do much else but stand back, watch this unfold, and hope for the best.

[Seemyheart]

It's cool. I'm happy to help.

I understand that you're worried, hell, I'd be worried too, but she's doing some really messed up things and there's nothing that'll really stop her as long as it means she gets to be with this guy. I don't know what she's thinking and I don't think you do either, so it's hard to do much else but stand back, watch this unfold, and hope for the best.

She's only 16... and she could be throwing away the rest of her life for him. I think she's just holding onto the one thing she feels cares about her...her parents are always fightng and seperated and possibly going to get divorced.

[BuryYourFlame]

She was excited that he wasn't mad at her anymore? She should be livid that he was mad at her in the first place. The only way to responsibly go about this is to never see the father again to be honest. Obviously this might not happen though because emotions can really get in the way of things. Hopefully after things settle down and she has time to think a bit more she can see that she needs to get away from him.
For the mean time, try and save any text messages and quotes in a personal folder or something for future reference if it comes to a custody battle. She won't want to keep this evidence at the moment if she still likes him but it may be the difference between a child having to stay with a deadbeat father and being able to stay with its mother.

[plebble]

He's the worst boyfriend ever and she's going to get really hurt. She's too much in love with him that she can't see past it. He's planning something bad, maybe a childish prank with his mates, nothing too serious. Probably to see how she'd react because it's very obvious he doesn't really care.

On the off chance that he does care and wants to look after the baby, he's a dick for what he did before. I don't believe in this relationship and it needs to end ASAP.

[Hundred Spirited God]

I've seen this before,the girl treats the guy like he's the enemy and like she's the victim,she's toying with you,my ex girlfriend did this to me back in January,she acted the same as your best friend,how many girls do you see wanting to hurt their baby???how long have you been friends with her?