I screwed up massively

[PerpetualImperfexion]

Last night I was super tired. A female friend of mine was not and I decided I could stay up a little longer to keep her company. I was talking just to talk, which is never a good thing. What exactly I said isn't important, just understand that it wasn't directly obvious that it was hurtful, especially to someone who was barely conscious. The end result was this: she accused me of not caring about her. She said that the entire "friendship" was a game to me and I only did it because I felt sorry for her. This is not at all true. You don't give someone six months of your life because you're pitying them. I developed feelings for her, asked her out, was rejected, and then moved on, continuing to be her friend. You don't develop feelings for someone because you pity them.

That paragraph is peppered with what look like excuses. Understand that I take full responsibility for what I said to her. It is my fault. I just want to make things up to her, but when I ask to talk it out with her she just picks out the things that sound negative or accusatory and points at that the statement is wrong.

[Living For Love]

Try to explain the whole situation to her, say that you were really tired and because you care so much about her, you stayed with her despite your tiredness. Basically, tell her what you've told us here.

[JamesSuperBoy]

You cannot be responsible for how she feels or the way she reacted -maybe she is just in the negative space right now - either try and put her right on this or just leave be and let her get back to you if she wants.

[Body odah Man]

Last night I was super tired. A female friend of mine was not and I decided I could stay up a little longer to keep her company. I was talking just to talk, which is never a good thing. What exactly I said isn't important, just understand that it wasn't directly obvious that it was hurtful, especially to someone who was barely conscious. The end result was this: she accused me of not caring about her. She said that the entire "friendship" was a game to me and I only did it because I felt sorry for her. This is not at all true. You don't give someone six months of your life because you're pitying them. I developed feelings for her, asked her out, was rejected, and then moved on, continuing to be her friend. You don't develop feelings for someone because you pity them.

That paragraph is peppered with what look like excuses. Understand that I take full responsibility for what I said to her. It is my fault. I just want to make things up to her, but when I ask to talk it out with her she just picks out the things that sound negative or accusatory and points at that the statement is wrong.

Like Capt. Stacy said in Spiderman ish 60ish, women think with their emotions. Just gotta explain to her how you were tired and half retarded. If she's a real friend she'll understand

[PerpetualImperfexion]

Ok, I think we're making progress. I explained everything. I've gotten some "ok"s, "fine"s, and "I guess"es. I told her that I needed communication if I was going to fix it to which she replied "ya, well I'm busy right now". Here's to hoping she's actually busy.

[plebble]

She's the idiot, not you.

You were almost asleep! Anyone probably could have said whatever you said. I bet if you were fully conscious you'd never say what you said.