SamSmith2801
May 29th, 2014, 11:52 AM
Okay so the reason i joined this forum was to ask this question:
Basically in the past couple months i have started to develop strong feelings towards my best friend. the problem is because the nature of our relationship I'm firmly placed in the friend zone, which to be honest isn't the real problem. a little while ago i told her i had feelings for her, and she then went into this epic of how we couldn't be friends...blah blah blah because she would feel as if she was torturing me because i wanted more, and this was our starting conversation of the evening and proceeded to hang out and stuff, we ended up going for a walk and had a really nice time. later that evening i stupidly asked her why not, and a while later i go the reply back saying she's not attracted towards me. but later down the message it said, "i was talking to my aunt and she says I'm being a silly little girl, because everybody in the world is looking for a relationship like ours (referring to mine and hers, even though we're not dating) and that i'm probably going to regret it in the future, but oh well"
to me this seems like a dumb idea, i don't want to wake up one morning feeling like a complete moron for not trying harder, because me and her have such good chemistry, you can feel it when we talk to each other, we would be so good together, the fact that we never argue, talk like best friends, protect each other like siblings, act like idiots together has to mean something right? i just want to try being in a relationship with her, just to see what could happen, sound dumb, naive, childish, but its the truth! she's had such a massive effect on me in the time I've known her, it's got to be a sign, it's got to be fait, right?.
Another thing, not really an issue i guess but she lives in a foreign country (we go to boarding school together) and at the end of next year she's going home for good, unless i can stop her.
what do i do, i have no clue, i want to try being in a relationship with her, but i don't want to screw what we already have up, because she means more than the world to me, and i don't want to find out what its like to live without her!
Basically in the past couple months i have started to develop strong feelings towards my best friend. the problem is because the nature of our relationship I'm firmly placed in the friend zone, which to be honest isn't the real problem. a little while ago i told her i had feelings for her, and she then went into this epic of how we couldn't be friends...blah blah blah because she would feel as if she was torturing me because i wanted more, and this was our starting conversation of the evening and proceeded to hang out and stuff, we ended up going for a walk and had a really nice time. later that evening i stupidly asked her why not, and a while later i go the reply back saying she's not attracted towards me. but later down the message it said, "i was talking to my aunt and she says I'm being a silly little girl, because everybody in the world is looking for a relationship like ours (referring to mine and hers, even though we're not dating) and that i'm probably going to regret it in the future, but oh well"
to me this seems like a dumb idea, i don't want to wake up one morning feeling like a complete moron for not trying harder, because me and her have such good chemistry, you can feel it when we talk to each other, we would be so good together, the fact that we never argue, talk like best friends, protect each other like siblings, act like idiots together has to mean something right? i just want to try being in a relationship with her, just to see what could happen, sound dumb, naive, childish, but its the truth! she's had such a massive effect on me in the time I've known her, it's got to be a sign, it's got to be fait, right?.
Another thing, not really an issue i guess but she lives in a foreign country (we go to boarding school together) and at the end of next year she's going home for good, unless i can stop her.
what do i do, i have no clue, i want to try being in a relationship with her, but i don't want to screw what we already have up, because she means more than the world to me, and i don't want to find out what its like to live without her!