Old Couple Friendship

[ChoiceScarf]

I have this friend, we shall call him Smith for identity sake. I joined a new school last year and at the end of this school year will have been there for two years. My first year there Smith practically hated me and never spent any time trying to get to know me. This year, Smith and I spend a lot of time together but we always seem to argue (Note, he is taller and stronger than me by quite a bit). We argue about everything. When we are in a conversation its a matter of time before it explodes into an argument. We even argued about the colour of pen to use on our notes for revision. Its like if I say something is white he is more than likely going to say it is black, just to cause an argument. And I am just as guilty to start arguments as well. It seems we are always at each others throats. But we spend a lot of time together, we go to the gym together, we have revised together, we are in the same social group, we have gone to get lunch together. I remember once we were having a huge argument in the gym about I don't know I think he left weight out and I told him to put it back and it just sparked a huge argument. We left the gym and the argument stopped for a few minutes and I asked him for a lift home and he gave me one. But we still argued on the way home. And weirdly enough, we both picked the same university and accommodation, we didn't even realise for next year.

But we have been dubbed the "Old Married Couple" because of our habit of arguing about anything. We have a little cycle; Talk, Argue, Wrestle, repeat. I don't know why. I do think he is the most annoying and cringest person I have ever met. However, when I do need someone he is the first person there making sure I am all right. I do feel comfortable telling him things. At parties he will always come and find me every now and again to make sure I'm not too drunk. We once had a chat, drunk of course that he did hate me last year, but he heard that I didn't have a Dad and it made him feel really bad. He said he just felt like everyone around me constantly babies me and thats why he hated me and thought I was annoying. however, he said that he wasn't going to be another friend who babied me, he said it would not be fair one me.

Now I don't know if a friendship like this is common or not, I've never had a friend like this ever before in my life. But people do tell me his is overly harsh and a bit of a D!cK to me. Some even have said I must be relieved to finally be away from Smiths bullying. And I've heard people say that Smith is just taking the piss out of me.

I don't think I should really care about what other people have to say. I mean smith knows nearly everything that has happened in my life a lot more than what other people know, and even though he knows it sucked he doesn't give me any sympathy. I know it might seem horrible on the outside to people but I've never had anyone who is hard on me and pushes me forward. For example, my grades have gone from a C to a low A and my lifting I have nearly doubled since I started. Is he a Friend or am I just glorifying a bully?

[Typhlosion]

It just seems to be his form of friendship. It's no bullying if you guys are all around the place, sometimes not quarreling.

[Living For Love]

I guess he might be a good friend with a terrible personality. On one hand, you feel comfortable telling him things, and he is a good listener. On the other, you two are always arguing. I don't know, you need to see if the positive aspects outweigh the bad ones, but if you've been close for almost two years, I guess you two can still keep being friends. And it also depends on the way you two argue, if you're like beating each other purposely or just you two disagree on something.