Why am I so uncomfortable with my best friend's sex life?

[jonah28]

I'm 15, and ever since my best friend went to 3rd with a girl, I've felt irrationally angry about the situation. It hasn't really effected our relationship that much as I don't show it to him and I try not to bring it up that much, so I'd thought I'd got completely over it.

Recently though, he told me that he'd gone to 3rd with 4 other girls, and once again it made me feel very angry. I feel pretty bad because there's no reason why it should do, and I should be happy for him as we are really close.

Thanks

By the way, this post probably makes me sound a bit bad, but I just want to find out the issue so I can get over it as I don't want it to effect our really close friendship aha.

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Family and Friends.

[hero98]

Sounds like youre simply jealous.

[jonah28]

Thanks
That might be it I guess but it just feels so different to any other jealousy I've felt before.

[CrazyPerson101]

I'm 15, and ever since my best friend went to 3rd with a girl, I've felt irrationally angry about the situation. It hasn't really effected our relationship that much as I don't show it to him and I try not to bring it up that much, so I'd thought I'd got completely over it.

Recently though, he told me that he'd gone to 3rd with 4 other girls, and once again it made me feel very angry. I feel pretty bad because there's no reason why it should do, and I should be happy for him as we are really close.

Thanks

By the way, this post probably makes me sound a bit bad, but I just want to find out the issue so I can get over it as I don't want it to effect our really close friendship aha.


It sounds like your jelous and do you like him anymore than jsut friends , I had the biggest crush on a guy named Dale ( 3 years ago I was 12 he was 15 ) and when he got a girlfriend I wanted to find her and snap her head off and I was angry so I was all tense and the smallest thing could set me off

[Bull]

Are you wishing you were the object of his sexuality? Why do you think he is telling you about his sex life.? This could be you with a crush, or real jealousy that he has not had any sex play with you, or that after experimenting he has moved on. Just difficult to respond without more information. Message me if you want to discuss this more.

[CosmicNoodle]

I felt a little angry when my best friend started getting a sex life, but after a while I just stopped caring. In time im sure you will too

[jonah28]

No, I don't really feel like I want to be sexual with him. It's fairly normal for him to tell me about his sex life as we're best friends (partly what I found most annoying was that he hadn't told me about it before).

We have experimented before, but I don't feel like I really want it to be that way, and I'm straight. To be honest, I think it is probably jealousy, as I guess I'm feeling left out a bit after we were always kinda equal.

I'm more wondering now how to get over this so he doesn't think I'm a dick haha

[JTriot09]

whats 3rd? you mentioned it twice.

[jonah28]

whats 3rd? you mentioned it twice.


It means he got a blowjob

[Body odah Man]

I'm 15, and ever since my best friend went to 3rd with a girl, I've felt irrationally angry about the situation. It hasn't really effected our relationship that much as I don't show it to him and I try not to bring it up that much, so I'd thought I'd got completely over it.

Recently though, he told me that he'd gone to 3rd with 4 other girls, and once again it made me feel very angry. I feel pretty bad because there's no reason why it should do, and I should be happy for him as we are really close.

Thanks

By the way, this post probably makes me sound a bit bad, but I just want to find out the issue so I can get over it as I don't want it to effect our really close friendship aha.

Jealousy maybe? Latent love for your friend?

[Apassionato]

You're just a bit jealous, it's perfectly normal.
We're always being told that having sex "turns you into a man" and is the "gate into adulthood" - so when a friend has it before you, not just once but multiple times, it makes sense that you would be a bit jealous of him. If the world keeps telling you how great something is and then a friend gets it multiple times before you, of course you're going to be jealous!
:)

[jonah28]

You're just a bit jealous, it's perfectly normal.
We're always being told that having sex "turns you into a man" and is the "gate into adulthood" - so when a friend has it before you, not just once but multiple times, it makes sense that you would be a bit jealous of him. If the world keeps telling you how great something is and then a friend gets it multiple times before you, of course you're going to be jealous!
:)

Thanks
I think your right and that I was just being stupid to be honest!
That's helped a lot :)

[JTriot09]

who says sex turns you into a man? That is possibly one of the stupidest things i have ever heard.

[plebble]

I know how you feel. Try not to be mad, just let it go, it's his personal life and not yours, so sorry there's nothing you should do.

[Babiole]

If it's bothering you, then maybe you should avoid him. My brother Vincent lost one of his best friends because he was jealous of another guy's sex life. If you feel like you can't accept your friend's sex life, then stop talking to him.

However, if you do want to keep your friendship, confront him about it and maybe he'll stop talking about his sex life around you.