Undesirable

[BornActor]

A friend of mine was hooking up with a lot of guys he was meeting through dating apps. He never like asked why I don't like hook ups, but he was judging himself, so I told him that I would do the same thing if I didn't want a real relationship, didn't want to put myself at risk for any STI's,, and didn't hate dating apps so much. Those are all part of the reason, but I neglected to tell him the truth: I don't think I'm good looking enough for anyone to want to hook up with me. I have acne on my back, chest, and face. I am overweight by 50-70 lbs. I am brown-skinned. And only one girl's ever told me that she likes me in my entire life. I just don't think I'm ready to be actively rejected by people of the same gender or different gender than me. I think he found the reasons I gave him to be somewhat judgmental, but ultimately understands the intent not to be. I would tell him the real reason, but he's a skinny white guy with no acne anywhere. It's really hard for me to fess up and tell him how undesirable I feel. And the truth is, I would probably be hooking up with people if a bunch of attractive people messaged me.

[Living For Love]

Everyone needs to feel that someone likes them, it's a natural thing, and I understand how you feel. If you only want to hook up, then it's your decision, but if you want a real relationship, then you should wait for the right person to come into your life. Acne is not something that will last forever, and being a bit overweight or brown-skinned are not something all people might find unattractive. Don't be so hard on yourself, you will find the right person for you, according to what you really feel.

[Dalcourt]

Well, in a real relationship looks don't matter that much...if you love you do it for more than good looks...it's different if you just do hook ups that's right, here people are more superficial...so if you are not comfortable just don't do it...
And well, if you are uncomfortable with your looks you can always work on it, right...I mean loose a few lbs. and acne can be treated, too...and your skin color...I'm sure a lot of people out there find it attractive ya know...
I'm sure you are desireable, too...so don't give up, just have a lil bit more self confidence and you'll see it will work for you, too.
Oh, and I tell ya something...even attractive guys get rejected, so that happens to everyone...