Friends...

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I have virtually ZERO friends here. I have on close guy friend I havg out with, and a few girls at lunch, who frankly are freaks.. I just can't seem to make friends, I just dont get it! I guess I dont have time, or something... I try, it just doesnt happen... Help would be appreciated

[theOperaGhost]

I don't know. I have the same problem. I would also appreciate the help and advice. I only talk to people at school and even there I don't really have any good friends.

[Gumleaf]

well at the school i go to, we have about 45 people in yr 9 (my yr). we are split into groups of friends. my group of friends is the largest and the reason we are friends is because we have similar interests. we all love our sport and we play football in the winter and cricket in the summer and do other things too. the reason why this works so well for me and my other friends is because we have similar interests and we have things to talk about. so maybe what you guys could do is to try and find people who might have some personal interests that you share. thats a good basis to start a friendship. then as you get to know eachother then you may develop a better friendship and with similar interests, you will always have something to talk about. hope that makes sense, good luck guys.

[blondboy716]

cuz u keep locking ppls threads......................... sorry. ;) u did that last one on just to spite me! lol

[Maverick]

cuz u keep locking ppls threads......................... sorry. ;) u did that last one on just to spite me! lol
Stay on topic.

[Gavin]

How about joining a school activity club or something like that,so you can meet new people,and socialize with them.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Well, the clubs and activities are great ideas, and I am already a member of the debate club, and made a few acquantences there. Im not really into any sports, which may be part of the problem, since sports play a big part in our school. But sports require a lot of time, good grades, and hard work. Im fine on grades, but there are better things Id rather spend my time on. I just don't know...

[RaisingSand]

It's not the quanitity of friends Yuri, it's the quality. ;) And from what you've said, it sounds like you already have a few select people. As long as you have some friends, does it really matter? I went all through primary school with only about three close friends (drawback of being a "geeky" overachiever >.>) ... and now that I've left and am being homeschooled, I have kept only 3 out of my highschool group of friends (we used to be a group of about 15).
You're in high school, right? So what does it really matter if you don't have loads of friends? At least you have a close, select few. Better than being that kid who sits alone in the library to eat lunch every day of the year.
And you said the girls you sit with are socially "freaks"? Who cares, that's all just trivial high school stuff, and once you've left, you realise none of that stuff matters anymore. All the "cool" kids from high school all end up working at daddy's businesses or pumping gas at the local service station (in my experience).
I will repeat, as long as you have some close friends, it doesn't really matter. And I do not say this lightly. Having Aspergers Syndrome, I have a really hard time making friends and getting to know people, too. And it took me ages to realise what I've just told you. You don't need a whole lot of friends to be happy, and quite frankly, if you're in a really big group of friends, you don't have time for 1 on 1 with any of them to build up a really close, genuine friendship that would really last.
Sounds like you're already doing all the appropriate activities etc that would place in a social sitiuation, so you don't leave me much to suggest.
Maybe when you're out in said situations, sit next to a new person, try to initiate conversation etc, and just see how things go. :)
I'm out of words. >.< XD

[robbiehay1]

i agree i mean i only have a couple of friends but they are really good friends which i know would stick with me through thick and thin

Quality is defo better than quantity

[RaisingSand]

Exactly. :)

[The Batman]

does your school have a pep squad because that would be a great way to get involved with sports when you want to and you could make friends on the long bus trips out of town

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I dont think so... :/

[A.J.]

Well the kids you do sit with even if they seem like freaks, they are your friends. Try and get to know em better and they probably seem more normal

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Ive known them for a very long time, trust me, they are the freakiest of the freaks...

[RaisingSand]

Oh for God's sake, Yuri, stop being so judgemental, it could be worse, you could have no friends at all.
And I am actually offended by the word "freak", and I really don't reckon your so called "friends" would appreciate knowing you are calling them that behind their backs. Show some respect, would you.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

You have no idea who my friends are and how they talk about themselves. They call themselves freaks, so i do the same

[Malcolm Tucker]

Oh for God's sake, Yuri, stop being so judgemental, it could be worse, you could have no friends at all.
And I am actually offended by the word "freak", and I really don't reckon your so called "friends" would appreciate knowing you are calling them that behind their backs. Show some respect, would you.

Lauren there is no need for that kind of response. Please don't do it again.

[RaisingSand]

Sorry, I know that was rather uncalled for, but where I come from, calling someone a freak is extremely offensive.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I is here too, but they take it as a badge of pride... :S

[Gumleaf]

okies, please calm down peoples, we don't want a fight breaking out.