My transgender friend (F to M) suffers from Body Dysphoria....need some help!

[Obiean]

My friend, his alias will be Anthony, is transgender. And he's been so for a good three or so years. Recently, he's been suffering from dysphoria, obviously different than Dysmorphic Disorder. He's told me he just feels like hurting himself and sometimes to the point of killing himself. He also has said that he just hates the way he sounds, looks and feels and also suffers from low self-esteem. He feels this way at least a few times a day. I'm really trying to help him as much as I can but I'm not really sure how, is there anyway I can help him perhaps by banishing these thoughts somehow? Or another way? I'm really trying to help...

[Karkat]

Honestly? -And your friend isn't gonna like this- you have to come to terms with who you are. If they're transitioning, it's fine to dislike their current state a bit, totally understandable, but if not, they're going to have to come to terms with their body. And it's a lifelong struggle if you don't transition. If they are transitioning, in the meantime, reinforce your support of their transformation, remember to use the proper pronoun, maybe even compliment their masculinity at times if you feel it's appropriate and you're sincere. (Don't force yourself to compliment them if you're not genuine, that doesn't help anybody.)

But yeah, in the end? You have to come to terms with it somehow. If you're there for them? Let them know. Try to remain positive around them, and listen when they need to talk. If things get bad, you might want to recommend going to a therapist that specializes in this- though I wouldn't know how to go about that. My gender dysphoria is pretty mild, and I'm never going to transition, nor am I transgender.

Best of luck. :) To both you and your friend.

[Obiean]

Honestly? -And your friend isn't gonna like this- you have to come to terms with who you are. If they're transitioning, it's fine to dislike their current state a bit, totally understandable, but if not, they're going to have to come to terms with their body. And it's a lifelong struggle if you don't transition. If they are transitioning, in the meantime, reinforce your support of their transformation, remember to use the proper pronoun, maybe even compliment their masculinity at times if you feel it's appropriate and you're sincere. (Don't force yourself to compliment them if you're not genuine, that doesn't help anybody.) .

He's been transgender for a few years so I've always called him the right pronoun and do compliment his masculinity sometimes. But he doesn't think he's transitioning in the future so yeah...
He does need to come to terms with himself, but I just don't know how to accomplish that.

[Abyssal Echo]

I don't really know that you can do more for him then you already are.
Continue to be there and support him. I wish you and your friend the best. I hope it works out for him.

[Karkat]

He's been transgender for a few years so I've always called him the right pronoun and do compliment his masculinity sometimes. But he doesn't think he's transitioning in the future so yeah...
He does need to come to terms with himself, but I just don't know how to accomplish that.

That's tough. Therapy might be the best option, but once again, I don't know a whole lot about how to go about that- as some therapists still treat being transgender as a mental illness...

[Passenger]

Hi

Having suffered gender identity 'issues' and a lot of gender dysphoria myself in the past I know who depressing it can be. The best thing you can do is be there for him, call him Anthony and the correct pronouns plus stick up for him if anyone says or does anything mean.

As for 'treating' the dysphoria you can suggest ways he can be more masculine such as clothes, haircuts etc. and if he isnt alredy, a bimder bra will be good to give a flat-chestwped look. Also, with regards to his voice if he was to masculinise it then there's many resources online like YouTube tutorials and websites which offer advice and techniques to do this however it down take a long time (a year approx) and lots of patience! If he wants to you can recommend going to see a therapists because, even if he doesn't want to transition, then they'll be able to suggest ways he can live in a nd express his preferred gender role plus if he does want to transition then that's the best way to do it and the next step would be hormone replacement treatment (HRT) which will bring about body changes like more muscle definition, a deeper voice, and periods will also stop.

Finally if he isn't already then he could come out to his parents as for me that was a huge relief

Hope this help :)