shyness and sadness

[Lovelife090994]

I'm extremely shy, and apparently shyness isn't good if you're someone in my area. I have always been shy for as long as I can remember. I am a friendly person who takes a while to warm to new people so in the meantime I'm usually trying to get to know the person. My shynesss often keeps me from talking to people. I like learning new things but socially I'm a little awkward and sensitive.

I usually am antisocial even which had brought unapproval from family members, old friends, and even people who just met me but know I'm shy. I can't help it and maybe have it worse by being male, shy, timid, confused, and oddly lonely. I hate it when someone says that since I'm a boy I shouldn't be shy and timid but I am and I hate it when people including family try and change me. I have a habit of helping others whilst ignoring my woes. I guess I'm not my biggest fan.

If I could I wouldn't be so shy and quiet but I am. Growing up it was just me and my mom. I had no friends so I often never spoke. Whenever I would speak it was always when my mom and I had company. Naturally, I would want to comment but I interrupted; a lot and was often punished for it. Over the years my mom and I drifted a bit. We rarely talk and I try to stay in my place and keep my confusing emotions and sexuality to myself. I grew up always as the loner and weird artist. I always had God as a friend because I loved him and unlike students he never would hurt me. From my life my shyness kind of grew. I just am not a real confident or outgoing person at all and like I said that didn't set well for many.

I wish things could be different. I have a home, a loving mother, and a dog. But given how tough money is I don't have a car yet I will be in college soon (kinda scary but I can do it). I shouldn't feel sad and alone but I guess it's normal considering how now at 19 and at home alone while my mother teaches students I should be lonely. I don't get how I can be lonely and shy but I am. It's very easy to tell I'm an only child with no one to talk to because I often talk a lot when I can. Hmm, I am not sure where to continue this so I'll leave it here.

Thanks for reading this. I just felt like writing out my busy mind. Insomnia will make you think... Shyness, isn't always bad for a guy right?

[Hudor]

I'm extremely shy, and apparently shyness isn't good if you're someone in my area. I have always been shy for as long as I can remember. I am a friendly person who takes a while to warm to new people so in the meantime I'm usually trying to get to know the person. My shynesss often keeps me from talking to people. I like learning new things but socially I'm a little awkward and sensitive.

I usually am antisocial even which had brought unapproval from family members, old friends, and even people who just met me but know I'm shy. I can't help it and maybe have it worse by being male, shy, timid, confused, and oddly lonely. I hate it when someone says that since I'm a boy I shouldn't be shy and timid but I am and I hate it when people including family try and change me. I have a habit of helping others whilst ignoring my woes. I guess I'm not my biggest fan.

If I could I wouldn't be so shy and quiet but I am. Growing up it was just me and my mom. I had no friends so I often never spoke. Whenever I would speak it was always when my mom and I had company. Naturally, I would want to comment but I interrupted; a lot and was often punished for it. Over the years my mom and I drifted a bit. We rarely talk and I try to stay in my place and keep my confusing emotions and sexuality to myself. I grew up always as the loner and weird artist. I always had God as a friend because I loved him and unlike students he never would hurt me. From my life my shyness kind of grew. I just am not a real confident or outgoing person at all and like I said that didn't set well for many.

I wish things could be different. I have a home, a loving mother, and a dog. But given how tough money is I don't have a car yet I will be in college soon (kinda scary but I can do it). I shouldn't feel sad and alone but I guess it's normal considering how now at 19 and at home alone while my mother teaches students I should be lonely. I don't get how I can be lonely and shy but I am. It's very easy to tell I'm an only child with no one to talk to because I often talk a lot when I can. Hmm, I am not sure where to continue this so I'll leave it here.

Thanks for reading this. I just felt like writing out my busy mind. Insomnia will make you think... Shyness, isn't always bad for a guy right?

I'm quite shy myself but I'll try to put it straight. Shyness as I found it has been more often than not disadvantageous for me. I've lost out on opportunities where I feel I could've excelled had I taken the plunge. So lately I've been trying to evolve myself and let go of the shyness which binds me so often.
I don't bond too quickly with too many people and have only a few good friends. I also find it hard to mix with a lot of people though I'm quite friendly. Whenever I think about meeting new people, talking with them and being sociable in general I feel various inhibitions building up inside me like should I do this? Do I need to? What will they say? What if no one talks to me, what if I'm ignored? What if I say something wrong? What will they think of me? and it goes on and on. Usually they make me feel me so sick that I decide to rather stick to the corner. Although its a completely different case if someone else comes up to talk to me. I'm usually quit talkative and amiable then. I've never been punished for voicing my opinion though but I've come close sometimes.

Lately I've begun to try and take the plunge, to forget my inhibitions and talk to people, introduce myself, broach a topic and socialise a bit. It makes me feel sick but nevertheless afterwards I feel much, much better.

I don't like marketing myself much and I prefer to rather work quietly and let my work speak for itself. But that hardly ever happens. I'm still working on how to fix this but it's hard and i simply don't feel like fixing it.

Finally, shyness has been bad for me often but it's hard enough for me to overcome it so I wouldn't suggest anyone to grow extrovert or outgoing. It is a part of my personality and though i can't quash it i'm trying to lessen it and grow a bit more extrovert so that i wouldn't leave out on every opportunity that presents itself. Hope this helps :)

[Lovelife090994]

I'm quite shy myself but I'll try to put it straight. Shyness as I found it has been more often than not disadvantageous for me. I've lost out on opportunities where I feel I could've excelled had I taken the plunge. So lately I've been trying to evolve myself and let go of the shyness which binds me so often.
I don't bond too quickly with too many people and have only a few good friends. I also find it hard to mix with a lot of people though I'm quite friendly. Whenever I think about meeting new people, talking with them and being sociable in general I feel various inhibitions building up inside me like should I do this? Do I need to? What will they say? What if no one talks to me, what if I'm ignored? What if I say something wrong? What will they think of me? and it goes on and on. Usually they make me feel me so sick that I decide to rather stick to the corner. Although its a completely different case if someone else comes up to talk to me. I'm usually quit talkative and amiable then. I've never been punished for voicing my opinion though but I've come close sometimes.

Lately I've begun to try and take the plunge, to forget my inhibitions and talk to people, introduce myself, broach a topic and socialise a bit. It makes me feel sick but nevertheless afterwards I feel much, much better.

I don't like marketing myself much and I prefer to rather work quietly and let my work speak for itself. But that hardly ever happens. I'm still working on how to fix this but it's hard and i simply don't feel like fixing it.

Finally, shyness has been bad for me often but it's hard enough for me to overcome it so I wouldn't suggest anyone to grow extrovert or outgoing. It is a part of my personality and though i can't quash it i'm trying to lessen it and grow a bit more extrovert so that i wouldn't leave out on every opportunity that presents itself. Hope this helps :)

I am the same way to new people. I get almost sick at the feeling and rarely feel better afterwards. I can work with others I; I just have difficulty socializing. I've tried extroverting myself and it failed miserably.

[ksdnfkfr]

you know most people would probably rather have someone shy, quiet and remote rather than someone who's loud, obnoxious and in your face. my grandpa has a friend who tends to keep to himself and doesn't talk much, but he's friendly, he'll smile and wave to you as you're walking towards him. my grandpa says most everyone admires the hell outta that guy because of the fact he's so quiet and laid back. it's like he puts off vibes of someone very wise and peaceful.

[Jack982]

I'm extremely shy, and apparently shyness isn't good if you're someone in my area. I have always been shy for as long as I can remember. I am a friendly person who takes a while to warm to new people so in the meantime I'm usually trying to get to know the person. My shynesss often keeps me from talking to people. I like learning new things but socially I'm a little awkward and sensitive.

I usually am antisocial even which had brought unapproval from family members, old friends, and even people who just met me but know I'm shy. I can't help it and maybe have it worse by being male, shy, timid, confused, and oddly lonely. I hate it when someone says that since I'm a boy I shouldn't be shy and timid but I am and I hate it when people including family try and change me. I have a habit of helping others whilst ignoring my woes. I guess I'm not my biggest fan.

If I could I wouldn't be so shy and quiet but I am. Growing up it was just me and my mom. I had no friends so I often never spoke. Whenever I would speak it was always when my mom and I had company. Naturally, I would want to comment but I interrupted; a lot and was often punished for it. Over the years my mom and I drifted a bit. We rarely talk and I try to stay in my place and keep my confusing emotions and sexuality to myself. I grew up always as the loner and weird artist. I always had God as a friend because I loved him and unlike students he never would hurt me. From my life my shyness kind of grew. I just am not a real confident or outgoing person at all and like I said that didn't set well for many.

I wish things could be different. I have a home, a loving mother, and a dog. But given how tough money is I don't have a car yet I will be in college soon (kinda scary but I can do it). I shouldn't feel sad and alone but I guess it's normal considering how now at 19 and at home alone while my mother teaches students I should be lonely. I don't get how I can be lonely and shy but I am. It's very easy to tell I'm an only child with no one to talk to because I often talk a lot when I can. Hmm, I am not sure where to continue this so I'll leave it here.

Thanks for reading this. I just felt like writing out my busy mind. Insomnia will make you think... Shyness, isn't always bad for a guy right?
I've always been shy too man, it's alright. I've notice that the person who doesn't talk much, gets listened to more when he does talk, than the guy who's always talking.

[Lovelife090994]

I've always been shy too man, it's alright. I've notice that the person who doesn't talk much, gets listened to more when he does talk, than the guy who's always talking.

That's true because when we do talk it is something important or something we want to break out of our shell to say.

[gothy]

im the same way!

[Lovelife090994]

im the same way!

Any way to get over it?

[gothy]

Sorry, i have no solution. what i do if im feelin confident is just go head first and just say hi and start a conversation. Do it without thinking. just take a deep breath and start a conversation. or just compliment the person on something. i mean i still have problems with this but i find that diving right into it without thinking is kind of like pulling a band aid off really quick.

[CrazyPerson101]

I'm extremely shy, and apparently shyness isn't good if you're someone in my area. I have always been shy for as long as I can remember. I am a friendly person who takes a while to warm to new people so in the meantime I'm usually trying to get to know the person. My shynesss often keeps me from talking to people. I like learning new things but socially I'm a little awkward and sensitive.

I usually am antisocial even which had brought unapproval from family members, old friends, and even people who just met me but know I'm shy. I can't help it and maybe have it worse by being male, shy, timid, confused, and oddly lonely. I hate it when someone says that since I'm a boy I shouldn't be shy and timid but I am and I hate it when people including family try and change me. I have a habit of helping others whilst ignoring my woes. I guess I'm not my biggest fan.

If I could I wouldn't be so shy and quiet but I am. Growing up it was just me and my mom. I had no friends so I often never spoke. Whenever I would speak it was always when my mom and I had company. Naturally, I would want to comment but I interrupted; a lot and was often punished for it. Over the years my mom and I drifted a bit. We rarely talk and I try to stay in my place and keep my confusing emotions and sexuality to myself. I grew up always as the loner and weird artist. I always had God as a friend because I loved him and unlike students he never would hurt me. From my life my shyness kind of grew. I just am not a real confident or outgoing person at all and like I said that didn't set well for many.

I wish things could be different. I have a home, a loving mother, and a dog. But given how tough money is I don't have a car yet I will be in college soon (kinda scary but I can do it). I shouldn't feel sad and alone but I guess it's normal considering how now at 19 and at home alone while my mother teaches students I should be lonely. I don't get how I can be lonely and shy but I am. It's very easy to tell I'm an only child with no one to talk to because I often talk a lot when I can. Hmm, I am not sure where to continue this so I'll leave it here.

Thanks for reading this. I just felt like writing out my busy mind. Insomnia will make you think... Shyness, isn't always bad for a guy right?


No , Im shy too. I can't talk to anyone thats my age in person. I can go up to a adult or a baby but I can't talk to other teens. I think its completly normal

[flappybird]

Same here. It's normal to be quiet and peaceful but shyness is something else. The main factor that holds me back is the fact that everyone knows me to be a shy person, so if I turn up one day very extroverted that would be weird on my part.