Feeling guilty about ex

[psychedelic]

I broke up with my boyfriend "abruptly" back in February and I still feel guilty about it. He was a great guy and looking back I kinda miss him. I wish I kept the relationship going longer. After I broke up with him he never texted or contacted me after that so I thought he was mad and never wanted anything to do with me. I would completely understand and would feel the same way.

His mom and my mom are really close friends, like sisters, and through their talking my mom told me he was really sad and I was his first love..I had no clue, he didn't talk about that much. Also last week his mom told mine that he still wasn't over me and missed me especially since prom was coming up. I really wish I could make things right with him, but I know there's no going back...Still I think maybe I should text him a friendly "hello, how's it going?" or something about music..I'm just feeling really guilty and wondering if I made the right decision...Sorry this is long, can anyone help please?

[Horatio Nelson]

Well, if he was so nice and great, why did you break up with him? Maybe if you elaborated on the situation more it would make more sense. Because, with the given information it makes you look like the bad guy. (No offense)

[Cognizant]

Well, it would help to know your reasoning as to why you broke things off.

But if you really don't want to be with him again, you *could* continue to ignore him. It would make you a bit of a dick imo, but your feelings are what come first. You're by no means required to talk to him.

[psychedelic]

Well, if he was so nice and great, why did you break up with him? Maybe if you elaborated on the situation more it would make more sense. Because, with the given information it makes you look like the bad guy. (No offense)

Well, it would help to know your reasoning as to why you broke things off.

But if you really don't want to be with him again, you *could* continue to ignore him. It would make you a bit of a dick imo, but your feelings are what come first. You're by no means required to talk to him.

No offense taken, I do feel like the bad guy..I felt pressured by my family and at the time wasn't really ready for a relationship. Sounds pretty pathetic, but didn't feel like I deserved him so I decided to distant myself. I don't ignore him, he hasn't talked to me since. My mom has shown texts of what his mom was saying about him. I want to talk to him, but I don't know if it would be appropriate especially since it's been months. It would seem strange..but also I want to help him move on maybe tell him it's okay and I'm sorry for what I did..I don't know.

[Horatio Nelson]

No offense taken, I do feel like the bad guy..I felt pressured by my family and at the time wasn't really ready for a relationship. Sounds pretty pathetic, but didn't feel like I deserved him so I decided to distant myself. I don't ignore him, he hasn't talked to me since. My mom has shown texts of what his mom was saying about him. I want to talk to him, but I don't know if it would be appropriate especially since it's been months. It would seem strange..but also I want to help him move on maybe tell him it's okay and I'm sorry for what I did..I don't know.

Ah, that makes way more sense.

If it wasn't you that decided to end the relationship. I would definitely try to talk to him again. I would imagine he still likes you and is sad about the whole thing. A nice text or two couldn't hurt right?

[Typhlosion]

See if he wants to re-work the relationship yet. If in a grey area, try using the prom as a test for both of you or something.

[mrpieface2]

I broke up with my boyfriend "abruptly" back in February and I still feel guilty about it. He was a great guy and looking back I kinda miss him. I wish I kept the relationship going longer. After I broke up with him he never texted or contacted me after that so I thought he was mad and never wanted anything to do with me. I would completely understand and would feel the same way.

His mom and my mom are really close friends, like sisters, and through their talking my mom told me he was really sad and I was his first love..I had no clue, he didn't talk about that much. Also last week his mom told mine that he still wasn't over me and missed me especially since prom was coming up. I really wish I could make things right with him, but I know there's no going back...Still I think maybe I should text him a friendly "hello, how's it going?" or something about music..I'm just feeling really guilty and wondering if I made the right decision...Sorry this is long, can anyone help please?

Why did you break up with him? If he was a nice guy, I don't understand why you broke up with him.

[Body odah Man]

I broke up with my boyfriend "abruptly" back in February and I still feel guilty about it. He was a great guy and looking back I kinda miss him. I wish I kept the relationship going longer. After I broke up with him he never texted or contacted me after that so I thought he was mad and never wanted anything to do with me. I would completely understand and would feel the same way.

His mom and my mom are really close friends, like sisters, and through their talking my mom told me he was really sad and I was his first love..I had no clue, he didn't talk about that much. Also last week his mom told mine that he still wasn't over me and missed me especially since prom was coming up. I really wish I could make things right with him, but I know there's no going back...Still I think maybe I should text him a friendly "hello, how's it going?" or something about music..I'm just feeling really guilty and wondering if I made the right decision...Sorry this is long, can anyone help please?

Maybe I'm being overly optimistic here, but couldn't you get back together with the boy? You initiated the break up after all and many relationships are on and off.

[bob97]

Just because you broke up that doesn't mean there's no going back. As long as it wasn't a nasty breakup it would be fine. And he still loves you and you obviously still like him wo you should go for it. Dont have any regrets about it. It can't hurt to try again if he's a great guy.