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Aceso
May 22nd, 2014, 12:35 PM
Where do I start?
Today is my 17th birthday. I'm in the middle of exams. And my life is coming apart at the seams.

I've been struggling for a long time now. A long, long time. And things had been okay, until this point. And I've been desperately trying to hold it all together, but there's always one thing or another. And now I think it's time to admit I'm not okay. I've probably left it a bit late, things haven't been okay for months, but I've been very scared about what I do when I finally admit it.

A few months ago my stepmother, who I have become very close with, was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I'm not sure why, but this seemed to trigger off extreme bouts of anxiety or panic attacks, which now happen fairly regularly over anything and everything that worries me. It has frequently been severe enough to make me involuntary vomit, and causes periods of depersonalization or disassociation. The anxiety is always residual, regardless of what I'm doing it's always in the pit of my stomach and I am always unsettled. I feel like I lose days or nights at a time where I cannot sleep or function properly.
As I mentioned before, I am in the middle of my exam period, and for the first time in my life I believe I have achieved poorly. I am not good at much, so my academic achievement has always been the sole most important thing to me as it is all that keeps me going at times. It honestly means the world to me and I understand I can retake, but next year I worry I will be overloaded if I do. And now I've done a few poorly, it has only exponentially increased the anxiety but I've relapsed to old coping methods too.
The purging has gotten bad, really bad. It's a daily occurrence now, that or chewing and spitting, over and over. It's affected me mentally, socially and physically. I've lost friends over it, and It controls me; I feel out of my depth. It's severely affected my diabetic control now, I am constantly rising and crashing. My vision has also clouded over a few times, which has terrified me to the point at times where I cannot sleep.

I'm just a total wreck. I need to pull something together, but I have no idea what. My main concern is my exams, I know if I could relax about that, the anxiety and the eating disorder would calm too. But I'm scared it's too late, so I have no idea what to do.
I'm sorry for ranting, I'm just really scared right now, and I don't know how to talk to anyone who cares for me about this. I don't even know how to make it better, my head just never stops and I'm exhausted, and I'm not sure I can fight anymore.

CosmicNoodle
May 22nd, 2014, 12:45 PM
First thing is just calm down, shit advice I know. It sounds like you suffer from some form of anxiety disorder, as do I, and its not that bad. They are easy to treat with medication. Do you often feel depressed or have suicidal thoughts at all?

First thing you should do is go to a doctor asap, that way you may be able to get put on medication for your anxiety, or have some sort of therapy to help coap with it better and have some leaway put down for your exams since you are suffering from some distress that is effecting your performance.
Most if all don't forget to talk to people. Friends and family. Don't always worry about others, take some time to let others know how you feel so they can support you.

Good luck Aceso :)

Living For Love
May 22nd, 2014, 01:39 PM
First of all, happy birthday. :) I know how hard it is to cope with health issues of people to whom we are very close to, but I think right know you have to try to find something that motivates you, for instance, your exams. Try to focus your mind on them now, it will help you not to worry too much about other stuff. Plus, you have a great future ahead of you, I'm sure you'll do fine if you concentrate yourself on what really matters to you.

CosmicNoodle
May 22nd, 2014, 02:30 PM
I can't believe I forgot that, Happy Birthday!!!!!
Manny happy returns of the day!

Microcosm
May 28th, 2014, 02:04 AM
First, I want you to take a deep breath and relax. Think about what you could do to change your anxiety. I mean really relax and meditate on it a little. Realize that it isn't as bad as it seems and that you can come back from this.

Good luck, my friend. Hope I helped.