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Dark_Desires
May 22nd, 2014, 11:47 AM
I'm hoping someone else can relate to this cause it really bothers me and i just need to get it out.

I really hate been Male i hate everything about me i don't feel like me when i look in the mirror.
Sometimes i feel like a girl inside a guys body then other times a Guy.
It constantly seems to be in the back of my head or Bother me sometimes i really wish i had No Gender as strange as it sounds.

Can anyone Relate to this or feels similar?

CosmicNoodle
May 22nd, 2014, 12:08 PM
I'm hoping someone else can relate to this cause it really bothers me and i just need to get it out.

I really hate been Male i hate everything about me i don't feel like me when i look in the mirror.
Sometimes i feel like a girl inside a guys body then other times a Guy.
It constantly seems to be in the back of my head or Bother me sometimes i really wish i had No Gender as strange as it sounds.

Can anyone Relate to this or feels similar?

I used to feel like that a lot, eventually I managed to sort my head out. It took a while but in the end I managed to just be glad I was a male.

I'm sure you will figure it out in time.

Babs
May 22nd, 2014, 12:54 PM
I can't say I can relate to this as I have never been uncomfortable being a girl.
Perhaps you're agender? Remember that your sex and your gender are very different. your sex is biological and your gender is psychological. You may have male genitalia but that doesn't necessarily make you a boy. I suggest you look into gender identities. To me it sounds like you're agender (meaning you are genderless) but I can't really speak for you. Do some research. The experience could be very rewarding or you.

BornActor
May 22nd, 2014, 02:57 PM
I'm hoping someone else can relate to this cause it really bothers me and i just need to get it out.

I really hate been Male i hate everything about me i don't feel like me when i look in the mirror.
Sometimes i feel like a girl inside a guys body then other times a Guy.
It constantly seems to be in the back of my head or Bother me sometimes i really wish i had No Gender as strange as it sounds.

Can anyone Relate to this or feels similar?

Gender theorists tend to understand gender on a spectrum. If people identify with the sex they were assigned at birth, then they're cisgender. Otherwise, a person might be trans and not identify on the Western gender binary. I suggest looking up non-binary gender identities. There are tons of different gender identities that could feel right to you, and you have plenty of time to explore. In addition, many trans people choose to change their pronouns. I know friends that use ze (instead of he/she) and hir (pronounced "here", instead of his/her) and others that use a singular they/them/their pronoun. Find out what feels right to you identify with the trans community. Facebook just recently added a listing of over 50 gender identities, and there are great resources on Tumblr. Feel free to private message me. I am a cisgender male, so I'm probably not as much help as trans people might be.

Passenger
May 24th, 2014, 02:21 AM
I can relate to what you're saying. For me I've had gender identity 'issues' for ages and I know I'm transgender as I definitely don't want to identify as male. I think I'm gender fluid, my gender 'feeling' change over time, sometimes I feel I'm a girl, a boy, both (neutral) or none.
Most of the time it is none which is why I identify as an "agender gender fluid asexual hetroromantic Buddhist" (that last one isn't a gender or sexuality btw!).

I think you should just start thinking how best you think you can identify and express your gender. Maybe try experimenting if you can and do some research. These links should help:

http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/
http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Transhealth/Pages/Transyoungpeople.aspx
http://transwhat.org/
https://www.genderspectrum.org/understanding-gender

You say you're "wishing" you had no gender. You don't need a gender. The fact you're even thinking about this suggests you're probably under the Trans* umbrella somewhere given you've been thinking about this for a long time however if you've only been questioning for a few months it might only be a phase.

But there is nothing wrong with being trans*, it's not a mental illness or disorder, if you feel you're agender or gender fluid that's fine. If you wish you can voice your concerns with your doctor and possibly see a therapist who will help you uncover how you identify.

Hope this helps, M
PM me if you want more info :)