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AJRam317
May 21st, 2014, 08:01 PM
I am 14, but when I first met this girl (she is a year older) I was in 6th grade. I was immediately attracted to her, but I didn't know what to do about it then. I waited until the end of the year and I had my chance to say something but was too shy and was beat to her by one of my friends. I told her I liked her after she started dating my friend and then I made a mistake by complimenting her and really just bugging her while she had a boyfriend. He told me to stop talking to her over the summer and they eventually broke up around October of my 7th grade year. I had my chance again after waiting until the end of my 7th grade year. I told her that I still liked her and shortly there after we were dating. That lasted a month and that was it with that. She broke up with me and I think that it was because I didn't know how to treat someone and was clingy and annoying her all the time. Anyway, it hurt me for awhile. I didn't mention the fact that she went to my same school from 6th grade until my 8th grade year when she left for another high school. I will get to the point of this just stay with me. Okay, so she just started texting me again frequently in April and I could tell she wanted to give me a second chance. One night, I told her that I didn't think we should date because I play baseball and the practice schedule is really hectic and she is busy with some stuff on other nights. It was just going to be hard to spend time with her. We messed around a little bit and wanted to wait until the summer, but that also wasn't going to work. I am planning on asking her out after this summer but I don't really know how to start up by texting her again or just really what to do in general. I have been trying to learn things about how to treat girls and what I need to do etc., but I am wondering if I even have a shot with her after the summer. I just need advice. Anything would help.

ImagineRepublicCity
May 22nd, 2014, 05:15 AM
You do have a chance, but it can be quite difficult, because if you don't particularly have the commitment, then you probably shouldn't do it. Relationships are great and all, but if you are constantly busy, you'll make her feel left out, but that doesn't mean you yourself should stop everything for her because your career is pretty important.

I really do think it could work though, if you still feel that you want to start dating her again, just start the conversation with something like "Hey, haven't talked to you in so long, how are you going? School's being okay? etc"

I guess if she does mention wanting to date you before you do, then sure, go ahead, but if not, don't just immediately ask her, let it be a slow thing. Like asking her if you want to hang out, ask if she's dating anyone, the lot. I'm sure you'll have a chance. Good luck~

AJRam317
May 22nd, 2014, 05:21 AM
You do have a chance, but it can be quite difficult, because if you don't particularly have the commitment, then you probably shouldn't do it. Relationships are great and all, but if you are constantly busy, you'll make her feel left out, but that doesn't mean you yourself should stop everything for her because your career is pretty important.

I really do think it could work though, if you still feel that you want to start dating her again, just start the conversation with something like "Hey, haven't talked to you in so long, how are you going? School's being okay? etc"

I guess if she does mention wanting to date you before you do, then sure, go ahead, but if not, don't just immediately ask her, let it be a slow thing. Like asking her if you want to hang out, ask if she's dating anyone, the lot. I'm sure you'll have a chance. Good luck~

Thanks. I really appreciate the advice