I'm in a crappy predicament.

[pingo5]

So there was this girl... she's a senior, i'm a junior. we've known each other for ~ 3 years, and i've got a crush on her after 2. i finally asked her on a date, she went akward and avoided the question(she's not someone to straight up say no. if she was going to this is how i expected it to be) so i texted her about it (seems shitty but its easier than a front up question, less akward, more time to think.) and she said she knew she liked me but doesnt feel the same and all that.
it hurts, a lot. and i get it will. but thing is, you don't magically stop having feelings for someone once you're rejected. she's in band and jazz band, and symphony, and i got the same and pretty much am next to her in all but band. so i can't like avoid her. we were great friends. and on top of that, it seems like she is avoiding me. like, she told me she's been having a hard week etc., but she's been talking freely to other people and just seems like she doesn't talk to me as much as we used to. it sucks. she still does, but its kind of quick one thing, usually me who starts convos.
its like tearing me apart.

[bob97]

The same thing is happening to me. I just asked a girl out that I'm really good friends with and she said she couldn't right now and she never talks unless I start the convo. You just have to act normal around her again and hopefully shell change her mind. If not then she wasn't the right girl for you :( sorry dude. Good luck

[Rallo]

Best thing I could suggest is to start by messaging her apologizing if asking had some what weirded her out a little. Follow it up by asking if you could still be close friends with her as you really value your friendship with her and don't want things to be awkward now because of it.

If that all goes well, be there for her for a week or two. Make sure she knows you're there, but don't be too clingy, this can some what creep girls out at times! Just really put an effort in to helping her out with things and being there if she needs someone to talk to, girls like that kind of thing. After a bit, ask if she maybe wants to hang out somewhere sometime (outside of the usual places you see her due to your music), just the two of you. Make sure it's something with a back up plan though; you don't want to end up awkwardly sitting somewhere unsure what to say! Even if it's just going to see a movie or just going to look around shops or something simple, almost anything works. If worse comes to worse and you're not sure what to say, you can practically pick up anything off the shelf in a shop and start a conversation over it... Just careful it'ss not something too weird you pick up if you use that idea! :P
Just do simply things like this to get closer to her, get to know her more. Don't call it a 'date' or anything, just start it off as two friends hanging out together.

[pingo5]

yeah, i told her i didn't want things to be akward, but i mean i usually started the convos but now its kinda just like aknowledgment that i said something rather than actually talking. its driving me insane.
i mean, if she changes her mind thats great but i just wan't things to be the way they were.
and yeah, she already said she isn't into me which is kind of a downer. she said she was akward about my invite because she doesn't want to make it akward if we go somewhere because she knew i liked her but she didn't feel the same way. so, not anything just us would probably be a good course of action. not like it helps, shes graduating in like 10 days and then she goes to college and i never see her again :(