I really need your help with this boy

[Haydenn3]

Hello all I've recently come back from a holiday trip with my friends family while there I bounded very well with my friends 14 year old step brother my friend wouldn't stop going on about how he believes his brother was flirting with me I'm a 17 year old boy and I'm not gay I consider myself Bi or Bi curious I loved spending time with him I've never felt feelings like I did and happiness while spending time alone with this boy however when I talked to him about his current girlfriend he showed me he loved her very much and this confused me very much but I could see that in the 4 days of being with him he trusted me like I had known him for years and I felt the same however I was worried and scared to try to flirt back and see how it goes as I'm not out yet nor do i want to be seen as a pedo or sexual predicted if it didn't go anywhere anyway the holiday soon came to an end and I tried to contact this boy severel times and I've got back yes or no answers mostly and when I asked if he would like to meet he just said no and I asked if he enjoyed my company he said yes I'm very confused and haven't stopped thinking about him for the last week or so it has made me very depressed and annoyed I feel like I'm going to break down and self harm again please help me out here I'm completely stuck P.s I've never met him until the holiday and won't see him again for months unless we arrange to meet but I don't know if I can last without speaking to him or seeing him it was like we had a connection and since the holdiay he has ignored me and i was thinking it could be because he is scared of accepting the feelings like i am and doesnt want to ruin the relationship he is in

[Living For Love]

Honestly, I think it would be better to just forget him and move on. He has a girlfriend, he's probably straight, he doesn't see you as a potential partner, he ha lost interest in you and he's too young. I guess he was just thrilled to have you there and wanted to connect with you, but now that the holiday is over, he has just forgotten it, and you should do the same. I'm sorry, but I guess this is the truth; it was good while it lasted, but it has come to an end. Don't let yourself get depressed and start cutting again just because of this, you deserve better, honestly.

[Haydenn3]

Thanks for the advice but i dont think i can forget about it i havent felt this crap fro ages its made me so confused i really felt like he felt the same :/

[Living For Love]

Thanks for the advice but i dont think i can forget about it i havent felt this crap fro ages its made me so confused i really felt like he felt the same :/
He felt at that moment, he probably doesn't feel that way anymore, due to the distance, or the fact that you don't see each other, or because now he's busy hanging out with someone else, and he also has a girlfriend, don't forget that. I'm not trying to put you down, I'm just trying to make you not feel depressed, sad and with the urge to cut because of something that is not worth it.

[Haydenn3]

He felt at that moment, he probably doesn't feel that way anymore, due to the distance, or the fact that you don't see each other, or because now he's busy hanging out with someone else, and he also has a girlfriend, don't forget that. I'm not trying to put you down, I'm just trying to make you not feel depressed, sad and with the urge to cut because of something that is not worth it.

But what happens when I see him again what he acts like he did? What do I do then because I'll be in this situation again?

[yeahsure]

Here's the thing, all guys flirt, even with other guys, Does it mean they like you sexually? No, it does not.

Clearly, you liked him, and that is why you gave him more attention, which any person likes, even if they do not find you attractive.

Just because someone talks to you a lot, means shit about anything else, other than you were willing to listen. Also, i'm more than sure you would have fuelled this situation, because you wanted him to talk to you.

My granmother will talk to me all day long about everything. Does that mean we have a bond, yes, and does that mean we love having those conversations, of course.

Does that mean she wants a relationship with me.. hell no!

And with all your emotions in the mix, you are going to be convinced tghat what you and him had was different. Reality is, you are over-reading the situation.

Did he enjoy that time, of course he did. But that does not mean he wants to be your best friend, or anything else.

I know this all isn't what you want to hear, but you really need to get a clear look at the difference between what you want, and reality.

You are your own biggest bully if you allow yourself to become disillusioned in this way.

Again, sorry for being harsh, but i'm just surprised you fool yourself so easily.

[Living For Love]

But what happens when I see him again what he acts like he did? What do I do then because I'll be in this situation again?

Wait, so you're going to meet him again soon? Well, in that case, just tell him you'd like to hang out with him sometime, keep him as a close friends, but entering in a serious relationship, I don't think that will be possible.

[Haydenn3]

Wait, so you're going to meet him again soon? Well, in that case, just tell him you'd like to hang out with him sometime, keep him as a close friends, but entering in a serious relationship, I don't think that will be possible.

Yes for my friends birthday however we will not be alone and I have no idea how he will act I shall try to get him on his own and just ask him if he wants to be friends and hang out more and see what he says?

[Living For Love]

Yes for my friends birthday however we will not be alone and I have no idea how he will act I shall try to get him on his own and just ask him if he wants to be friends and hang out more and see what he says?
Well, yeah, that seems the best decision to make. Approach him when he's alone and ask him if he still considers you a friend and wants to hang out with you in the future, and see his reaction. Give him some time, at the beginning, and then approach him if he doesn't do it first. Good luck. (:

[Haydenn3]

Well, yeah, that seems the best decision to make. Approach him when he's alone and ask him if he still considers you a friend and wants to hang out with you in the future, and see his reaction. Give him some time, at the beginning, and then approach him if he doesn't do it first. Good luck. (:

Thank you so much I still feel like crap but your advice has helped me so much I really appreciate it your great at this thanks again :)