In Love With her Attention More Than I Like Her?

[Rallo]

Longstory short, lately I've been having some real troubles in my relationship. I feel insanely anxious when she doesn't reply (even if it's 10-15seconds late, or she doesn't see the message instantly meaning she's doing something else). I get jealous when she simply gives ANYONE else (including females, so it's not I'm scared of losing her) attention. Due to this (among other things), I've concluded (with the help of users in the chat room), I've become more in love with the attention she gives me than her herself. It's become almost an addiction.

How do I, well, break free of this?

I thought maybe getting attention from other girls would help, though I know she would take it the wrong way and feel as if I'm cheating on her or trying to find someone else, when in reality I actually seriously want it to work with her. It's just hard for things to seem real when all we constantly do is give each other the attention we crave.
We both know we need the full attention of each other to, and even abuse that at times. We at times (me included here, we both do this) ignore each other just to get back at the other for something they do. It's usually more just little comments thrown around "might just go:/" "gonna turn my phone off for a bit:/" etc, though we both still know it hurts the other.

I really want to be with her as I know deep down I do actually love her, though right now I'm more addicted to getting attention from her than I am to her herself, if that makes sense (she's the same with me). Which is proving to be a real problem. :mad:

Any advice?
Anyone else been in this situation?
Any real input is welcome! :yeah:

[Professor Moopicorn]

Hmmm. That's an interesting predicament you're in there. I would suggest trying to focus more on why you love her or maybe how beautiful she is or something like that. Maybe that could help you fall in love with HER more and not the attention she gives you. :/ just a thought. Anyway, good luck!

[DerBear]

Its not uncomon to be in love with the prospect of attention and love and not actually be in love with that person. In my opinion you just need to focus on why you lover her rather than actually focus on the attention side of it. If you can't do that then I'd suggest breaking up. I know that sounds really harsh but generally this is how a controlling relationship forms where one person craves the attention and if that person can't stop then it can develop into a very controlling relationship.

[Kasp]

It's kind of natural really, think more about why you love her and not why you love it when she is giving you attention.. if that even makes sense.
Hope this helps :)

[TheBigUnit]

Longstory short, lately I've been having some real troubles in my relationship. I feel insanely anxious when she doesn't reply (even if it's 10-15seconds late, or she doesn't see the message instantly meaning she's doing something else). I get jealous when she simply gives ANYONE else (including females, so it's not I'm scared of losing her) attention. Due to this (among other things), I've concluded (with the help of users in the chat room), I've become more in love with the attention she gives me than her herself. It's become almost an addiction.

How do I, well, break free of this?

I thought maybe getting attention from other girls would help, though I know she would take it the wrong way and feel as if I'm cheating on her or trying to find someone else, when in reality I actually seriously want it to work with her. It's just hard for things to seem real when all we constantly do is give each other the attention we crave.
We both know we need the full attention of each other to, and even abuse that at times. We at times (me included her, we both do this) ignore each other just to get back at the other for something they do. It's usually more just little comments thrown around "might just go:/" "gonna turn my phone off for a bit:/" etc, though we both still know it hurts the other.

I really want to be with her as I know deep down I do actually love her, though right now I'm more addicted to getting attention from her than I am to her herself, if that makes sense (she's the same with me). Which is proving to be a real problem. :mad:

Any advice?
Anyone else been in this situation?
Any real input is welcome! :yeah:

DerBears is right mann, i think you should go do your own thing for a while like spend less time with her on weekdays and little bit more on weekends?