Real or faux friend?

[noumiismywaifu]

Okokok so: I have an idea for how you can tell if your friends are strong, true, friends. Simply ask them, through private chat or conversation, to list all of your flaws or say the worst things about you. Chances are good that if they do this then they aren't that good a friend. If they say they won't do that then they don't want to hurt your feelings and are therefore more likely a real friend. One could argue that if they DO list your flaws, they are simply trying to help you out by telling you ways you can improve yourself in the eyes of the public. I can't argue with that logic, so don't take this seriously. It's just a thought. Opinions? Also this was TL;DR for me so I didn't read through it. I doubt there are any glaring grammatical errors though, it'll be fine.

[Horatio Nelson]

I agree with the former thought. A true friend knows your flaws and weaknesses, and will help you better yourself.

[noumiismywaifu]

That's true but I suppose it depends on what they say is your flaw... Like if they say something such as "You never shower" then you can obviously fix that unless your family is poor. But on the other hand, if they say something like "You aren't gay enough for me" then you can't just become a different person and change your sexuality for them. Of course there are also in-betweens like "I dislike how many books you read", as this is simply them insulting you for who you are. If you like reading then they should, if they are a real friend, back you up and accept you. On the other hand, this IS something you can change. But I guess not too many people hate bookworms so that example may be a bit personal.

[Horatio Nelson]

That's true but I suppose it depends on what they say is your flaw... Like if they say something such as "You never shower" then you can obviously fix that unless your family is poor. But on the other hand, if they say something like "You aren't gay enough for me" then you can't just become a different person and change your sexuality for them. Of course there are also in-betweens like "I dislike how many books you read", as this is simply them insulting you for who you are. If you like reading then they should, if they are a real friend, back you up and accept you. On the other hand, this IS something you can change. But I guess not too many people hate bookworms so that example may be a bit personal.

The examples you gave aren't flaws, or ways helping them. That's someone being an asshole. A flaw would be something like being too shy, and a friend that is a real extrovert could help you to be less shy. Does that make sense?

[noumiismywaifu]

Well... I mean, if you shower once every two weeks, you could consider bad hygiene being a flaw. It's a lack of drive, a lack of respect for yourself. As for the "You aren't gay enough" that one was more of a joke since there were so many options for that one. Just replace it with "I dislike people with blonde hair" or something similar... ok well that sounds like they are a dick too but meh. And for the third one, if you read too much it could be seen as a flaw as you could do nothing else. Or it could be an addiction? A book addiction could be seen as a bad thing if you never leave your room.