Are my parents overreacting?

[killer_queen]

Okay, so this is a long story but here it goes:

I recently told my mom that I was having sex with my boyfriend of a long time. She talked to me about it for a little bit, and then she told me that she wouldn't tell my dad. However, I came home one day to find out that she DID tell my dad, and they all wanted to talk to me about it.

My dad decided that my boyfriend and I should "take a break" for a month to "think about our relationship" and "what went wrong to make us have sex." He wants to meet with my boyfriend once at the beginning of the month and once at the end. My parents both keep telling me that "I made a mistake, but they still love me" but it honestly didn't FEEL like a mistake at all. I didn't regret it. But they say that I broke their trust.

My dad wants me to have as little contact with my boyfriend for the next month, but idk how that's supposed to happen because you can't just disappear out of someone's life...

They are telling me that I am too young for sex (I'm 17), but they expect me to pick a college and a career path.

But the thing is that I told them what I was doing, it's not like they walked in on me. And plus, when I told my mom that I was having sex, I didn't mean it as a confession. I simply wanted to let her know and inquire about other ways to be safe than condoms.

Are my parents overreacting to this at all?

[Gamma Male]

Yeah, they're overreacting. You're 17. You're in a committed relationship. You use condoms. But what are you gonna do? Just try to talk to them about it.

[Typhlosion]

Yup. But I bet they know they are overreacting as well. After a week if they don't reconsider you should talk to them seriously.

[Jack russell dad]

Yea, overreacting. 17 is well old enough for sex. I mean, people are getting BJ's at 12 in this day and age. If i was your dad, or mother, they should give you a box of condoms and be done with it.and as for mistake, sex is clean, as long as you both use protection, i don't see any "mistake". Best of luck. Hope your selfish parents don't tear you and your bf apart. your lucky to have one.

[Body odah Man]

Okay, so this is a long story but here it goes:

I recently told my mom that I was having sex with my boyfriend of a long time. She talked to me about it for a little bit, and then she told me that she wouldn't tell my dad. However, I came home one day to find out that she DID tell my dad, and they all wanted to talk to me about it.

My dad decided that my boyfriend and I should "take a break" for a month to "think about our relationship" and "what went wrong to make us have sex." He wants to meet with my boyfriend once at the beginning of the month and once at the end. My parents both keep telling me that "I made a mistake, but they still love me" but it honestly didn't FEEL like a mistake at all. I didn't regret it. But they say that I broke their trust.

My dad wants me to have as little contact with my boyfriend for the next month, but idk how that's supposed to happen because you can't just disappear out of someone's life...

They are telling me that I am too young for sex (I'm 17), but they expect me to pick a college and a career path.

But the thing is that I told them what I was doing, it's not like they walked in on me. And plus, when I told my mom that I was having sex, I didn't mean it as a confession. I simply wanted to let her know and inquire about other ways to be safe than condoms.

Are my parents overreacting to this at all?

Are your parents strict Christians? If so, I understand their viewpoint. If not, yeah they're overreacting, tho it may be that they're worried you'll get preggers or something which is a fuckin big thing, 'specially at 17.

As for ur mom telling your dad-moms lie all the time sadly. Many's the time mom promised me i could skip taking a bath and then that nite-bath time. Fuckin sux. Gl with this

[killer_queen]

Are your parents strict Christians? If so, I understand their viewpoint. If not, yeah they're overreacting, tho it may be that they're worried you'll get preggers or something which is a fuckin big thing, 'specially at 17.

As for ur mom telling your dad-moms lie all the time sadly. Many's the time mom promised me i could skip taking a bath and then that nite-bath time. Fuckin sux. Gl with this

Yeah they are strict Christians

[Waleedbt]

They are overreacting :p but then again if i get a daughter i would be the same hehe
Anyways, they don't sound strict, i feel they will be fine after a few days or week.
You just have to see it from their view :)

And i completely understand how parents act when they say you're too young but still put pressure on someone to make life decisions (ugh!! )

[killer_queen]

How do I explain to my boyfriend that we kinda just HAVE to listen to my parents?

[Camazotz]

How do I explain to my boyfriend that we kinda just HAVE to listen to my parents?

"Chad, my parents think I'm too young for sex. They think I made a mistake and that we have to 'reevaluate our relationship', whatever that means. Since they're my parents, I kind of have to listen to them, and they said that we should stop seeing each other for a while. I don't really understand why, but I'll keep talking to them to convince them that we're being safe and it's not a big deal at all."

Your parents are very prude if they are more concerned with you having sex rather than you asking how to stay safe. I'm not really sure what else to say about that, they're most certainly over-reacting by today's standards. They were probably raised to wait until marriage before sex, but those kinds of "traditional values" are very outdated and obsolete.

[killer_queen]

"Chad, my parents think I'm too young for sex. They think I made a mistake and that we have to 'reevaluate our relationship', whatever that means. Since they're my parents, I kind of have to listen to them, and they said that we should stop seeing each other for a while. I don't really understand why, but I'll keep talking to them to convince them that we're being safe and it's not a big deal at all."

Your parents are very prude if they are more concerned with you having sex rather than you asking how to stay safe. I'm not really sure what else to say about that, they're most certainly over-reacting by today's standards. They were probably raised to wait until marriage before sex, but those kinds of "traditional values" are very outdated and obsolete.

Okay I am trying to get him to understand. I tried to talk to my parents about it and they FLIPPED out. My dad wouldn't even speak to me for a bit. They were raised very strictly, and I guess I have no choice but to go along with them.

[Camazotz]

Okay I am trying to get him to understand. I tried to talk to my parents about it and they FLIPPED out. My dad wouldn't even speak to me for a bit. They were raised very strictly, and I guess I have no choice but to go along with them.

Sorry to hear that. I hope you and your family come to a reasonable agreement for the future.

[Body odah Man]

Yeah they are strict Christians

THAT explains it. Yeah, they're not overreacting sadly? In the eyes of Christianity inmarital intercourse is a big big big deal. Sucks, but I don't think you can change their minds :(

[JamesSuperBoy]

How do I explain to my boyfriend that we kinda just HAVE to listen to my parents?

Same as here

http://virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=207963

I think you should not have to "explain" to him. You have told him your situation and He should understand that. However I do agree your parents are overeacting but I think also as you know thier beliefs it is no more that you could have foreseen. But on the bright side your Dad wants to meet him so he can explain?

Just curious now - why have your parents not met him before?

Take care - not easy being a child. with parents.

[killer_queen]

Same as here

http://virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=207963

I think you should not have to "explain" to him. You have told him your situation and He should understand that. However I do agree your parents are overeacting but I think also as you know thier beliefs it is no more that you could have foreseen. But on the bright side your Dad wants to meet him so he can explain?

Just curious now - why have your parents not met him before?

Take care - not easy being a child. with parents.

No, they've already met, I meant that we would all meet up and talk. He knows my parents.

[CosmicNoodle]

Ye, they defiantly overreacted, what did they think, that your going to be in a relation ship and nothing is going to happen?

[JamesSuperBoy]

No, they've already met, I meant that we would all meet up and talk. He knows my parents.


Its still good your Dad wants to talk to him I think - This will work out