gay, bi or straight?

[yeahsure]

so, this is about me and my friend.. i'm 13 (almost 14) and he is 15..

we hang around a lot, been friends for about 2 years :)

we have quite a laugh, but recently we've done some stuff that has made me unsure of his sexuality..

like we sometimes lie on my bed cuddled, and its led to me having my hand rubbing/fingering him, and sometimes he hints he wants me to do it, like he'll lie next to me, and pull his trousers and briefs down a lil bit... sometimes i just initiate it...

he is a bit shy, but i think he likes it... it's happened about 5 times, though it's not like we've ever talked about it.. he never seems to be that keen on me going near his front parts, though i've rubbed quite close to his dangly bits. Sorry if this is 'too-much-info', i wanted to give the full picture..

i'm just unsure if he is bi, or gay, or what? plus, i don't feel asking him just now is right.. it's not that i hope he is, i just can't figure out. :confused:

but i keep thinking, surely he can't be straight. Afew people refer to him as 'oh, the gay one', though i don't seem to pick up on that, plus he did have a gf about 6 months ago for a couple of months. I also know he is still a virgin...

anyone any thoughts? :what:

[Just Sayin]

I wouldnt be so sure he is gay or bi at your age he may just be interested in experimenting. I would try to come up with a way to talk to him about it and see what he says

[yeahsure]

I wouldnt be so sure he is gay or bi at your age he may just be interested in experimenting. I would try to come up with a way to talk to him about it and see what he says

at my age yes, but he turns 16 in a couple of weeks? :confused:

surely you would have an idea of what your feelings are? no?

would a straight 16 year old flirt with, and allow another boy to do this, and on quite a few occasions he has encouraged me by pulling them down of his butt, without me even hinting?

[Just Sayin]

I think even at 16 he may still be experimenting a little bit its really hard to say. Maybe he just isnt sure who he is yet. Maybe you should just ask him about it

at my age yes, but he turns 16 in a couple of weeks? :confused:

surely you would have an idea of what your feelings are? no?

would a straight 16 year old flirt with, and allow another boy to do this, and on quite a few occasions he has encouraged me by pulling them down of his butt, without me even hinting?

Or if you really dont wanna talk to hi about it just learn to enjoy it i guess. I just wouldnt waste to much time thinking about it if i were you

[yeahsure]

I think even at 16 he may still be experimenting a little bit its really hard to say. Maybe he just isnt sure who he is yet. Maybe you should just ask him about it

you could be right.. i'm just not certain he would, he isn't one for talking about emotions... i hinted before at asking, and he smiles it off. It's easy saying 'ask', but if it was an option, i wouldn't be posting about it here.

also, he always gives me a lot of kisses when we text, and has said a few times 'i love u' on messages.. but i still don't truly know his sexual preference, so i'm trying to figure it out...

[Just Sayin]

you could be right.. i'm just not certain he would, he isn't one for talking about emotions... i hinted before at asking, and he smiles it off. It's easy saying 'ask', but if it was an option, i wouldn't be posting about it here.

also, he always gives me a lot of kisses when we text, and has said a few times 'i love u' on messages.. but i still don't truly know his sexual preference, so i'm trying to figure it out...

Well its gonna be pretty hard to figure out for sure if he wont talk about it. Im just not sure he is gay because you guys havent done anything that major yet you two are more or less just kinda playing around

[yeahsure]

Well its gonna be pretty hard to figure out for sure if he wont talk about it. Im just not sure he is gay because you guys havent done anything that major yet you two are more or less just kinda playing around

so, out of curiousity, would you be cool letting another boy do this to you?

[Just Sayin]

so, out of curiousity, would you be cool letting another boy do this to you?

When i was 15 i let my friend do stuff like that but i dont think i would now. Does he ever do anything to you/

[yeahsure]

When i was 15 i let my friend do stuff like that but i dont think i would now. Does he ever do anything to you/

he is really shy.

but he cuddles into me.. also, has said he loves me a quite a few times ( he even said once that he would love me forever when i replied 'how much?'), and always gives me 3-5 kisses in texts... he likes me giving him this special attention i'd say.

[Just Sayin]

he is really shy.

but he cuddles into me.. also, has said he loves me a quite a few times ( he even said once that he would love me forever when i replied 'how much?'), and always gives me 3-5 kisses in texts... he likes me giving him this special attention i'd say.

Ya it sure seems that way. Do you have any interest in doing more with him?

[yeahsure]

Ya it sure seems that way. Do you have any interest in doing more with him?

well, yeh, but not knowing makes it confusing

[Just Sayin]

well, yeh, but not knowing makes it confusing

Have you ever just tried to make a move or something just to see how he reacts?

[yeahsure]

well, i thought having my finger 'halfway in' was? lol

[Just Sayin]

Well ya thats true lol but he still wont let you touch any of his front parts?

[yeahsure]

Well ya thats true lol but he still wont let you touch any of his front parts?

i think he is too shy still

[Just Sayin]

i think he is too shy still

I suppose that could be the case

[agentsmith]

I say if he does it again just pull down your pants. then grab his penis and see what he does. and just take it from there. Just do it

[yeahsure]

he seems shy though... plus, i've tried slipping my hand in the front, but he told me off and laughed :/

[Just Sayin]

I say if he does it again just pull down your pants. then grab his penis and see what he does. and just take it from there. Just do it

Ya idk man this idea doesnt sound like it would end well

[CrazyPerson101]

so, this is about me and my friend.. i'm 13 (almost 14) and he is 15..

we hang around a lot, been friends for about 2 years :)

we have quite a laugh, but recently we've done some stuff that has made me unsure of his sexuality..

like we sometimes lie on my bed cuddled, and its led to me having my hand rubbing/fingering him, and sometimes he hints he wants me to do it, like he'll lie next to me, and pull his trousers and briefs down a lil bit... sometimes i just initiate it...

he is a bit shy, but i think he likes it... it's happened about 5 times, though it's not like we've ever talked about it.. he never seems to be that keen on me going near his front parts, though i've rubbed quite close to his dangly bits. Sorry if this is 'too-much-info', i wanted to give the full picture..

i'm just unsure if he is bi, or gay, or what? plus, i don't feel asking him just now is right.. it's not that i hope he is, i just can't figure out. :confused:

but i keep thinking, surely he can't be straight. Afew people refer to him as 'oh, the gay one', though i don't seem to pick up on that, plus he did have a gf about 6 months ago for a couple of months. I also know he is still a virgin...

anyone any thoughts? :what:


sounds like he wants to experiment with ya , I would ask him how he feels.... I wish I told the person I felt that way when I had the chance

[yeahsure]

sounds like he wants to experiment with ya , I would ask him how he feels.... I wish I told the person I felt that way when I had the chance

i've tried asking :confused: he just smiles.. he has said he loves me, but only in txt messages... i just aint that sure he is ready for going further.. it's like i know who he is, but i think he tries to cover it up, he likes being popular, and like one of the lads.. he seems to be influenced by the school enviroment, i think that is what stops him being more open. :mad:

but i'm almost sure he is gay, or at least bi.. a few older people have said they think he is gay...

i've tried texting him, just normal stuff, but he has gone all quiet on me.. it's like he knows he doesn't need to text me, bcos he knows i like him enough that he won't loose me..

this happens often, where he text's me as normal, then goes all quiet for a week??:what:

he always gives me kisses on messages, normally a few, so this all makes me confused about how he see's me, because i do like him, but i can't wait forever to find out :mad:

[CrazyPerson101]

i've tried asking :confused: he just smiles.. he has said he loves me, but only in txt messages... i just aint that sure he is ready for going further.. it's like i know who he is, but i think he tries to cover it up, he likes being popular, and like one of the lads.. he seems to be influenced by the school enviroment, i think that is what stops him being more open. :mad:

but i'm almost sure he is gay, or at least bi.. a few older people have said they think he is gay...

i've tried texting him, just normal stuff, but he has gone all quiet on me.. it's like he knows he doesn't need to text me, bcos he knows i like him enough that he won't loose me..

this happens often, where he text's me as normal, then goes all quiet for a week??:what:

he always gives me kisses on messages, normally a few, so this all makes me confused about how he see's me, because i do like him, but i can't wait forever to find out :mad:

I see.... Well hat I'd do is quit txting him for a few days, then text him and see id he replies... thats if he doesnt text back first.

[yeahsure]

I see.... Well hat I'd do is quit txting him for a few days, then text him and see id he replies... thats if he doesnt text back first.

i've tried that a few times.. i'm feeling like he doesn't care, because he hasn't txt me in over a week.. i think i'm just gonna give up.

I keep feeling like texting him and telling him to just delete my number, it's clear i'm not worth it to him, even after everything that has happened.. :(

[CrazyPerson101]

i've tried that a few times.. i'm feeling like he doesn't care, because he hasn't txt me in over a week.. i think i'm just gonna give up.

I keep feeling like texting him and telling him to just delete my number, it's clear i'm not worth it to him, even after everything that has happened.. :(

Yeah I know what you mean.... Have you told him your feelings about him ?

[yeahsure]

Yeah I know what you mean.... Have you told him your feelings about him ?

yeh, he knows i really like him.. i tell him i love him every now and then, and he has said it to me many times too... but he has these phases where he goes silent, so i stop texting him... then about a week or so, he'll text saying some reason for not texting... but it's like i have to go silent, and wait for him to wanna talk again? it's just so confusing:confused: