With someone months ago and now about to date his ex?

[teenmanchester]

Ok so i've been chatting to this guy for a few days and we've decided to go on a date soon. Tonight I thought and see if he had a FB profile and just checked when I was bored. Found one he must have had years ago and went to see and smiled at the old pictures until I saw a comment which literally made the colour drain from my face. A guy had commented saying how sexy his bf was and stuff and had the same name as someone I had slept with. Bearing in mind I have only been with 3 people, this was a shock and I thought it couldn't be him. Turns out it was and now I don't know what to do because this other guy had told me about bad past relationships he had, but he also kinda treated me a bit crap the morning after. Now I don't know whether to bring this up to this guy that i could potentially be with. I don't want to ruin anything so early but I don't want to keep this to myself and act weird around him on our date and when we message each other. Really don't know what to do. Such a coincidence. Any ideas on how I should go about this?

[yeahsure]

Ok so i've been chatting to this guy for a few days and we've decided to go on a date soon. Tonight I thought and see if he had a FB profile and just checked when I was bored. Found one he must have had years ago and went to see and smiled at the old pictures until I saw a comment which literally made the colour drain from my face. A guy had commented saying how sexy his bf was and stuff and had the same name as someone I had slept with. Bearing in mind I have only been with 3 people, this was a shock and I thought it couldn't be him. Turns out it was and now I don't know what to do because this other guy had told me about bad past relationships he had, but he also kinda treated me a bit crap the morning after. Now I don't know whether to bring this up to this guy that i could potentially be with. I don't want to ruin anything so early but I don't want to keep this to myself and act weird around him on our date and when we message each other. Really don't know what to do. Such a coincidence. Any ideas on how I should go about this?

i can understand that it might seem a little uncomfortable, but, regardless of his past, or your, you should go on your date as normal, with an open mind.

What happened in the past, has no real relevance, you should make your own judgements.

i wouldn't mention it either, as honestly, what reason would you have for doing so anyway..

[teenmanchester]

i can understand that it might seem a little uncomfortable, but, regardless of his past, or your, you should go on your date as normal, with an open mind.

What happened in the past, has no real relevance, you should make your own judgements.

i wouldn't mention it either, as honestly, what reason would you have for doing so anyway..

He is really nice and i've not dated anyone before so I don't want anything to ruin this, plus he's currently finishing work for university tonight and I wouldn't want to stop him from doing that. I'll try not to but it was just a shock, thanks for the reply!

[yeahsure]

He is really nice and i've not dated anyone before so I don't want anything to ruin this, plus he's currently finishing work for university tonight and I wouldn't want to stop him from doing that. I'll try not to but it was just a shock, thanks for the reply!

that's ok, but even if you had heard 'rumours', provided that you haven't any reason to dislike him this far, you should form your own opinion.

People tend to feel bitter about people they have previously had relationships with, so would anyone else's opinion of him is likely to be one-sided.

I'd personally not have any interest or give any of it any time.. why waste your opportunity because of something you should have no concern for, old news.

good luck though, hope it goes well for you..

[teenmanchester]

that's ok, but even if you had heard 'rumours', provided that you haven't any reason to dislike him this far, you should form your own opinion.

People tend to feel bitter about people they have previously had relationships with, so would anyone else's opinion of him is likely to be one-sided.

I'd personally not have any interest or give any of it any time.. why waste your opportunity because of something you should have no concern for, old news.

good luck though, hope it goes well for you..

Very true, thanks again.
P.S. I was just messaging him again and he mentioned an ex and I just thought "Please don't let it be him!" I'll get past it, really was just a shock!

[Matt_97]

One thing to remember is the past is the past. We all have our regrets and things that we're not proud of... But we move on! I think personally you should just give this guy a go, so what if theres some mangle of history there... It's the past. Why let an 'ex' (and i use the term loosely) get in the way of what could be potentially the start of something good!! Just let it go and rise above it because in time if he likes you enough he'll tell you his past and you can see just why that guy is an ex!!!

[JamesSuperBoy]

As others have said the past is the past - but do not let this stress you out -

if you think there is some chance he might find out then just let him know -

You don't have to believe every thing on FB!!!

[Body odah Man]

Nothing wrong with it. Good luck and enjoy

[teenmanchester]

Thanks everyone, won't tell him unless he brings the guy up properly himself which he probably won't do unless we're together a while but our first date is tomorrow so i'm excited :)

[teenmanchester]

For anyone who wants the know, the date went well, it came out pretty quickly that my date had been in a relationship with the guy and he told me some interesting truths! The guy wasn't someone to trust and he got screwed over by him so we bonded a bit more because of that and we're seeing each other again this weekend so happy days :D