Wanna turn myself straight

[liam2013]

I been gay for about a year and I'm not enjoying it I haven't come out to all my mates yet and haven't came out to my parents yet and I have strong feeling for this boy I really like and it's making more ashamed with myself :( and I'm 17 years old as well

[Living For Love]

I'm sorry, but I don't think you can just become straight like that. You sound like your gay as an option, but I don't think it is. I'm pretty sure many people would strongly desire to be straight it they could choose it. You just need to give yourself some time to deal with it and get used to it. And believe me, being gay is not that bad. It's quite strange at first, but then it feels great when you embrace it because you can finally be who you really are, I don't know, living a gay romance is just so special, there's a bond there only gay guys can understand. But if you're really struggling with it, consider seeing a counsellor or a psychologist, they can help you a lot.

[CosmicNoodle]

I'm Bisexual so perhaps I can't quite connect here.
But I don't think your going to just become straight. Just do what I did, slowly let alone your friends now one by one. People are generally accepting,
And being gay/bi is great in my opinion.

[everlong]

You can't just switch sexual orientation with a snap of the fingers. You like who you like, no matter how difficult it may seem. It's not like there's anything wrong with it, you just need to stay as is.

[liam2013]

I try but it just brings me down :(

[Camazotz]

I try but it just brings me down :(

Being gay certainly isn't easy. I'm not gay, but I assure you that nearly all gay people have had at least some difficulty with coping or coming out or being accepted. There are millions of others out there that were/are in your situation that can give advice and give support for you. That's what this section and this site is for :) Not many people believe that you can choose your sexual orientation nowadays (myself included), so accepting yourself will be important for you. If you ever need any support, we're here for you :D

[Bull]

All the research I've read says that sexual orientation is not a choice. We seem to be predisposed at birth. I have been struggling with my bi leanings and have tried to reject them. Can't do it. What I am doing, so far, is not acting on those desires. Accept who you are. You are a good person, you are who you are, you are who God made you. How you choose to live your life is up to you, but you can't change who you are no more than a cat can become a dog! So, relax, stand tall, and enjoy life.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Sexuality doesn't change on one's own will. I guess you have to embrace your sexuality like most of us LGBT(QIAP) do. I know it can be a hard thing to do when you're belittled for it. But just be proud of yourself, no matter your sexuality.

[liam2013]

Thanks :) but how should I come out to my family

[Jack russell dad]

Sexuality isn't a choice. Just tell them your gay. If their true friends they wont care.

[DerBear]

I don't believe it works like that :|

[Lovelife090994]

This won't help but it happens. Some people's sexuality is quite fluid and changes later in life. If no label defines you then don't define yourself with a label. If you want to be straight, go ahead but it is not at the drop of a hat.

[bob97]

You can't just change that stuff, dude. You just have to accept it

[noumiismywaifu]

Why would you want to be straight? That's so basic, stay with us in rainbowland! Seriously though, you can't just turn straight. If you care about what people think of you, pretend to be straight or bi. Another thing you could try is looking up wierder porn. Look at your fetishes and kinks and try to turn them into something straight, you might slowly become bi that way though I am not sure you can stop being gay if you have been gay for a year. For example, if you're into being on the bottom then look at some Femdom, see if that gets you interested.

[liam2013]

I'm only into boys and have no interests in girls at all :(.

[beenthere]

First thing is first, Everyone is right that you need to accept the feelings that you have for guys, That is something that does not change, However, you still can choose to live the way you want to live. Don't rush to come out if you don't want to put a label on yourself, I felt the same as you, but it turned out later I had a girl chase me down and I let it happen, and I found out that I did have an attraction to some women. My advise is just accept the feelings you have, but keep an open mind for the future, come out because you want to not because others tell you too.

[Biscuithead13]

From personal experience, I can tell you that I too was once in your position. I would cry over the very thought I was gay. The first step in helping yourself feel better is to accept yourself. You are who you are and are an amazing person just as you are. It takes time to accept yourself, but once you do, you will feel an intense weight lifted off your shoulders. If you ever worry about not being accepted by somebody, remember that there is only one person that can truly reject you, and that person is YOU. Hope you start feeling better soon!

[Babs]

You've been gay for about a year? So you were straight before? How do you become gay? Is there an application process? Is there a conversion ceremony on the vernal equinox?
It's either you're gay or you're not. You cannot choose to be straight, you cannot turn yourself straight. You can choose to be in a heterosexual relationship but that doesn't change your feelings for the same sex.
Don't try to change yourself. You're wonderful the way you are. I'm pretty comfortable being queer, so maybe I can't quite connect with you here. But embracing your sexuality will feel great. I can promise you that.

[kaydencorey]

Its not possible to change something like this, its a hard thing to accept for many people but at some point you will have to.
There's nothing to be ashamed of, and trying to be someone your not is going to make you very unhappy.
Don't do that to yourself.

[liam2013]

Tanks for the post everyone I kinda feel Better now for talking to u lot :)

[Big O]

I been gay for about a year and I'm not enjoying it I haven't come out to all my mates yet and haven't came out to my parents yet and I have strong feeling for this boy I really like and it's making more ashamed with myself :( and I'm 17 years old as well

Don't change for anyone you do you it will all come eventually at the end of high school no regrets let it all out

[jjlewis]

I doubt its possible to do that would make life easier if people could if they wanted to

[Liam TWB]

Hope you're feeling better about things now. In itself, being gay in your sexual orientation is no more of a problem than being straight, until you throw in some other people's hang ups and weird prejudices. They can leave you feeling a bit isolated and vulnerable. Having strong feelings for someone else is never going to be easy to deal with if you are worried how others will react. The good news is that it does get better!! :D Keep talking to the guys on here and check out the London Lesbian and Gay Switchboard website (you can also talk to them on the phone).
You can't change being gay, but you can change trying to deal with it on your own!

[Faolan]

Thanks :) but how should I come out to my family

Coming out to your family can be scary, depending on how open they are. It's easier to come out to friends first, since they're more likely to be accepting (younger people tend to be more open-minded). If your folks are conservative, I'd say wait until college or until you're financially independent. Hopefully it wouldn't come to that. In terms of the actual coming-out process, there are myriad ways to get it over with. You could go the basic route and sit down with your parents, flat-out telling them, or you could write a letter of explanation, etc... Good luck, we all have faith in you. :)

[Adrian]

What are you talking about? You can't just swift yout sexual orientation! That's not even possible. Respect yourself and be proud.

[gothy]

Gay is not a choice. But being gay is not a bad thing.Don't change a thing or try to change itll only make you feel worse.

[Uranus]

Hey liam2013, I am a straigh dude alright? I don't wanna be gay, but that doesn't make being gay wrong. I don't descriminate against gays, or lesbians at all. I believe that whether we are or aren't gay we are all still equal as human beings. What I am saying is, its not up to us to choose for YOU.. its your choice, and if you really have emotions and feelings for this guy in your life, than you shouldn't be ashamed at all! There are so many gay relationships out there that aren't looked down upon. You feel ashamed because you don't wanna be judged, but, if I am in a relatinship with a girl (which I am) and we walk past a gay couple who thinks we are wrong...it doesn't make any difference at all than if it were the other way around! We as humans are all equal and all have our own ways and we must accept that...If you have strong feelings towards this dude then I say go for it. I hope this helps.. -Balla

[liam2013]

Coming out to your family can be scary, depending on how open they are. It's easier to come out to friends first, since they're more likely to be accepting (younger people tend to be more open-minded). If your folks are conservative, I'd say wait until college or until you're financially independent. Hopefully it wouldn't come to that. In terms of the actual coming-out process, there are myriad ways to get it over with. You could go the basic route and sit down with your parents, flat-out telling them, or you could write a letter of explanation, etc... Good luck, we all have faith in you. :)

I did try to come out to my family but they I said I was joking I bottled it at the last min

[Andrew2499]

Sexuality isn't a choice. Just tell them your gay. If their true friends they wont care.

This.

[Bmble_B]

I'm pretty sure someone probably already said what I'm gonna say, but Ill say it anyway (I know you feel better but I'm still gonna say this) I know exactly how you feel. I've known that I have a thing for guys ever since preschool! Ive always tried to change myself, to fit society's expectations of a "man" but that makes me think, what is a man to society, and what is a man actually? A man to society is, in a nutshell, a straight guy. When in reality, my def of a man is someone who takes care of his responsibilities, and takes care of his family, and is loyal to his family, and friends. This is my definition of a man, don't let society tell you otherwise :) Be proud! :D

[Faolan]

I did try to come out to my family but they I said I was joking I bottled it at the last min

I had to deal with this when a bunch of my friends thought I was just being a goof. All you can do is press on and persevere. Try to bring it up in conversation, and if they tell you you're joking, keep talking, no matter how embarrassing or uncomfortable. Once you tell them you aren't joking, they're the ones who will look funny for trying to cover it up. Good luck.

[Microcosm]

This isn't something you can change that easily. You really just need to accept yourself. Once you've done that, then start to hint to all your friends and eventually just tell them.

[Ben_Frost]

I think you should go on and accept yourself as you truly are and feel comfortable with... don't feel ashamed, you don't need to tell everyone around you that you like guys! And about that boy you like, are you entirely sure he won't like you back?

[liam2013]

I think you should go on and accept yourself as you truly are and feel comfortable with... don't feel ashamed, you don't need to tell everyone around you that you like guys! And about that boy you like, are you entirely sure he won't like you back?

I think he's gay but I'm nervous to tell him