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Menzis
May 18th, 2014, 09:32 AM
I came home at around 00:00. My dad and I noticed an egg was thrown at the window. We thought it was just some kids joking around.

My dad and younger sister (14) went upstairs to go to sleep. And some arguments started, and my younger sister was a bit disrespectful against my dad, and at some point I heard my dad saying, I am going to hit you after that my younger sister started crying and my dad started hitting my younger sister. A few seconds later I went upstairs and splitted my dad and her. My dad told my younger sister that she should go out the house and never come back. So he said I should call my mom (She has her own place, they are divorced) and tell her that my younger sister is going there. So I called, but she said she wasn't at home (which I thought was weird seeing the time). So my dad told me I should call my aunt, so I did and you could hear my younger sister crying on the background and I asked her if she could pick up my younger sister, but she was sleeping over at a friend.

So I decided to go outside with my younger sister and I took her to a bench somewhere outside and started talking with her. So I asked her what happened and a lot of things came in the conversation. She mentioned she is being bullied by 3 girls that live in the neighbourhood and that they probably had thrown the eggs against the window.

The 3 girls had sent videos to her about themselves laughing at her and saying things. They also hacked her snapchat and sent pictures and videos to other people. My younger sister goes to a therapist every week at school, because of her being bullied. She skipped a grade and is also the youngest in her class. The girls who are bullying are (17, 16, 14 or 13).

My dad hasn't hit any of us in a long time, but I think he was stressed out.

So what should I do, any advice or tips? Did I handled it wrong or right?
Sorry for the long post.

Background information:
My mom and dad are divorced, I have an older brother, younger brother and a younger sister and we all live with our dad. Our home situation isn't the best, my dad is gone a lot because of his work, and we have some financial problems.

Living For Love
May 18th, 2014, 10:55 AM
You did the right thing, really. from now on, try to convince your dad to let her stay (if she wants) and make sure you keep supporting her whenever she needs. I guess that's all you can do as a brother for now.

Body odah Man
May 18th, 2014, 01:26 PM
You did the right thing man. That is some deep shit. Wish I could help you, but I have no experience with this, therefore I second what Dance in the Dark said. God bless y'all and good luck

Menzis
May 21st, 2014, 01:55 PM
Thanks guys

Andriod09
May 22nd, 2014, 12:15 AM
Menzis, I agree with what Tiago (Dance in the Dark) said. I would talk to your sister about wanting to stay, then ask your father for permission. I don't know the entire situation, but I can tell that you're a loving older brother. Do you two (your sister and yourself) happen to go to the same school?

Menzis
May 24th, 2014, 04:27 PM
Menzis, I agree with what Tiago (Dance in the Dark) said. I would talk to your sister about wanting to stay, then ask your father for permission. I don't know the entire situation, but I can tell that you're a loving older brother. Do you two (your sister and yourself) happen to go to the same school?

Nope we don't, we did last year though, but I moved to a different school.

hockeyfan
May 24th, 2014, 11:30 PM
To me it sounds like there's a reason ur with ur dad. It sounds like he has lots to b stressed about. I hope for ur sake that ur dad and sister get along better in the future.

If the divorce was reasont or ur dad is braking up with someone else this could also add to his stress. And I hope ur mom pays child support.

mrpieface2
May 25th, 2014, 09:27 AM
You did the right thing! Be a good brother and keep supporting your sister! It seems like your dad is stressed. I would find an activity for the whole family( you, sister and dad ) and you guys can bond together and stuff. Maybe it could relieve some of your father's stress. Hope this helps!

Seemyheart
May 25th, 2014, 10:33 AM
I agree that you did the right thing.
This situation is tough. The one thing I think should happen is that your sister does move out for a little bit, that way she aand your dad could cool down and then she could come back. I don't know if that helps, but maybe some distance would lessen the stress on your sister AND your dad.