Ever feel like you need time alone, but your parent(s) try to be around you too much?

[flappybird]

I have a bit of an anxiety problem where my heart always feels 'heavy' and I never feel light-minded. I find that being alone for a few hours and listening to music that I like helps me sort myself out and get studying; something that I need to do these days.

I request time alone from my parents, especially my mom, but instead she starts thinking something wrong with me, and since this has been happening for a long time, she says, "You are back to being like that. I thought you had returned to normal..." etc, etc, and tries to talk more.

Now see, because of this anxiety I get frustrated easily and I am not good at arguing. On top of that this is an argument I can't win with my mom. The more I say please let me alone, the more she starts following me around. It is immensely frustrating and I get trapped.

You see, the futility of arguing with her. The best I can do is to never ask her to leave me alone because if I do then she keeps following me!

I recently went to my cousin's for a week and had lots of fun there. I started getting normal. When I got back this has started again.

That's just a little problem I have.

Does anybody else feel like that?

[Living For Love]

Yeah, me and my parents never got along very well, but I guess the less you talk to your mum, and the less you argue, the sooner she will leave you alone. Just try to be kind and nice to her, and have good grades, to prove her you work better when you're alone, by yourself, listening to your music and studying.

[backjruton]

Luckily for me my parents and brother found out I need more alone time sometimes the hard way and the embarrassing way. Maybe she's growing suspicious, my mum did when she saw I was messaging 2 friends on Facebook and I wouldn't tell her what we were talking about because her words were "Are they trying to corrupt you?" I'M ALREADY CORRUPTED, and if anything id be corrupting them as I'm 2 years older than they are. Once again we ended up talking about sex as my conversations with quite a lot of people recently have turned out that way. My parents don't do it so much now but I'm quite sure they used to and I remember when I wasn't allowed to shut my door at night because of them... They're overprotective sometimes I guess, I have to message them every time I get home from college on Wednesdays and Thursdays when I have to walk home they make me message them because they worry about me. That's the problem when a person with a disability does things by themselves, people worry too much and its very annoying as if they care so much they should be with me whenevever... I don't know if I can be too helpful, but maybe she just needs convincing you're not doing anything bad while you're having alone time. :whoops:

[Croconaw]

I always feel like I have to get away from my dad. I don't like him at all and living with him depresses me. I don't like how he thinks it is funny when he makes fun of a person for being black or for being fat. He also makes the same excuse every time he is confronted for it. That excuse is "I don't hate them because they're black, but I hate them because they're an asshole!" It is very degrading to have to listen to this all day. As I'm typing this, he is in his room screaming at this video game because the big fat Oreo won't get out of the ring on this wrestling game. I think the name of the wrestler is Mark Henry, but I'm not sure. I'm not really interested in wrestling. My dad is always finding something to yell at. I've never heard anyone yell so much in my life. He keeps telling me that he thinks random strangers are ugly. He'll only be friends with you if you're a hot white girl. It's really irritating. I think that my dad has severe anger issues. People keep trying to get him anger management, but he never goes through with it.

You can try asking for some time alone. I'm sure your parents won't mind. If your mom thinks there is something wrong with you, she needs to back off. People are allowed to have alone time. I'm sure at some point in your mom's life, she needed alone time, as well. Nobody is normal because everyone is different. I don't think there is an accurate definition of the word normal.

[Miserabilia]

I do but I've always concidered this to be a puberty thing.

[hockeyfan]

I understand. Every summer my family and I go up north to visit family for a few days. I tend to go for walks to get some time to myself. I'd go insane if I couldn't.

[Gamma Male]

Never. The exact opposite. I'd kill to have overprotective, clingy parents.

[Lovelife090994]

Never. The exact opposite. I'd kill to have overprotective, clingy parents.

More often than not overprotective parents can overbearing and judgemental. I know first-hand and all I have is my mother. I love her dearly but she can be so overbearing.

[Gamma Male]

More often than not overprotective parents can overbearing and judgemental. I know first-hand and all I have is my mother. I love her dearly but she can be so overbearing.

I'm not saying having overbearing, controlling parents is a good thing, but it just sounds better than being unloved and ignored.

[Lovelife090994]

I'm not saying having overbearing, controlling parents is a good thing, but it just sounds better than being unloved and ignored.

You feel unloved and ignored? Oddly, so do I. I want love one day.

[Gamma Male]

You feel unloved and ignored? Oddly, so do I. I want love one day.

Yeah. I used to look at kids playing catch with their dads or parents hugging their children, and telling them that their proud of them on tv and stuff and just think that that stuff never really happened, and that it was all fake. The last time I did something with my dad was when I was 4 and we played Majoras Mask together. That's it. That's my only memory of us doing something together. My moms been on and off anti depressents since I was born. I've been told, face to face point blank that my older brother is a better son, she wishes she never had any kids, she'd kill herself if she could just get the nerve. They've never cared. It amazes me how close some other families are. The thought of actually sitting down and talking to my parents about my feelings just seems unnatural. I miss being too young to realize how dysfunctional my family is.

[Lovelife090994]

Yeah. I used to look at kids playing catch with their dads or parents hugging their children, and telling them that their proud of them on tv and stuff and just think that that stuff never really happened, and that it was all fake. The last time I did something with my dad was when I was 4 and we played Majoras Mask together. That's it. That's my only memory of us doing something together. My moms been on and off anti depressents since I was born. I've been told, face to face point blank that my older brother is a better son, she wishes she never had any kids, she'd kill herself if she could just get the nerve. They've never cared. It amazes me how close some other families are. The thought of actually sitting down and talking to my parents about my feelings just seems unnatural. I miss being too young to realize how dysfunctional my family is.

My case isn't so tragic. My father was never there for me, so I never had a father figure. We rarely talk. My mom cares but sometimes let's her religious and at times judgemental ideas that get in the way. She and I don't have a lot of money. Even $20 is a luxury. We are not poor and live in a decent home but we can't afford much. I really wish we were better off. My mom hates it when I joke or even say things like "that's weird" or "oh that's silly. Or no, silly, it's my homework" she is my mother not my friend. I wish I had the close open parents I could tell all to. I have next to no one. I should feel loved but I don't. I feel trapped. I can't explore what I am or do much. We don't have the money for the week until she gets paid to even get groceries. People see us and think we're fine, we're not. Bills take all her money as a teacher.