How do I stop this before it starts?

[SnowAngels]

Hello. I'm new to VT, so call me out if I mess anything up. C:

I'm terribly sorry that it is so long, but I don't think you could help me if you didn't know the whole story.

Cayla is my close friend, Blake is my ex-best friend ( we just didn't have classes together anymore, causing no contact), and I don't know Tori very well.

Ok, so my friend, let's call her Cayla, was dating this guy, let's call him Blake. Cayla really liked Blake and they were always around each other and they were very intimate.
One day, during class change, Cayla approached me and asked for my school-famous advice. ( I'm known for my advice at my school, also my clothes ;) )

She showed me her phone and told me that Blake was sending her inappropriate pictures and videos of him touching himself. She also told me that he grabbed her butt when they kissed, and she didn't know what to do.
Because I was stressed about this test that I felt I like was going to do horrible on, I told her to just tell him how she felt, and not giving it much thought about her situation.

After the test was over and I passed, she seemed to be depressed. I asked her what happened and she said she followed my advice, then he broke up with her because she "didn't give him what he wanted in a relationship". After that I told her he wasn't the right guy for her and I told her to go to her parents with the pictures & videos and ask them what to do. She wasn't jumping at my suggestion, now that my other one ruined her relationship with him, but she agreed and decided to talk to her parents.

The next day she decided to go to the principal. He got suspended for 2 days.
While he was suspended, she found out that she wasn't the only one he had done this to. 5 other girls had been in this situation, so this was no accident.

So when he came back to school, everyone knew about what happened, but no one seemed to care. His friends didn't care, and a few of the girls he sent pictures and videos to actually forgave him and became his friend.

So now, 4 months later, he is 'dating' this girl, we'll call her Tori. Apparently, Cayla was in class with him and saw him fingering her. Even though he did all these horrible things to Cayla, she still likes him and doesn't know how to deal with it. For this reason out of the many reasons, I hate him with a burning passion.

Recently, he's been looking at me a lot and being much more friendly towards me. He smiles at me and makes sure I'm ok when I get hit with a ball when our grade is outside. I still hate him just as much as did before, but I feel like a little bit of love is being led on to this hate, and I get the sick feeling that I might be liking him soon.

How can I stop this before it starts? If I begin to like him, I will loose my mind, and not to mention, it's sick what he did to my close friend! Please help! I'm going to go crazy if I start liking him, and I can hardly live with drama that is already in my life.

Thanks for any help I can get. It is so appreciated!

~ Ayden

[Living For Love]

If he somehow manages to seduce other girls to like him again, then there's nothing you can do about it. Now, just because he acts friendly towards you, it doesn't mean he's in love with you. And he might be regretful for what he did to your friend Cayla. I guess you need to study his behaviour a bit better, but don't let yourself get fooled. If you see you can't control yourself, just tell him to back off, and remember what he did before.

[RavleIncarnate]

There are two things I see out of this:

You can tell him to back off, prod him with a stick, and finger him with a butchers knife until he hates you and won't come close to you or Cayla ever again. He'd be out of your hair forever. Cayla might like him more, then abandon you.

You can see where this goes with him, maybe become good friends with him, then try to find out why he does this. If he does like you, take it, then get some evidence for yourself. With that you can go to the police for maybe pornography, and have six people as witnesses to support you, Cayla might get jealous, she'd abandon you.

Or, if you're not like me, try this:

Get close to him, but tell him in person and in secret that if he ever does something like that with you or Cayla ever again, you would do what I listed in #1, except that you won't stop until his heart does. Then, let him be with Cayla if he and sge wants to, but keep an eye on him.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I guess really - you cannot control or be responsible for the way he behaves or how others are but you can in a way just make sure you do not interact with him always be ready to just pass by or semi ignore him as best you can

[SnowAngels]

If he somehow manages to seduce other girls to like him again, then there's nothing you can do about it. Now, just because he acts friendly towards you, it doesn't mean he's in love with you. And he might be regretful for what he did to your friend Cayla. I guess you need to study his behaviour a bit better, but don't let yourself get fooled. If you see you can't control yourself, just tell him to back off, and remember what he did before.

Honestly, I don't think he likes me in the slightest, which makes it much easier on me. He's was good guy when we were friends...wonder what happened :P

I'll just use that saying I guess. "Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer."

Thanks for the help!

~ Ayden

There are two things I see out of this:

You can tell him to back off, prod him with a stick, and finger him with a butchers knife until he hates you and won't come close to you or Cayla ever again. He'd be out of your hair forever. Cayla might like him more, then abandon you.

You can see where this goes with him, maybe become good friends with him, then try to find out why he does this. If he does like you, take it, then get some evidence for yourself. With that you can go to the police for maybe pornography, and have six people as witnesses to support you, Cayla might get jealous, she'd abandon you.

Or, if you're not like me, try this:

Get close to him, but tell him in person and in secret that if he ever does something like that with you or Cayla ever again, you would do what I listed in #1, except that you won't stop until his heart does. Then, let him be with Cayla if he and sge wants to, but keep an eye on him.

I think I'm like you. I'll go get the stick.

Thanks for the help!

~ Ayden

I guess really - you cannot control or be responsible for the way he behaves or how others are but you can in a way just make sure you do not interact with him always be ready to just pass by or semi ignore him as best you can

Alright, thanks for the help!

~ Ayden

[JamesSuperBoy]

cool - I know it can be hard if friends get hurt or something bad happens but by now loads know how this guy is, As you say you do not need the drama - sometimes you have to look after yourself. I bet you are a good friend but like I say others have to be responsible for themselves.

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