Confess or not, crush is moving away?

[Polo2847]

I've been talking to this girl quite often lately for the past year. We have many things in common. I get excited to see her, and I'm happy around her. We share the same interests and always laugh at each other.

It's our senior year, it's May, several more weeks till school ends. She's moving to JAPAN in mid-July for FOUR YEARS UNDERGRAD.

It pains me in my heart to think about her leaving, but I don't want to stop her if that's what she really wants to do. I'm not sure if we should just stay as good friends or confess to her? Also, do you confess and ask her on a date, or hangout as friends and confess while we hangout?

If I tell her, I can finally stop worrying, whether it's a yes or no because then I'd finally have an answer. But if she said yes, wouldn't things not be the same because she'll be moving far away? Long distance relationships seem hard and I don't know what she'll be doing over there if I wait.

Does anyone have a situation similar to this? How did you deal with it?

[kaydencorey]

I've not been in this situation so I cant imagine how difficult it is for you.
Its sad she is going away, but if you tell her then a least you will know, and depending on her answer you can talk about how you want to progress with it.
Sometimes not doing something can hurt you and fill you with regret.

[RavleIncarnate]

I have experience, DO NOT IN ANY CIRCUMSTANCE LET HER GO!!!!!! I still regret last year! It will wrench you apart like a bear that's been starved for three months!! I'd get serious while hanging out.

[liptonlee]

If I tell her, I can finally stop worrying, whether it's a yes or no because then I'd finally have an answer.

That answers your question. You will regret a lot when you look back in life and realise such a missed opportunity. At least set that aside even if it's a no, it's not worth it to let your heart be occupied by people who doesn't love you back.

Regardless of consequences after hearing a 'yes', IMO it's good enough to settle the feelings in past and confirm she really loved ya...

[Kasp]

Agree with the above. If you don't do it you'll regret it

[Body odah Man]

I've been talking to this girl quite often lately for the past year. We have many things in common. I get excited to see her, and I'm happy around her. We share the same interests and always laugh at each other.

It's our senior year, it's May, several more weeks till school ends. She's moving to JAPAN in mid-July for FOUR YEARS UNDERGRAD.

It pains me in my heart to think about her leaving, but I don't want to stop her if that's what she really wants to do. I'm not sure if we should just stay as good friends or confess to her? Also, do you confess and ask her on a date, or hangout as friends and confess while we hangout?

If I tell her, I can finally stop worrying, whether it's a yes or no because then I'd finally have an answer. But if she said yes, wouldn't things not be the same because she'll be moving far away? Long distance relationships seem hard and I don't know what she'll be doing over there if I wait.

Does anyone have a situation similar to this? How did you deal with it?

Never been in this situation, but my friend (she's a girl) was. In the end she confessed but it hurt her cuz the guy loved her too but the relationship could not be. Watch out.

[Plane And Simple]

I'd say go for it! It may be too late, and the worst that can happen is you staying as you're now.

Good luck!

[Cygnus]

Let me sum it up for you, I've said it a couple of times before. You have nothing to lose by going for it. It doesn't have to transition in a long distance relationship either, you can make sure she has the absolutely best couple of weeks before she leaves, and you can do that regardless of her answer, that will leave a good memory. If she says yes and you are both willing to go long distance then you can also go for it if you so desire, but that transitions into a whole other thing, and you need balls to make one last.

But to put this in the present, go for it, and regardless of what she says give her the absolute best last weeks before she moves away.

[Chrisscotland]

tell her u got nothing to loose

[Melodic]

I'd tell her and see where it goes. The answer will always be no if you don't.

[Cognizant]

If I tell her, I can finally stop worrying, whether it's a yes or no because then I'd finally have an answer.

You've kind of just solved your own problem, friend.
I honestly think you should - it would remove a lot of tension and you may very well end up dating.

On the flipside, though, I've found that many online/long-distance relationships are not anywhere as magical as the "real thing", but if you're okay with that, then go for it. That's up for you guys to decide if you get to that point.

[Hudor]

Feeling pretty manic today, so I would say take the plunge! Let the future take care of itself, who knows you two could be together in Japan, or she might return after 4 years to be with you forever.
That way, even if you get rejected at least the guilt would not plague you for the rest of your life. :)

[bob97]

I'd honestly just stay friends. If she goes then it will suck but you'll get over it. If you go out and fall in love with her it will make her leaving 10x worse. Your in a pretty shitty situation that blows

[Just Sayin]

i would just stay friends

[DerBear]

I'd personally stay good friends because right now you two are going your separate ways and it might just make things awkward. Plus even if a relationship did develop it would be long distance and well, that isn't good.

Just keep in touch and maybe she might be back to visit but I'd honestly remain good friends, no point in risking things becoming awkward.

[CowboyFromHell]

Damn...this might happen between my current crush and me. I have no idea if she knows I like her but if we end up going out, I will only have a year with her in high school and then I'll be off to college and shell be in HS another two years. And she is new to the state we live in and right now she really wants to go back to the state she loved in a year ago. So I can totally see this happening.

If you believe that she loves you, and you love her, then you might as well confess. If she wants to have a very long distance relationship for 4 years, wait it out. If you truly love her you'll be patient. My crush mentioned above has a sister who's my age and she's been dating this guy for 2+ years and they've been apart for a year now (although they visited each other) and it seems to be fine for them.

[BuryYourFlame]

I'm going to go against the flow and say don't tell her. It's 4 years apart, and there's really not that much that you can really achieve by telling her before she leaves. If you want, just keep in touch while she's in Japan, but just remember that after she comes back she will be a completely different person (4 years is a long time). If you two are still friends after she comes back, see how things go for a while and then it would probably be a better time to ask her out. That's if you don't find someone else while she's gone.

[CosmicNoodle]

If you don't do not your going to regepret it for the next 4 years, and by then you may never see her again. If it where me I would tell her now and jiuat go with it.

[LifeOfLove]

Go for it. If you don't and you miss the chance, you'll always wonder "what if," even if you do it and it fails, you'll never have to wonder what would happen if you just would have said something. You never know, it may work out quite well for you!!

[canonjourno]

I've been talking to this girl quite often lately for the past year. We have many things in common. I get excited to see her, and I'm happy around her. We share the same interests and always laugh at each other.

It's our senior year, it's May, several more weeks till school ends. She's moving to JAPAN in mid-July for FOUR YEARS UNDERGRAD.

It pains me in my heart to think about her leaving, but I don't want to stop her if that's what she really wants to do. I'm not sure if we should just stay as good friends or confess to her? Also, do you confess and ask her on a date, or hangout as friends and confess while we hangout?

If I tell her, I can finally stop worrying, whether it's a yes or no because then I'd finally have an answer. But if she said yes, wouldn't things not be the same because she'll be moving far away? Long distance relationships seem hard and I don't know what she'll be doing over there if I wait.

Does anyone have a situation similar to this? How did you deal with it?

Go for it!!! You got nothing to lose! And no matter what happens, you'll always have each other right? Seriously- have a go! I've never had a similar relationship but if it was the case, I'd invite her for "one last time" :)