Love or Lust ?

[trackostudio]

Hey, I just want to ask a question about Erection

So, last week I asked a girl to be my GF, and she accepted it
And whenever I hold her hands, hug her, or when she sleep on my shoulder, I'm always erected for quite a long time, and after some minutes, mine produce some pre-cum

Now I really doubt myself
Is that normal ?
Do I really love her or just lust with her ?
Oh by the way, since then, I always feel happy :D
But, I'll be really sad if I find myself lust her and have to let her go away :(
so, what's your opinion ?

Sorry for my bad english

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[digzchickz]

well i think love and lust kinda go together in a relationship... i mean you can love without lust like family and best friends... and you can lust without love, like when people have friends with benefits or hookers lol. but yeah love and lust are part of a relationship. If you werent sexually attracted to this girl then she would just be a friend... so you just gotta figure out if you care for her and enjoy her company, or if you only have sexual attraction to her... if you are only sexually attracted then you need to let her know, its not fair to her to keep her in a loveless relationship if she wants to be in a real relationship, if she wants to be in a fwb relationship then that is fine.

[Baileyy]

Absolutely It's normal, if you find a girl attractive your body is going to have something to say about it. As a male, that's your body reacting to her presence - It just means that you find her attractive and or arousing, nothing wrong with that at all!

In terms of 'Is it love or lust' - There really is no way to find out except wait, see if the relationship plays out and lasts, or see if it is just a phase, either way you will find out yourself within time, just enjoy the time you have right now brother!

Good luck brother!

[trackostudio]

So much thanks to both of you :)

[Menzis]

It's not lust, I get boners all the time.. have had them before with hugging people I have no attractions for.

[Melodic]

I'm not quite informative on the Erection part..

However, if you are questioning whether it is love, you aren't in love just yet. When you're in love, you'll know it. Trust me. However you shouldn't drop it if you're both having a good time. Just let things happen, have fun, and don't overthink it.

[bob97]

Yeah its a natural reaction. Happened to me for months before I had sex. Its not lust unless you act on it without the love aspect