Could he still be bi or gay?

[Ryan1698]

Hi everyone

I'm trying so hard to get over my best friend, but deep down I still love him :( He's 16, and I still hold on to that tiny bit of hope that he could realise he's bi or gay, but as he gets older that possibility is just getting smaller and smaller.

Could a 16 year old still not know they're bi or gay, or would he definitely know at this stage?

I mean, even if he is, I don't know why he'd go out with me - but at least it would make it possible.

Thanks

[yeahsure]

Hi everyone

I'm trying so hard to get over my best friend, but deep down I still love him :( He's 16, and I still hold on to that tiny bit of hope that he could realise he's bi or gay, but as he gets older that possibility is just getting smaller and smaller.

Could a 16 year old still not know they're bi or gay, or would he definitely know at this stage?

I mean, even if he is, I don't know why he'd go out with me - but at least it would make it possible.

Thanks

i'd say most people know by then... there are some who don't pay attention to it until they are older.

has he ever done anything sexual with another boy?

i don't mean behaviours, as they are never good enough to be certain..

[RavleIncarnate]

You're still not in the clear, hormones are now at their most powerful. I can't really say I see forward to that. He may still be confused about his sexuality.

[Forsakenbymyself]

I realised i was bi when i was 18...

[Aceso]

I'm about to turn 17, and it was only at this point in my life that my sexual attraction was not restricted exclusively to men.
Sexuality is very fluid, and also (at least in my experience) dependent to whom the person in question is. I didn't know I was bisexual, and had never really considered it, until I met a specific girl and connected with her in a very unique way. I wouldn't say there was a stage or boundary in which you must decide your orientation by; I have known of middle-aged adults re-assess their preferences, and this does not seem too uncommon either.
However, in a situation like this I would severely consider evaluating what's going on; You may need to sit down with this person and express how you feel, and ask if, for him, you were ever a consideration. If he admits you are, then proceeding shouldn't be of any difficulty. If he explains that he is invariably gay, then it would be best to look at moving on and forward to someone else.
Good luck!

[Chase_57]

I'm 17 and I just accepted that I am bisexual a few months ago, I tried to convince myself it was just me being a horny teenager but I realize it is more complicated than that. I now identify as heteroromantic and bisexual. Sometimes it takes a while to realize who you are.