please help

[Soccertees]

I have always considered myself to be straight, being gay or bisexual never entered my mind, but the past few months things have got very confusing.
I feel differently when im around my male friends, I notice things about them that I never did before and have been thinking that being getting of with one of them seems much more interesting than a girl.
Ive seen a lot of people on here say that they are curious, what does that actually mean?
Is it that u just wonder about doing things with a guy but never would?
Or that you are gay but just haven't admitted it yet?
really embarrassing things have been happening, when im messing about with my friends, teasing each other, fighting, but not real fighting if you know what I mean, it makes me hard and I think they are beginning to notice, im a bit scared, although at the same time I want them to notice because they might be interested like me, but I don't know of they are.
Ive started to get quite nervous with one of my friends, hes very good looking and we have always been close, but if he touches me or looks at me I get a nervous excited feeling, I know hes noticed that I get hard when im with him, hes never said anything and still hugs me and sits very close to me, more now than before and hes not like that with our other friends.
i had a sore head the other day and he rubbed my head when I told him, it felt so good when he did that.
Im not sure whats going on, things are getting SO confusing, I don't want to be gay, but I think im turning gay, im not sure if its just because of this one friend though.
Im sorry for writing so much its just I cant talk to anyone about this and I don't know what to do.

[Bull]

I don't think wanting a guy/guy relationship makes you gay. I think being gay is wanting only guy on guy sex and no guy/girl sex. Do you fancy any girls? If you do you are not turning gay. Your friend does seem to enjoy your company, so at this point I would go with the flow and see how it works out between the two of you. Good luck.

[Living For Love]

When someone says they're "curious", it basically means they're willing to experiment sexual stuff with someone just for curiosity, without any emotionally sexual link between each person.

I guess just because you have that crush on your friend, it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. We all like some kind of physical tenderness sometimes, it's not big deal. I guess you're still too young, and it's still too early to say if you're gay or not, but if you ever find out you are, don't be worried. It's something totally normal, it takes a bit to get used to it, but then it's just awesome, believe me.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

I wouldn't say you're gay yet; I wouldn't say you're bi yet either.

Is it possible that you're curious? Absolutely. Is that a bad thing? Absolutely not.
A lot, lot of people, including a huge majority on VT go through times and phases of curiosity, which as said by Dance in the Dark is just wanting to find where you belong. Let yourself be curious. If something happens, go with it. You'll either find out that you're gay, you're bi, or you're extremely straight.

You are who you are, and I'm sure that no matter what your sexual orientation is, you're fabulous. It doesn't define who you are.

[Ryan1698]

I think that you're curious. Tons of guys are curious at some point throughout puberty, and it's totally normal. It's where the idea of experimenting comes from; it allows you to establish and explore what you're interested in. You're only 14 - so don't worry at all. I went through exactly the same when I was 14, only with me, it eventually clicked that I was bi, because the feelings got stronger, and I was emotionally AND physically attracted to the same sex.

You may find that after a period of time, these feelings gradually fade and you'll become predominantly interested in girls again. However, it's also a possibility that they might not, and in which case, it's probable that you'd be bi or gay. I guess the first option is more likely, but both are totally fine :) For now though, just see how things play out. Whatever you are, you are, and that shouldn't influence anyone's opinion on you. I hope you feel a little more relaxed now :)

[yeahsure]

I have always considered myself to be straight, being gay or bisexual never entered my mind, but the past few months things have got very confusing.
I feel differently when im around my male friends, I notice things about them that I never did before and have been thinking that being getting of with one of them seems much more interesting than a girl.
Ive seen a lot of people on here say that they are curious, what does that actually mean?
Is it that u just wonder about doing things with a guy but never would?
Or that you are gay but just haven't admitted it yet?
really embarrassing things have been happening, when im messing about with my friends, teasing each other, fighting, but not real fighting if you know what I mean, it makes me hard and I think they are beginning to notice, im a bit scared, although at the same time I want them to notice because they might be interested like me, but I don't know of they are.
Ive started to get quite nervous with one of my friends, hes very good looking and we have always been close, but if he touches me or looks at me I get a nervous excited feeling, I know hes noticed that I get hard when im with him, hes never said anything and still hugs me and sits very close to me, more now than before and hes not like that with our other friends.
i had a sore head the other day and he rubbed my head when I told him, it felt so good when he did that.
Im not sure whats going on, things are getting SO confusing, I don't want to be gay, but I think im turning gay, im not sure if its just because of this one friend though.
Im sorry for writing so much its just I cant talk to anyone about this and I don't know what to do.

ok, so firstly lets seperate this logically, a few ways.

1. what happens physically.
2. what you are thinking.
3. what you are feeling/ emotions.

to start, many things can trigger a boner, even situations where you are just happy or excited. that could be anything, even something like, hypothetical but, eating your favorite meal, it's just an indication of excitement.

ok, so wrestling/fighting, being chased, anything can trigger 'an awkward moment'.

you mention your friend is good looking, you enjoy his company/affection, and to a degree you are close or comfortable around each other. that is normal, and even if his kind nature triggers a boner, that does not mean you like boys sexually.

what you haven't mentioned so much is, do you think of him or other boys sexually, and do you think if you did something like that with another boy, puting aside the fact you would prefer not to be bi or gay, do you feel you would enjoy it?

i ask because you've explained a lot about what has happened, but less about your true feelings and attractions.

hopefully we can help a lil more with a little extra of your own thoughts :)

[Soccertees]

Thanks for all your replies, its good to see that people understand what I mean. I'm not sure what my feelings are, I'm so confused about it, I cant understand why its just started happening.
I have been thinking about my friend a lot and if I would like to be his boyfriend imagining what that would be like, it must mean I'm more than just a bit curious.
I don't want this though, its too confusing, I don't know what he thinks either, it feels like he flirts with me sometimes, or maybe I jut imagine that because I hope its true.
I know the slightest things can give me a boner, it happens more around him a lot though and I know he sees this.
how can you know if you are getting sexually excited by a friend and not just being close friends with him that gives you boners?
I don't understand.
Since this started I have thought about other boys too.
someone mentioned that I could have a crush on my friend, is that different to being sexually attracted to him, I don't know what the difference is.
I probably sound pretty stupid, I just don't know about this kind of thing, I never thought id have to, and it does scare me.

[yeahsure]

Thanks for all your replies, its good to see that people understand what I mean. I'm not sure what my feelings are, I'm so confused about it, I cant understand why its just started happening.
I have been thinking about my friend a lot and if I would like to be his boyfriend imagining what that would be like, it must mean I'm more than just a bit curious.
I don't want this though, its too confusing, I don't know what he thinks either, it feels like he flirts with me sometimes, or maybe I jut imagine that because I hope its true.
I know the slightest things can give me a boner, it happens more around him a lot though and I know he sees this.
how can you know if you are getting sexually excited by a friend and not just being close friends with him that gives you boners?
I don't understand.
Since this started I have thought about other boys too.
someone mentioned that I could have a crush on my friend, is that different to being sexually attracted to him, I don't know what the difference is.
I probably sound pretty stupid, I just don't know about this kind of thing, I never thought id have to, and it does scare me.

simple..

do you think about him sexually? like do you want to 'do stuff' with him?

[Soccertees]

Yes I think I do, im scared about that. :(

[Hudor]

Yes I think I do, im scared about that. :(

What are you scared about specifically?

[Soccertees]

Im scared that it means im gay, scared that I might loose a friend because I am not right about the things he is doing and they don't mean what I think, scared about actually doing something with him as well.

[yeahsure]

Im scared that it means im gay, scared that I might loose a friend because I am not right about the things he is doing and they don't mean what I think, scared about actually doing something with him as well.

that's understandable, try to not be, most of us get these thoughts.

just take it slow.

he will hint if he wants you ;)

[Hudor]

Im scared that it means im gay, scared that I might loose a friend because I am not right about the things he is doing and they don't mean what I think, scared about actually doing something with him as well.

Actually being a bit cautious is okay but keep your friendship apart from this. He might just be the affectionate, caring kind and straight or he may be bi/gay but there is no way to really tell. For now you can try to just focus on cultivating your friendship and let the opportunity present itself if and when it does rather than taking an initiative which you may end up regretting.

[RavleIncarnate]

I have always considered myself to be straight, being gay or bisexual never entered my mind, but the past few months things have got very confusing.
I feel differently when im around my male friends, I notice things about them that I never did before and have been thinking that being getting of with one of them seems much more interesting than a girl.
Ive seen a lot of people on here say that they are curious, what does that actually mean?
Is it that u just wonder about doing things with a guy but never would?
Or that you are gay but just haven't admitted it yet?
really embarrassing things have been happening, when im messing about with my friends, teasing each other, fighting, but not real fighting if you know what I mean, it makes me hard and I think they are beginning to notice, im a bit scared, although at the same time I want them to notice because they might be interested like me, but I don't know of they are.
Ive started to get quite nervous with one of my friends, hes very good looking and we have always been close, but if he touches me or looks at me I get a nervous excited feeling, I know hes noticed that I get hard when im with him, hes never said anything and still hugs me and sits very close to me, more now than before and hes not like that with our other friends.
i had a sore head the other day and he rubbed my head when I told him, it felt so good when he did that.
Im not sure whats going on, things are getting SO confusing, I don't want to be gay, but I think im turning gay, im not sure if its just because of this one friend though.
Im sorry for writing so much its just I cant talk to anyone about this and I don't know what to do.

This is a teen website! You are supposed to ask your askings and tell your tellings here. Then we are supposed to give advic, good or not.

The same has happened with me because when I see this one guy, my heart flutters like a butterfly. But I know I'm not gay, cuz I can't envision a future with any guy but myself. I ca only wnvision my future with a girl. Think of it that way.

[Chrisscotland]

sounds like he might like u a bit as well, and both of u r scared to tell the other, not easy, u could try hinting at things, see his reaction, but be carefull he isn't offended or something