Confused

[ItsNotOver777]

Ok, you might remember me from a while ago about being in love a with a girl whom I was best friends with.

I'm now pretty much over her, and I'm not sure if I have feelings for this other girl I've been close friends with.

So- "New girl" lets call her friend 2

Other friend- lets call him "Bill"

The girl i use to basically love, lets call her friend one.

Over the weekend, Me, my other friend(Bill), and friend 2 went to the movies. Me and friend two though the movie Jumper was dumb, so we left halfway through and snuck into a different one, "Bill" who came with us stayed and watched Jumper.

Me and friend 2 got into the other theater, and when we got in, after a few minutes, she removed the arm rest between us and laid down against me and put her ehad on my shoulder, and I put my head on hers. I started to wonder if I had feelings for her, and I'm still deciding on that.

Now, later, friend 1 asked me what I did that day, I said I went to the movies with friend 2 and Bill. Friend 1 got kind of mad, at the time I didn't know it. She said "you might as well just date her", I told her I didn't like friend 2 like that and friend 1 said "well you hang out with her all the time and you always tlak about her". I told her i was tired and went to sleep. Keep in mind I didn't know what she was mad.

Today..friend 1 txtd me

"You might as well go out with friend 2 and just put me out of the picture(friends)"

i didn't know what she was talking about so I said "Huh?" and she said "I'm just super pissed off right now" I said why, and she said "You and friend 2", I asked why she was mad at me and friend 2, she ignore dme for a long time. I talked to her a little while ago and found out that she "feels replaced, and I never ask her to hang out, etc."

She even got mad that friend 2 was above her on my myspace friends list, she said, "Normally I don't care but i had you as #1 for months and I stayed at #3 on yours..yet Friend 2 magically goes to #1" i told her friend 2 had just hacked my myspace (Friendly hack type thing) and i told her she could stay at #1 for a while. she said she had been pissed sense yesterday, and that she told me about it yesterday(Above paragraph), but I said she never said anything like that, but just turns out I didn't know she was mad like she said.

i still haven't really got done talking with her..

But

I don't know if i have feelings for friend 2 or if she has feelings for me. And I don't know why friend 1 is so mad at me..

I don't know what to do =\

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

It's possible that friend one is afraid that if you date friend two, you and friend one won't hang out as much one-on-one. That's a fear many people have when a good friend gets a boyfriend/girlfriend--that they'll never see the friend again without their other half tagging along. I've seen it happen, I has a friend who invited her boyfriend to a girls' night in, without even telling the rest of the girls until she was on her way over with him. Then she'd blow us all off on other days to hang out with this guy who she was with pretty much 24/7 anyways. It sucks, and I'm sure friend one doesn't want this to happen.

It's also possible that friend one isn't sure of her own feelings for you, and is upset that you'd choose friend two over her (I know it's not like they're both about to die and you're choosing which one to save, but it might look that way to her). I don't remember if you ever told friend one that you liked her, or how that worked out, so forgive me if this theory seems impossible.

Your best bet is to hold off any boyfriend-girlfriend activities with friend two until you sort things out with friend one. Talk to her in person, and calmly explain that you're sorry you got her upset and that you want to fix things, but that you're not 100% sure what the problem is. Admit that you know it has something to do with friend two, but you're not sure what exactly. Ask her to let you know exactly why she's angry and what you can do to fix it. If she refuses to answer you, you have to decide whether a relationship with friend two is worth it.

Since you're not sure if you really "like" friend two anyways, maybe invite friend one along next time you hang out. Then she can see that right now you two are just friends and she has nothing to worry about.

[Mzor203]

Ummm, so what excactly happened with friend one previously? Did you go out with her or something? Giving us that story might help.

[ItsNotOver777]

Ummm, so what excactly happened with friend one previously? Did you go out with her or something? Giving us that story might help.

Sorry I'v taken so long to reply, was on vacation.

But no, almost ayear ago I liked her but she didnt like me, but we became best friends.

[Patchy]

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[ItsNotOver777]

Please do not spam/bump threads for no reason.

I just really wanted some help, but understood, sorry.

anywho, today, friend 1 told me she found out friend 2 didn't like me, I pretended I didn't care and just said I don't even like friend 2 anymore

ahh

it always ends the f%^#$ng same

:(

[tombstonequeen]

i wouldn't believe friend 1
i think she is just jealous lol
talk to friend two urself

[ItsNotOver777]

i wouldn't believe friend 1
i think she is just jealous lol
talk to friend two urself

friend 1 now now goes out w/ a dude who does weed and is in a gang.
so yeah
kinda dissappointed in her


and according to friend 1 friend 2 says "she loves me as a brother"

ughhh not feeling to great right now

[Nihilus]

Ouch!!! caught in a crossfire. did you go out with friend 1? Well you should talk to her and include her.

[ItsNotOver777]

Ouch!!! caught in a crossfire. did you go out with friend 1? Well you should talk to her and include her.

no, never did.

Today me and friend 2 spent the whole day together.

When we were in the movies, I really wanted her to put her head on my shoulder or something like last time, never happened though. Guess you could say we "flirted" a little but nothing big..


Ugh..

I swear it it weren't for friend 1 telling me that friend 2 said she likes me like a brother saying , I'd have asked her out already.


argh this sucks

[Close102]

what you need to do is talk to them both at the same time

heres how you do it

1) ask friend 1 to go with you and Bill to like a restaraunt or somewhere you can sit and talk

2) ask friend 2 with you and Bill to the same place at the same time

3) meet them there and discuss the problem openly (a little note Bill isn't supposed to go unless you would feel more comfortable with him going you just say he is so that it doesn't look like you are doing what you are doing)

4) at the end decide who youreally like and tell the other person

5) if you fell you are ready ask the person you like out on a group date*


also i think you like friend 2

if u want morehelp pm me

* group date so that if you find out you don't really like her you will stiill have people to talk to

[ItsNotOver777]

what you need to do is talk to them both at the same time

heres how you do it

1) ask friend 1 to go with you and Bill to like a restaraunt or somewhere you can sit and talk

2) ask friend 2 with you and Bill to the same place at the same time

3) meet them there and discuss the problem openly (a little note Bill isn't supposed to go unless you would feel more comfortable with him going you just say he is so that it doesn't look like you are doing what you are doing)

4) at the end decide who youreally like and tell the other person

5) if you fell you are ready ask the person you like out on a group date*


also i think you like friend 2

if u want morehelp pm me

* group date so that if you find out you don't really like her you will stiill have people to talk to


Well, theres no "jelousy problems anymore" and I'm starting to like friend 2 alot...Its basically neutrilized any feelings I had for friend 1

I spent today AND yesterday with just friend 2 and no one else and it was great and we both had alot of fun, this one dude asked if we were "together" and she was just like No I like him as a brother., of course I just laughed but in reality I was just pissed.

So my main problem now

I just don't know what I want to do, or what I should do about friend 2...
Because I'm really starting to like her alot :(