A question for girls

[Seanon98]

Hi. So I'm Sean. I'm 15 and a freshman in high school.

So to keep things short, there's this girl that I like a lot in my class. We never really talked besides on Kik a few times. So I'm terrible at trying to meet new people, especially girls. So I've been trying to indicate something to her, but I'm not exactly sure what it is that I'm trying to indicate.

Anyway, the doors on all the classrooms on my school are always locked to the outside of them, and I sit near the door. Thinks means that when people leave to go to the bathroom or something, I need to get up to let them in. This girl I like goes to the bathroom pretty much every day in that class. When I open the door for people, I just hold it open long enough for them to grab it and open it up themselves. With this girl, though, I have started to hold it open for her and stand to the side so she can walk through instead of letting her open it for herself like I usually do with other people.

I do this trying to show some sort of interest or something. I don't know exactly what I'm trying to say by doing it, but do you think she will notice that I do this for her?

This question is actually for both boys and girls I guess. Any suggestions are welcome.

Thanks!

[Blood]

I mean, I guess she could notice? I don't know the girl personally so I can't really say. If a guy held the door open differently for me than he did for everyone else, I would probably notice.

If you like her a lot, make an effort to talk to her more.

[Seanon98]

I mean, I guess she could notice? I don't know the girl personally so I can't really say. If a guy held the door open differently for me than he did for everyone else, I would probably notice.

If you like her a lot, make an effort to talk to her more.

Thanks for the reply.

I just don't know how to start talking to her. In the class that we're in, I'm usually totally quiet because I don't know anybody in there. Wouldn't she be kind of weirded out if I just randomly talked to her?

[BuryYourFlame]

Chances are she wouldn't notice that you hold it differently for her as she probably wouldn't be paying attention to how you hold the door for other people.
You say you like her a a lot, but what are you basing this off if you haven't really talked to her that much? To get anywhere you do have to start talking, she isn't really going to take small hints like that as an invitation to talk.
Once you do start talking though, you have to realise you don't know this person yet so you can't jump in and say (even in your own head) that you want a relationship. Create a friendship first and then see if you're compatible for a relationship. Don't assume that you two are compatible from what you think you know about her.
Try talking to her a bit more and see if you can actually hold a conversation with her then once you're talking pretty regularly try asking if she wants to go to a movie or something (as friends) and see where everything goes from there.
Good luck.

[Blood]

Thanks for the reply.

I just don't know how to start talking to her. In the class that we're in, I'm usually totally quiet because I don't know anybody in there. Wouldn't she be kind of weirded out if I just randomly talked to her?

Well you guys have been talking over kik, right? If I was in her shoes I wouldn't be weirded out at all.

And no problem.

[Seanon98]

Chances are she wouldn't notice that you hold it differently for her as she probably wouldn't be paying attention to how you hold the door for other people.
You say you like her a a lot, but what are you basing this off if you haven't really talked to her that much? To get anywhere you do have to start talking, she isn't really going to take small hints like that as an invitation to talk.
Once you do start talking though, you have to realise you don't know this person yet so you can't jump in and say (even in your own head) that you want a relationship. Create a friendship first and then see if you're compatible for a relationship. Don't assume that you two are compatible from what you think you know about her.
Try talking to her a bit more and see if you can actually hold a conversation with her then once you're talking pretty regularly try asking if she wants to go to a movie or something (as friends) and see where everything goes from there.
Good luck.

Yeah, you're right. I didn't exactly want a relationship even remotely soon. I just wanted a chance to get acquainted first.

[Seanon98]

Well you guys have been talking over kik, right? If I was in her shoes I wouldn't be weirded out at all.

And no problem.

We've only talked over kik here and there about stuff that friends wouldn't talk about really. Like I have asked her about homework in that class and little stuff like that. But I mean they were fairly friendly conversations I guess.

Really, my question now is how do I exactly start talking to her? Like how do I go about it?

I don't really have any experience with this.

[Blood]

We've only talked over kik here and there about stuff that friends wouldn't talk about really. Like I have asked her about homework in that class and little stuff like that. But I mean they were fairly friendly conversations I guess.

Really, my question now is how do I exactly start talking to her? Like how do I go about it?

I don't really have any experience with this.

Oh, like the exact words to say? You're going to have to figure that out yourself. :P

You can always go with the generic "hey, insert name here, how's your day going?" I've always liked when guys have done that with me because it's short and to the point, and it gets across that they're interested.

[highschool]

to be honest, she probably just thinks you're an overall nice guys. Girls try not to read to much into things because they don't want their imagination getting the best of them. Try actually talking to her/doing more nice things.

[Seanon98]

to be honest, she probably just thinks you're an overall nice guys. Girls try not to read to much into things because they don't want their imagination getting the best of them. Try actually talking to her/doing more nice things.

It's just hard for me to try to talk to her besides on kik because I'm scared that she'll think I'm creepy or something. Also I'm not exactly good looking so I don't think she will even talk to me.

[Camazotz]

It's just hard for me to try to talk to her besides on kik because I'm scared that she'll think I'm creepy or something. Also I'm not exactly good looking so I don't think she will even talk to me.

You need to stop convincing yourself you're not good enough and just talk to her like a normal human being. "Hey, what's up? Have you seen that new movie? Can you believe what Justin Bieber did? What's your favorite 'x'? What are your plans for the summer?"

There are a thousand different things you can talk about. She's not going to think you're weird if you ask her those kinds of questions; just don't bring up awkward topics, like when she got her first period. If you talk to her as you would to a friend, you'll be fine. I understand that you might be uncomfortable with this at first, but it'll only get easier after you talk to her.

Find a common interest and talk about that. Ask her questions. Listen to her. Talk to her more frequently as time goes on. And if you feel that you might have something together, ask her out on a date. Easier said than done, I know, but if you treat it like it's a normal thing, it shouldn't feel uncomfortable to you or her.

[Seanon98]

You need to stop convincing yourself you're not good enough and just talk to her like a normal human being. "Hey, what's up? Have you seen that new movie? Can you believe what Justin Bieber did? What's your favorite 'x'? What are your plans for the summer?"

There are a thousand different things you can talk about. She's not going to think you're weird if you ask her those kinds of questions; just don't bring up awkward topics, like when she got her first period. If you talk to her as you would to a friend, you'll be fine. I understand that you might be uncomfortable with this at first, but it'll only get easier after you talk to her.

Find a common interest and talk about that. Ask her questions. Listen to her. Talk to her more frequently as time goes on. And if you feel that you might have something together, ask her out on a date. Easier said than done, I know, but if you treat it like it's a normal thing, it shouldn't feel uncomfortable to you or her.

Thanks for the reply.

I know what you're saying. It's just that I have mild social anxiety and it's just hard to talk to new people in general, especially girls. Also, I've been nothing but quiet in the class that we have together, so I think that if I just started talking to her, she'd think/know that I like her and she might be a bit freaked out. This whole thing is so stressful. I know I'm kind of overthinking the whole thing, but I don't want to screw anything up. It's ridiculous how much I think about this whole thing throughout each day.

[Seanon98]

Any other advice? I need all of the advice I can get. Girls, has a boy ever done something similar to this to you? Has a boy you don't really know approached you like anyone on this thread has suggested? If so, was it weird for you? Please guys, I need all the help I can get.

[Seanon98]

Please? Anyone?

[Seanon98]

Bump. I only have a month left of school and I need more advice if anyone has it.

[highschool]

Bump. I only have a month left of school and I need more advice if anyone has it.

this might be late, but yeah you shouldn't think you're un-attractive because some girls probably do like you. Just ask her out ( to hang out) outside of school and see where it goes. Just because school is ending, doesn't mean you can't hang out during the summer. plus you have 3 years of high school left.

[Seanon98]

this might be late, but yeah you shouldn't think you're un-attractive because some girls probably do like you. Just ask her out ( to hang out) outside of school and see where it goes. Just because school is ending, doesn't mean you can't hang out during the summer. plus you have 3 years of high school left.

Don't worry, you're not late. It's still the same.

I just don't think it'll be a good idea to just talk to her out of nowhere, because she will probably think that I'm only trying to talk to her out of nowhere because I like her. I don't want her to know that. That's why this is tricky. I don't know how to just start a conversation with someone I don't know. I just have never done it before.