Best friend comes out, confused myself .. I think I might have feelings?

[PylinJ]

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[Stronger]

Did you ever feel these feelings for him before? It seems you might be growing a thing for him, but certainly keep talking to him, maybe some how work up a way to see if he has feelings for you as well?

[Ryan1698]

Hi :)

Well, I guess the only way you can find out is to ask. You're in a good situation at the moment, and he does seem to be a dropping a hint. If you're sure you like him, just casually admit it to him. Tell him that those people are right, and just ask him. Is he aware that you're bi/gay? If not, you could tell him first.

If you're a bit unsure on whether you like him, just see how it plays out. He's just came out to you recently so you could let things develop a little, and see what nature brings, but be careful to not leave it to long. I've regretted doing that with people I've liked many times..

[RavleIncarnate]

If these feelings are only beginning, then maybe you should wait a bit to see where they go. He will be devastated if you tell him you like him now, but later you figure that you don't. Give it some time.

[steellord321]

Good advice to take your time on this. You're shocked and nervous as hell now. If down the road you decide you really do love him and not just as a friend (that can be tricky, to figure out is it friendly man crush or gay love). Then either come out to him or ask him out

No reason to be embarrassed. Guys can be with each other

[backjruton]

Well... if he's had relationships with girls in the past and is now telling you he's this way, maybe he was trying to change himself and realized he couldn't - either that or he likes girls in the romantic way but not in the sexual way which I've realized is possible as I think I could be in a relationship with my best friend but only in something extremely casual like we are now and not do anything else with her.

The best friend I had in school recently messaged me on facebook after 7 months or so of not talking, and he told me that everyone picks on him for being gay, no mention of it before that; I wouldn't exactly say it surprised me because in many ways I'd always expected it, but him coming out to me made ME feel better and also made me like him a little more than I did before because I knew that extra thing about him. But he's always been hanging around with girls, he may seem camp but the fact he always hanged out with girls told me different.

I don't know about the sexual conversations, because all of mine have been over the internet [mainly facebook] with "straight" guys who want to know why I'm calling myself gay or asking if I've ever fingered a girl or had sex with one because they're trying to brag that they have when I DON'T CARE. I keep thinking about the guys I know too, far too much, but the people I want to be with always seem to be the people who are in a relationship EXCEPT for this friend in college but I'd rather stay extremely close friends because I think as soon as you enter a relationship things get a lot worse and I know I'm not going to lose the opportunity if I ever wanted to jump at it because she's as bad as me in this aspect where no one would dare to go anywhere near her apart from me.

I really don't know how much help I can give but just be happy he came out to you because a lot of people would be too embarrassed to come out to their best friends incase they're not accepting of it. I came out by telling the guy I'm attracted to, that I'm more attracted to him than I am with my best friend and THAT moment everything changed for me and even though he still (sadly) has a girlfriend he's been a lot nicer to me and talking more which shows a sign of something, but I don't know what that something is. :whoops: