Sometimes I'm sick of my friends

[Dalcourt]

The title may be harsh but that's how I feel. I feel bad about that and I know it's mean somehow, but I can't help it.

I've seen tons of threads around where people complain that they don't have any friends, feel lonely and don't know how to make friends and things like that...for me, I have well...dunno how to put it, my problem is more the opposite.

I have a lot of friends, a couple really close ones but in addition, tons of people I just hang out with occasionally. I also have a lot of online friends I met in internet forums or chatrooms etc.

Don't get me wrong, I like all those people or else I wouldn't consider them friends or mates or whatever, but sometimes I just feel like I want to be alone. I hate that they all want to hang out with me, ask me what to do on weekends...complain I haven't texted them, responded to their emails and so on.

Sometimes I feel that this is all so exhausting...I just want to scream at those people to fuck off and leave me alone...there are times in my life that I just want to be completely alone and just can't stand people around me. People just make me sick then, I just want absolute loneliness, I can only have my cats around or well, be out somewhere where nobody knows me and tries to talk to me.

What should I do, I can't really explain that to them, can I? I mean, will people understand when you tell them that sometimes it's just a pain for you to interact with them? They'll think I'm a complete asshole...I don't want to lose my friends cuz other times I'm glad I have them and I love being around people and chat with them and do all those things, so breaking with them is just out of the question.

Any ideas?

[Bmble_B]

There's really no other nice way of telling them how you feel. No matter how nicely you put it to them, they'll MOST LIKELY (not saying a hundred percent possibility) take it the wrong way. Resulting in a break of your friendship(s). So I wouldn't risk telling them, I know how you feel. Sometimes I just feel like being alone as well. But, at the same time, this is kind of like a friendship test. Only your true friend(s) will understand how you feel, and will give you more space at certain times. So deal with it (not trying to sound rude, sorry if I do D: ) and as a result keeping all of you're friends. Or, tell them, and risk losing some, alot, or even all of you're friends. In my opinion, I wouldn't even consider this a choice, I'd want to keep all of my friends, even though I'd get annoyed at them from being "Overly Friendly" this is just a sign that they just like talking to you, and love to be around you.

[Living For Love]

I guess just like everyone needs some friends once in a while to talk to, we all also need so time to be on ourselves, lonely, just to think about ourselves for a moment. You can always tell them you want to be alone now a bit, or that you've been too busy and can't hang out so frequently. If they're good friends, then they will understand. But if they want to be with you, it means they really like you, and that's a good thing just in itself.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Yeah I get like that sometimes and emails and FB megs etc - so now I email and Fb the crowd - let them know I wont be checking emails etc for a few days - I do it here as well switch of Pms but let everybody know.

[Baileyy]

The title may be harsh but that's how I feel. I feel bad about that and I know it's mean somehow, but I can't help it.

I've seen tons of threads around where people complain that they don't have any friends, feel lonely and don't know how to make friends and things like that...for me, I have well...dunno how to put it, my problem is more the opposite.

I have a lot of friends, a couple really close ones but in addition, tons of people I just hang out with occasionally. I also have a lot of online friends I met in internet forums or chatrooms etc.

Don't get me wrong, I like all those people or else I wouldn't consider them friends or mates or whatever, but sometimes I just feel like I want to be alone. I hate that they all want to hang out with me, ask me what to do on weekends...complain I haven't texted them, responded to their emails and so on.

Sometimes I feel that this is all so exhausting...I just want to scream at those people to fuck off and leave me alone...there are times in my life that I just want to be completely alone and just can't stand people around me. People just make me sick then, I just want absolute loneliness, I can only have my cats around or well, be out somewhere where nobody knows me and tries to talk to me.

What should I do, I can't really explain that to them, can I? I mean, will people understand when you tell them that sometimes it's just a pain for you to interact with them? They'll think I'm a complete asshole...I don't want to lose my friends cuz other times I'm glad I have them and I love being around people and chat with them and do all those things, so breaking with them is just out of the question.

Any ideas?

I've never been able to relate to a post quite as much as I can relate to this one.

I get this feeling a lot, and I mean a lot, I consider myself somewhat of a social person but sometimes I just get so pissed off at the constant attention and request and such, and then proceed to feel like a twat after the phase.

Just know that I feel you brother, it happens to all of us, I believe.

[Dalcourt]

Thanks for all your input, guys.

[Alexwellace]

I know the feeling, it's like everyone is trying to grab a little piece of you and they are all pulling in the opposite direction. I wouldn't mind so much, except that by going and doing things with other people i can't be doing things *I* wanted to do. I have someone coming to ring me doorbell everyday asking if i want to 'hang out'. I say yeah, but i always hate it. Everytime. I have better things to do than sit in a park under the slide exchanging gossip about people i care little about. But i go out anyway, because they ask. And i hate myself for not being able to say no.

What i have been doing recently (while i am not proud of it, it has been effective) is coming up with excuses. I know it sounds basic, but the simplest things work. I don't want to tell my friends i hate going out with them, because in the end they ARE me friends, so the next best thing is to say i have a GAK load of revision to do and can't go out. That, at least for me, gets me enough alone time to calm down. Otherwise i fear i may have throttled certain friends years ago :)

[Cloud_Strife]

The title may be harsh but that's how I feel. I feel bad about that and I know it's mean somehow, but I can't help it.

I've seen tons of threads around where people complain that they don't have any friends, feel lonely and don't know how to make friends and things like that...for me, I have well...dunno how to put it, my problem is more the opposite.

I have a lot of friends, a couple really close ones but in addition, tons of people I just hang out with occasionally. I also have a lot of online friends I met in internet forums or chatrooms etc.

Don't get me wrong, I like all those people or else I wouldn't consider them friends or mates or whatever, but sometimes I just feel like I want to be alone. I hate that they all want to hang out with me, ask me what to do on weekends...complain I haven't texted them, responded to their emails and so on.

Sometimes I feel that this is all so exhausting...I just want to scream at those people to fuck off and leave me alone...there are times in my life that I just want to be completely alone and just can't stand people around me. People just make me sick then, I just want absolute loneliness, I can only have my cats around or well, be out somewhere where nobody knows me and tries to talk to me.

What should I do, I can't really explain that to them, can I? I mean, will people understand when you tell them that sometimes it's just a pain for you to interact with them? They'll think I'm a complete asshole...I don't want to lose my friends cuz other times I'm glad I have them and I love being around people and chat with them and do all those things, so breaking with them is just out of the question.

Any ideas?

Sometimes, it greatly depends on the personality of the individual in question. I have several friends who are like that. These friends of mine are just a bit more introverted and need their own personal space every now and then, as interactions with others actually saps quite a bit of energy from them. Sounds like it might be the case with you too.

I am more extroverted than most, and when some of these friends of mine didn't respond back, it was sometimes a bit odd to me. I did try changing perspectives though, and it made a whole lot more sense to me afterwards. I'd suggest that you just let them know in a tactful manner, that you just need a bit more space or time to yourself. You don't need to cut all times with these people, just adjust how much (or little) you spend with them, that makes you comfortable.

One of my friends told me they couldn't interact as often to people and needed a break, so that's what I did - I gave him a bit more space. We didn't chat as often thereafter, but they seem a lot happier now, whenever we do chat. Perhaps that's what you need.

I saw a cartoon once, which was a but funny, but made sense to me. If you're more introvertedly inclined, it might make sense and be of help to you too?

http://themetapicture.com/how-to-interact-with-the-introverted/

Hope it helps!

[BuryYourFlame]

Sign out of facebook etc., turn off your phone and have some alone time when you need it. That way you don't know if they've contacted you, so you don't feel obligated to respond. If they ask you why you didn't respond just tell them the truth, your phone was off. If they ask why, again just tell them the truth "I didn't really feel like talking to anyone". If your phone was off and you weren't replying to anyone they shouldn't take it personally, and if they do take it personally, try pointing that out to them.

[Menzis]

That's pretty much the situation I used to be in, I used to have friends, but I didn't feel like hanging out ALL THE TIME.. and now years later. The friends are gone and I NEVER go out and I HATE it! I agree that both sides have their own good sides and bad sides, but the fact that people are willing to spend time with you is a good thing.

[Dalcourt]

That's pretty much the situation I used to be in, I used to have friends, but I didn't feel like hanging out ALL THE TIME.. and now years later. The friends are gone and I NEVER go out and I HATE it! I agree that both sides have their own good sides and bad sides, but the fact that people are willing to spend time with you is a good thing.

I totally understand what you mean...and well, I don't really have the intention to give them up, I just feel like they suffocate me sometimes. I feel like I have to be there for everyone of them and feel guilty when I can't but on the other hand I have nearly no time for myself anymore.

Anyway a few of them will be gone soon, as I'm forced to move out of town and will go to a new school.

[Horatio Nelson]

I really can't relate as I only have few friends, and I enjoy hanging out with each of them because we are all so busy. It's what kinda happens when everyone gets a job.

But no is a perfectly acceptable answer.