I want to know

[danny16_]

I in my head is going through hell on earth. What is the feeling of harming yourself. Does it feel good or what is it that people do it for?

I hope I don't sound rude , if I do Im so sorry.

[Ebony Holden]

you know when you feel like your head is filling up with so much shit its unreal and you want to let the anger out ?

for me it takes all the shit away and clears my head ... and makes me feel calmer and more relaxed

[Gamma Male]

It can be helpful in moderation, just don't let it control you if you start it.

[ksdnfkfr]

its one of those things that makes you feel better, but most people wish they didn't do it or want to stop and can't. there are better ways of dealing with things which is what i learned in therapy.

[Babs]

it can be calming, but I really wish I hadn't started. it's very difficult to stop, even from the first cut. don't even think about it.

[Harley Quinn]

It feels different for every person, it can be somewhat of a release, a feeling of pleasure, a feeling of something being real. People do it for all kinds of reasons, some big, some small, sometimes, there isn't even a reason. Either way, it can hurt like a bitch and there's no denying that. Other times, it just makes you numb, other times it makes you feel even worse. It's one of those things where it's not really describable unless you know the feeling yourself too. When you self harm, it releases endorphins, sometimes because the rush of the endorphins - you don't even feel the pain at all.

[RavleIncarnate]

It feels different for every person, it can be somewhat of a release, a feeling of pleasure, a feeling of something being real. People do it for all kinds of reasons, some big, some small, sometimes, there isn't even a reason. Either way, it can hurt like a bitch and there's no denying that. Other times, it just makes you numb, other times it makes you feel even worse. It's one of those things where it's not really describable unless you know the feeling yourself too. When you self harm, it releases endorphins, sometimes because the rush of the endorphins - you don't even feel the pain at all.

I agree with Leprechaun. My reason, "big or small", was tht it was an escape from reality, and it was something I could control.

[just]

When your head is full of sh*t and you feel like that, and you find no reason to live...
You find that your body doesn't care and you want to die, it doesnt feel good, neither bad it feels nothing, maybe because you feel so empty, you just want to feel something, like real.
Well thats what I've felt I stop doing that like 4 years ago.

[ECSTASY]

well it releases endorphins which makes the self harmer relaxed .
i do that when im really pissed off and tired of the shits happening .
well i think i can control it myself but most of the people will get addicted to that thing . i'd suggest you to not to try it even for just one time .

[ijustwanttobearhino]

It depends. I get angry a lot and I found that hitting and throwing stuff around helped relieve it but then I felt stupid so I tried to relieve it quieter by cutting. It didn't help, it was just an annoying little pain like you've just scraped your ankle on something. Even if I cut deeper it was just as useless and annoying.

So I just resulted into exercisi

[1_21Guns]

there are better ways of dealing with things which is what i learned in therapy.

this, just this. How it feels isn't important. Many have talked about how it feels at the time, but afterwards? Nobody wants to feel how they do 5, 10 minutes after. It's temporary. It doesn't help, not in the end.

[danny16_]

Well I was curious since Idgaf and feel so empty. I thought maybe it had a slight relief since it was so out there. But im not going do it cause people do have some points on here.

I'm really liking this community because everybody is so nice. I thought people would bash me when I wrote my half story. You guys and girls are so awesome on here!

[thatgothgirluknow]

It feels different for every person, it can be somewhat of a release, a feeling of pleasure, a feeling of something being real. People do it for all kinds of reasons, some big, some small, sometimes, there isn't even a reason. Either way, it can hurt like a bitch and there's no denying that. Other times, it just makes you numb, other times it makes you feel even worse. It's one of those things where it's not really describable unless you know the feeling yourself too. When you self harm, it releases endorphins, sometimes because the rush of the endorphins - you don't even feel the pain at all.
i agree with her for me i almost never feel it does allot of differnt things for me though mostly it calms me down even though i know its a visous cycle i wish i had never started it causes allot more trouble and is very hard to stop

[Aceso]

Cutting is not the way to go.
I've been clean for a long time now, but it dosn't give anything back. It takes, and it takes, until you feel nothing at all. It's a nightmare.

[danny16_]

I use to be a heavy drinker to just be happy in the inside also since I was depressed. I stopped it though cause it reminded me of my dad. I thought about cutting of course though, it looked like people thought it was relaxed with it.
I was wrong.

Thank you everyone who replied and stay fabulous ^_^

[Luminous]

If you have not started, I recommend you don't. From what I can tell it is an extremely difficult habit to break and can leave scars that you hate. Try and cope in other ways. Beating up your pillow, ripping up paper, etc - they may seem childish but they work for me.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

It can be helpful in moderation, just don't let it control you if you start it.

I'm really really sorry. But no. Did you honestly just say to someone "it's okay if you self harm?" I cannot fathom one bit why the hell anyone would ever say that. If I, and likely a majority of people on VT who have started would do anything to be able to stop with the snap of a fingers. I honestly can't believe someone just condoned self harm, especially on a recovery oriented help site.

It's with every bit of power that I have to urge you to not start. I agree with what Leprechaun said though. There's no one answer to your question, but the one thing must people agree on is it's essentially a temporary solution that really does cause more problems in the long run - questions, hiding scars, people finding out, etc. Even during clean lapses, I personally still felt every urge - it never truly went away.

To put it into terms that you might understand a bit better, it's like binge drinking. You drink and drink and you get 'numb' and all your troubles go away.. then it wears off and you're awake in a fucked up state of mind.

I'm also glad to hear you like it here. The goal is to provide a welcoming place for everyone; for them to ask their questions & get help, share their stories, and do what they really just can't do in person.

[Chrisscotland]

i get angry, so angry and sometimes its the only thing that calms me down it causes hurt somewhere else and its not in ur head for a while, but it does not last long and then i want to do it again

[bob97]

Its something to do when you don't know what else to. I used to cut frequently and I didn't care what happened to myself. It was better for me to cut than to kill myself