How to stop masturbating so much?

[Nick M]

I have been doing it way too much to the point where I feel sore and nothing even comes out cuz I'm "out of stock". How do I teach myself to have self control and not do it so often? I pretty much do it every time I get hard.

[NeuroTiger]

Keep yourself busy...
Like doing some sports, reading or playing games...or chatting with friends and family more often ;)

[Tendencies]

It's all a matter of self-control. Maybe when you get the urge, just go do something to get your mind off of it. Maybe you could listen to music, watch a movie, or even read a book. Something that's interesting would work to get your mind off of things that would make you aroused.

[TheKingIam]

Something that really works is to start watching addictive shows
like Friends, the Fresh prince of bel-air, naruto, bleach, one piece.....
you'll be busy for a looong time

[user_of_epicness]

Find a hobby, and keep occupied

[Curious.kid]

If you don't want to get caught then you can't do it so much. I try to not do it and go overbored but it's hard because then you have to walk around with a boner.

[robbymas23]

its hard to do!!

[jeans_kid]

Yeah.. I don't have much self-control either and do run out of stock from time to time. Every time I have the urge, I'd tell myself to just jack off for a minute so that I can suppress the urge, but once I start, I find it really hard not to go all the way to the end...

Then I found that my body will let me know if I need to stop. On those days where I jacked off way too much, I got little pleasure out of orgasm and I'd naturally want to stop. But as long as my dick continues to generate pleasure for me, I'll just keep going. The pleasure can still be very intense even if nothing comes out. So there is no need to suppress your urge. Your body will tell you when you need to stop.

[Cloud_Strife]

I have been doing it way too much to the point where I feel sore and nothing even comes out cuz I'm "out of stock". How do I teach myself to have self control and not do it so often? I pretty much do it every time I get hard.

It's probably a case of mind over matter in the first instance. It's no different to the people who wish to lose weight and fight off their cravings for things like comfort food and desserts (gulp).

Certain stimuli lead to release of chemicals which trigger pleasure responses within the brain. These pleasurable responses are outside of the norm and above the baseline level of functioning for the individual. This is what makes it an enjoyable thing to experience.

However, these 'rewards' condition the brain to learn what elicits these pleasurable responses. If the brain receives repetitive stimuli of the same nature, then eventually, the body essentially recalibrates itself, such that the new baseline of function (in a pleasured state) is the new norm. In other words, the individual would need more intense or prolonged stimuli to elicit the same level of pleasure that was needed before.

This is no different to the alcoholic, who requires more and more alcohol in order to get to a drunken state.

So what happens when the individual gets no stimulus? It means that the person is now travelling at 'a low' compared to the new baseline, although this state was the same as the original baseline - where there was no stimulus! This is what causes 'cravings'. In cases where the individual actively seeks these stimuli to satisfy cravings, even to the detriment of their own social, physical and mental circumstances - this is called addiction. In such cases, without the stimuli, the person can get withdrawal symptoms, in serious episodes.


Many animal models demonstrate these well - even animals such as rats were demonstrated in experiments to choose triggering of electrical brain stimulation over feeding, to generate pleasure response. Rats would press levers for the electrical stimulus over several thousand times an hour, just to get stimulation of the pleasure centre within the brain! Animals would die from exhaustion, just by seeking out pleasure!

You can read about it here: http://wings.buffalo.edu/aru/ARUreport01.htm

This is why the alcoholic can get tremors, sweats and even seizures when they suddenly stop alcohol intake. But it's not just in serious cases like with alcoholics and recreational drug seekers - people who are used to caffeine intake can also feel uneasy, when they don't get their coffee in the morning, for instance. Similarly, one can crave cigarettes, fats in their diet, or the satisfaction from masturbation or sex.

So how to fix this? Best thing to do is probably a combination of mental and physical approaches. You have to consider and have the resolve for there to be change. Then there should be action towards achieving these goals.

It makes sense to slowly cut down instead of doing this suddenly, to minimise the chances of withdrawal. So a chronic smoker, who smoked 20 cigarettes a day for 20 years would do well to slowly cut this down to 18 a day for a couple of weeks, then 15 a day for a couple of days, then 12 a day, etc. until they can quit in entirety. So if you masturbate 3 times a day, every day of the week, you might want to slowly adjust so that you do this 18 times a week, then 15 weekly, and so on.

It helps to have a counsellor or mentor to assist with motivation, just as you'd have a physical trainer to help with weight loss. It's hard in your case to do this [pardon the pun], given the nature of what you're trying to do. Which is why it's handy [pardon another pun] that you have an online community here to support you if you need it.


Keep yourself busy...
Like doing some sports, reading or playing games...or chatting with friends and family more often ;)

Tomtiger's suggestion is a good one actually, and the idea revolves around substitution of stimuli which can also cause pleasure, to help reduce the need for masturbation towards making you feel good. It also mentally provides a means for distracting you too.

So in a nutshell?
1) Find resolve on whether this is what you really want to do. Your considering cutting is already a great step towards this!
2) Slowly wean down.
3) Find means of supporting your cause, through mentors and other activities.
4) Consistently review your progress, to validate your actions, or to help you adjust your approach.

Long post, but I hope it helps!

P.S. If you're also interested in change for the better, then do read about 'Stages of Change' model, it will really help you understand what needs be done.

[PinkFloyd]

Just ease off of it and treat it like an addiction. Keep yourself occupied with other activities with friends and what not.

[Forsakenbymyself]

Sports are a great way.

[plebble]

Lol I do that.

[yeahsure]

I have been doing it way too much to the point where I feel sore and nothing even comes out cuz I'm "out of stock". How do I teach myself to have self control and not do it so often? I pretty much do it every time I get hard.

you have to learn self control, just be strict on yourself.

Keep yourself busy...
Like doing some sports, reading or playing games...or chatting with friends and family more often ;)

and this really.

[hazzajay]

Bro, I know exactly how you feel. There was a stage in my life when I was masturbating every night before going to sleep. It became a sleeping drug in a way, where I couldn't rest peacefully until I slept. I think a lot of boys and men go through this stage. Masturbating with your mind is perfectly normal. But it can become addictive for various reasons. The orgasm is a very high sexual stimulant, much higher than cocaine. So whatever makes us feel good, we'll do it again. And again. And again. We chase that orgasm/ejaculation high.

Even though some people will tell you masturbation is normal & healthy, you don't HAVE to do it. No man on his death bed said "I wish I masturbated more..." Instead, he regrets why he didn't try more things and achieve more in his life. I use this anchor to forget about masturbation and live my life. The feeling of being sexually charged, horny and productive motivates me to get the things that I know I need to get done, done. I roar through the day high on sex energy.

Think about it, my man: can you imagine how much you could achieve if you applied the same time & energy commitment you made to masturbation/porn to other areas of your life? Instead of those 1 to 2 hour sessions, you could be getting an extra hour of sleep. Instead of those 1 to 2 hour sessions, you could be reading a book. Just some examples.

Its a great feeling that sadly many boys & men won't feel or experience until they are 40+. When men are 40 they realise there is more to life than masturbation, even sex becomes disinteresting. So why not get an advantage over everyone else now? Why not gain the upper edge now? While all of your friends are wasting their time & energy masturbating & watching porn, get ahead of them by focusing your thoughts on pursuits that are meaningful to you.

Many are stuck being average and slaves to their sexuality. They have little will power & self-discipline. Will power and self-discipline are the two powers that separate the 1% and the 99%. Did you know that the ability to delay short-term gratification for long-term gain is a MAJOR indicator of whether somebody is successful or not? They have done research on this.

A man called Napolean Hill wrote a global best-seller that has sold millions of copies, has helped million of people and is the number one book in self-development of all time. In THIS VERY SAME BOOK he literally talks about using the sex energy for other purposes than wasting it on masturbation. Put that time and energy into productive pursuits such as studying, meeting people, dating women, talking to your parents, fitness, etc.

Life is too short to waste it on things that don't satisfy you. There is a difference between the satisfaction of the orgasm after masturbating versus the satisfaction of the orgasm after sex. The proof is in the science: the hormone oxytocin is released after orgasm, but for men, this hormone is released ONLY when the man is in love with another human being. Isn't that interesting?!

Hope this information helped you, my man. Just remember that you're not alone, most of us go through this problem in this day and age. I blog about sex energy on my website, but I'm not going to link it because I'm not here to sell. I just want to help young men :)

Best,
Hazza.

[just]

I think you need less free time, you could masturbate less if you find yourself busy doing other stuff.
That works for me.

[Sanctum]

you could do something healthier, when you get a boner , you can go for a walk or for a swim and then it will die down.

[CassnovA]

stop putting your hand down your pants