Waiting until marriage or being a virgin until ready

[Lovelife090994]

Do you wish to wait for sex until marriage or until ready? Do you think you value being a virgin? Why do so many see being a virgin as a bad thing? Do you see sex as some important activity or neutral? I personally am 19 and a virgin which most of my family applauds and some of friends mention how the fact that I never slept around is a good thing. Personally, I never put value on sex and focused on school. Also, I want to either wait till marriage or wait until I am ready for sex with the person I truly love who loves me back. To me sex should be enjoyable and should be best with someone you actually love. But of course many don't want to wait and that is okay since it is them.

Do you want to wait for sex or no? If you have had sex, do you have any regrets or any thoughts on sex?

[Blood]

I'm not a virgin. I didn't wait.

Honestly, society puts way too much pressure on having sex. Do it when you're ready. Having sex before you're married isn't going to make you any less of a person, and neither will waiting. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, and there's nothing wrong with not being one.

[Plasma]

I am a virgin, but it's not like it was my choice to wait this long.

[Horatio Nelson]

I want to wait until I find "the one".

It's just how I feel about the matter.

[Lovelife090994]

I'm not a virgin. I didn't wait.

Honestly, society puts way too much pressure on having sex. Do it when you're ready. Having sex before you're married isn't going to make you any less of a person, and neither will waiting. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, and there's nothing wrong with not being one.

Can I ask you something? Do you think a virgin can still satisfy their mate for the first time? I think so but feel it may be an awkward new experience. Thanks for sharing!

I'm not a virgin. I didn't wait.

Honestly, society puts way too much pressure on having sex. Do it when you're ready. Having sex before you're married isn't going to make you any less of a person, and neither will waiting. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, and there's nothing wrong with not being one.

I am a virgin, but it's not like it was my choice to wait this long.

Thanks for replying, and value your virginity. You didn't cave into society to sleep around.

[Hollywood]

I am a virgin, but it's not like it was my choice to wait this long.

Pretty much this. If I'd found the right person in the right situation, I would've likely done it already.

People can do whatever they want, but I have absolutely no reason to wait until marriage.

[Blood]

Can I ask you something? Do you think a virgin can still satisfy their mate for the first time? I think so but feel it may be an awkward new experience. Thanks for sharing!

Yeah, I think so. It doesn't really depend on whether a person is a virgin or not, but moreso on how comfortable they are with their partner.

[ImCoolBeans]

I'm neutral. If you find somebody and you both know that you are ready, and both want to have sex, then I see no problem with that. However, if you want to wait until marriage, for whatever reason, I see no problem with that either. It's your life, your sex life, and your body.

[lyhom]

I voted neutral because by now it doesn't matter too much to me when I lose my virginity, nor do I care when other people lose it.

I honestly only really care about it if both parties are consenting. As long as you're both fine with it, do what you want.

[conniption]

I'm a virgin by choice. I'm not mentally or emotionally ready for sex because it seems like a really grown-up thing to do and I want to enjoy being young for a while longer. With that said, I think people treat their virginities like a commodity. "I give you my virginity in exchange for your love." It just seems a tad ridiculous just how much people value their virginity. You don't need to be in love to enjoy sex and you don't need sex to show your love. If you're not a virgin when you marry, that doesn't mean you love the person any less. It's healthy to experiment and experience other people--just use protection! Still, people are allowed to make their own decisions and whatnot, so do what you please with your virginity because it's not my business.

[PinkFloyd]

I'm not trying to sound like that douchebag that only cares about sex, but since I'm not religious, I always have been and still am cool with breaking the no sex until marriage rule.

[Abyssal Echo]

I'm not a virgin. I didn't wait.

Honestly, society puts way too much pressure on having sex. Do it when you're ready. Having sex before you're married isn't going to make you any less of a person, and neither will waiting. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, and there's nothing wrong with not being one.

I'm not a virgin. I didn't wait.
I do agree with Blood that society puts way to much pressure on having sex.
I see nothing wrong with being or not being a virgin.

[Miserabilia]

I'm a virgin (obvs.) but I understand that some want to wait, but I personaly don't. :P

[Gamma Male]

I'm a virgin, but not by choice. The whole "wait until marriage" thing doesn't really work when you live in a state where you can't actually get married.

[Saint]

It's obviously not advisable to have sex while you're in your teens,but once you've actually "grown" up,i don't see why not if you're dating someone. I feel like it's better to know your way into it instead of going through the whole awkward stage where you don't really know what to do,again it's just my opinion lol. & trust me,it'll probably not be like what you may see in any "adult movies".

Though I could understand why people would want to wait till marriage :P. It's really whatever people choose to go with.

[tovaris]

it paied of to not wait for me

[BuryYourFlame]

I'll just put this out there, having sex is the only experience that society considers to result in 'losing' rather than gaining (that I can think of, I'm not going on record).
My first (and second) time having sex were among the worst mistakes I've made, but that was because of who it was with not the act itself. If you've got the right mindset and the right person then whatever I guess, it's not as big of a deal as religious indoctrination has made it out to be.

[Melodic]

Well, I'm a virgin. I'd prefer to do it when things are ready and we both know the consequences and are ready for them if they choose to happen. But stuff happens.

[sqishy]

Still waiting for the right situation, I want to know the person really well or be in love with them when I'm ready, I'm ready for finding the right person, that wait is soon going to be over.

[Luminous]

I want to wait until I'm ready, but I think I am now. I don't think virginity is a big deal or anything special, but you should wait to have sex until you're ready.

[AnnaBeesley]

I wanted to wait till I was married but I ended up having sex without planning it so I wasn't a virgin any more.

[Stronk Serb]

I am a virgin. I will not wait until I am married, but I will not force myself to do it.

[Dalcourt]

I'm neutral to the whole thing. I'm not a virgin...I've been raped as a kid so upholding the whole virginity thing would have been ridiculous for me anyway.

I don't see why virginity is important but if it is to anyone I accept and respect that.

[boarder67]

I'm not a virgin

[Elvalight]

I'm not planning on ever getting married, but if I did, I'd wait to have sex until after marriage.

I'm neutral to the whole thing. I'm not a virgin...I've been raped as a kid so upholding the whole virginity thing would have been ridiculous for me anyway.

I don't see why virginity is important but if it is to anyone I accept and respect that.

I'm sorry :( virginity isn't something that can be lost forcefully in my opinion. Sure, losing it might cause some body change or something, but I've always thought of it as when someone actually gives consent. An emotional thing if you will.

Merged double post. -Cygnus David

[AgentHomo]

I lost mine at 14 to my boyfriend. I had no plans of waiting. Ever. It's human nature and to repress human nature is to show disrespect towards natural evolution. Staying abstinent is nothing to be proud of because all you are doing is repressing your humanity.

[Lovelife090994]

I lost mine at 14 to my boyfriend. I had no plans of waiting. Ever. It's human nature and to repress human nature is to show disrespect towards natural evolution. Staying abstinent is nothing to be proud of because all you are doing is repressing your humanity.

I think you mean libido or sex. Staying abstinent even if you have had sex in the past is nothing to be ashamed of. We're not walking sex dolls. Yes humans have a lot of sex, but not every human has it. 14 is young for sex but what happens, happens.

[Camazotz]

I think the best choice is to wait to have safe sex until you and your partner are ready and committed to one another. If you mutually decide to wait until marriage, that's fine. If you're not ready for marriage but ready for sex, that's fine also. It's important to respect boundaries and feel comfortable with the boundaries you decide to live by. I think that sex is an important part of a healthy relationship, but certainly not the most important part; if I met the right woman, I might be willing to wait until marriage.

[Lovelife090994]

Thanks for the replies!

[Faolan]

Seeing as I'm gay and half the places I want to live in don't recognize same-sex marriage, sex would have to be pre-marital. Unless I want to be an 80-year-old virgin. :P

[AbigailBM98]

I lost my virginity when I was 13 and I don't think I could cope with waiting for marriage. I am a devout Christian but I think sex is just a natural part of humanity for us to enjoy and we've placed way too big a taboo over it. I can't understand why anybody would wait. Take the first opportunity you get and never look back.

[Karkat]

I'm not a virgin, so no, I didn't wait :P

I think being with the right person and under the right circumstances is important, but not vital- as long as both parties are comfortable and consenting, it's fine.

I would've waited a little longer to start having sex in retrospect. Going through a miscarriage was one of the hardest things in the world for me. However, I don't regret having lost my virginity. I don't regret having sex with my partner. I feel like our bedroom antics are part of what keeps our relationship strong- being able to show your trust and passion for your partner is definitely important.

[bob97]

I feel like putting it off till sex is ridiculous personally. When you love someone its fine to be emotionally connected like that. Its not a bad thing to have sex before. When you feel ready you should. And when you love someone.

[Cognizant]

Sex is a mutual thing. That being said, sex doesn't really regard marital status. To me, it doesn't matter if you're banging that dude/chick from the bar you talked to for 15 minutes, or if you've dated for years, or if you're married and want to have kids. If it's a mutual decision to have sex, then it should be allowed (given that both are at the age of consent).

[Lovelife090994]

I'm not a virgin, so no, I didn't wait :P

I think being with the right person and under the right circumstances is important, but not vital- as long as both parties are comfortable and consenting, it's fine.

I would've waited a little longer to start having sex in retrospect. Going through a miscarriage was one of the hardest things in the world for me. However, I don't regret having lost my virginity. I don't regret having sex with my partner. I feel like our bedroom antics are part of what keeps our relationship strong- being able to show your trust and passion for your partner is definitely important.

Thanks for sharing. Me personally, mentally, physically, and spiritually I am not ready for sex and I know it. I don't and have never dated and will be busy in college.

[unknownuser]

I think I've always over-romanticized how great and perfect the first time would be; perfect person, perfect place, perfect everything... but of course, in reality, nothing is perfect. Since sex before marriage is pretty casual and accepted in our society, it kinda feels like waiting until marriage is a stupid and outdated practice and there really isn't anything special to it... but at the same time, I'd applaud anyone that waits till marriage by choice because that must take a lot of self-restraint and willpower. I don't think that two virgins experiencing it for the first time would be awkward, but I kinda feel that one experienced person and one really clueless virgin could get awkward.

For me, it's kinda hard to say if I agree with waiting until marriage or waiting for the right person ~ since I haven't met the person, I don't know and don't know what I'd do in the situation. Losing virginity isn't a life or death decision, but I do feel that it is kinda special and if you care about it, you shouldn't just give it away to anyone.

But religion and culture aside; whether you want to have sex with random people, wait for the right person, or wait till marriage, it's your choice, there's no right or wrong because no one should dictate that buy yourself and your beliefs (or lack thereof).

[Aliases]

For me, I'd wait until I know for sure it's someone who I would be settling down with in the future. I wouldn't be the A Class D-bag, Smash and pass. I don't know how people can do that.

[backjruton]

I don't think anyone should wait but that's just because I hate the concept of marriage :rolleyes:

[Babiole]

I don't think I'm ready for sex just yet. Maybe when I'm older.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

To me, losing one's virginity is sort of like a right of passage, like the first day of school, or your first legal drink or graduating from college. It's sort of a special occasion, because once your virginity is gone, it's gone for good.
However, I'm "in the mood" to often to wait until marriage.
I'm still a virgin, and I want to lose my virginity to a man that I love, not a drunken wh*re in the coat closet of a club. Basically I'm saying, you only have ONE first f*ck, so make it special.

[Sarah18]

I always wanted to wait until marriage, not for religious reasons, but because I didn't just want to give it to anyone. I still think it's something special that you should share with someone that loves you. Now I'm just glad I found someone that I know loves me and cares about me and I plan on marrying him anyway, so I trust him with it.