ive been noticing something

[jjlewis]

This isn't about me, its about one of my m8s, because im straight. so, ive noticed that he acts a bit different with one of our other m8's, like he stares at him and would put his arm around him just as an excuse to touch him things like that.
He cant help it this guy is hot and all the girls like him, so, how can he find out if this guys is gay? he must have some kind of gayness to him if he can make a straight guy feel like this right?
Should my m8 try and joke or trick him saying things like give me a kiss or touch me as a dare and see what his reaction is?
This must make my m8 gay if he thinks of another guy like this yeah?

[yeahsure]

i think tricking someone like that would be quite a sick and nasty thing to do. i'd go as far as saying immature.

you've posted 2 topics about him, why is his sexuality so very important to you?

i'm hoping your not so shallow that you would embarass him about it, because that would suggest you aren't that great at being a friend.

[Chrisscotland]

its obviously u that fancies him not a pal, just ask him if ur so interested don't be cruel and trick him how would u feel if someone did that to u!

[Karkat]

its obviously u that fancies him not a pal, just ask him if ur so interested don't be cruel and trick him how would u feel if someone did that to u!

It would appear that way, wouldn't it?

And besides, if a guy is attracted to another guy, the one attracted to the other guy is gay, not the other way around. Gayness isn't some sort of disease, or magical aura you can emit to affect 'straight people'. [-]otherwise, I'd have lots of hunnies[/-] If you are attracted to the same sex, you are not straight. End of story.

[jjlewis]

i didnt mean tricking him in a cruel nasty way i ment like ask questions that might show if hes gay, i cant just come right out and ask him.
his sexuality isnt that important to me i just need to know and im a good friend, hes one of my best friends actually id never do anything to hurt or upset him, i just couldnt.
hes just messing with my head, i dont understand why.

[yeahsure]

i didnt mean tricking him in a cruel nasty way i ment like ask questions that might show if hes gay, i cant just come right out and ask him.
his sexuality isnt that important to me i just need to know and im a good friend, hes one of my best friends actually id never do anything to hurt or upset him, i just couldnt.
hes just messing with my head, i dont understand why.

ok, i see your point.

but, i think if he is a good friend, you will let him tell you when it feels right.

if he isn't gay, then, it could be that you are just guessing because of a few things you pieced together, and you could risk offending him. either way, i wouldnt recommend it if you respect him as a friend.

[steellord321]

i didnt mean tricking him in a cruel nasty way i ment like ask questions that might show if hes gay, i cant just come right out and ask him.
his sexuality isnt that important to me i just need to know and im a good friend, hes one of my best friends actually id never do anything to hurt or upset him, i just couldnt.
hes just messing with my head, i dont understand why.

No you can't do this. Outting someone is always cruel. They'll say it when ready. If YOU like him, you can ask him out or to fuck or just admit you like him, that's it. You can't just ask if hes gay for no reason

Why use your friend like this either when its you that's so curious and "needs" to know? Figure out WHY you need to know. If you got a crush go with that.

Your friend that puts him arm around him? Could be gay, might not. Again unless you wanna fuck around with your friend, its not your business. It makes NO sense though to say the other hot guy must be gay to make your friend do that. Gay isnt some mystery magnet. That guy is just hot is all. Sounds like you both got a crush on him frankly.

[Menzis]

Putting your arm around someone.. seriously how can you think of that being gay..

[Ryan1698]

I'm going to assume it's you who likes this guy, because otherwise, why would it matter to you?

I fell in love with my straight best friend, although at my time I had my suspicions that he was bi - just like you feel your friend could be gay. I think it's in our nature to 'hope' in these situations, because we feel much more optimistic knowing that there's a chance we could be with the person we love. If you're close, and good friends, just let him know you like him. I told my best friend in a park, quite casually, and then I burst into tears. At the start it was tough, and I'm not going to lie; my friend did seem to stand further away from me and be a bit more 'restricted', but after a while it got much better.

He's now here for me if I need him, and he's also trying to find me a boyfriend. He's helping me try to get over him, while also making sure I don't feel distant from him in terms of our friendship. I can now talk to him about my sexuality anytime I like, and it's great :) You also can't be sure they're not bi/gay, and if they are, then think what it could be like.. ;)

If it is your friend who likes him, then just leave them to it, unless they ask you for help. They shouldn't be offended by you noticing stuff - but they could be, and they may feel like you're getting involved in their business. If it is you though, then just stay calm and let him know. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it :)

[JamesSuperBoy]

This isn't about me, its about one of my m8s, because im straight. so, ive noticed that he acts a bit different with one of our other m8's, like he stares at him and would put his arm around him just as an excuse to touch him things like that.
He cant help it this guy is hot and all the girls like him, so, how can he find out if this guys is gay? he must have some kind of gayness to him if he can make a straight guy feel like this right?
Should my m8 try and joke or trick him saying things like give me a kiss or touch me as a dare and see what his reaction is?
This must make my m8 gay if he thinks of another guy like this yeah?

How do you know it is just an excuse to touch him?

You say both are good m8s but than I think you would know or else does it matter

[jjlewis]

why else would he touch him unless he wanted more? we are good m8s I just cant work him out, it does matter because I need to know.

[Hudor]

why else would he touch him unless he wanted more? we are good m8s I just cant work him out, it does matter because I need to know.

No offense but why do you want to know? Does it affect your friendship in any manner?

[jjlewis]

I just need to know, its important.
It could affect our friendship that's why I need to know what's going on with him

[Dalcourt]

I just need to know, its important.
It could affect our friendship that's why I need to know what's going on with him

Well, if he is your friend he will eventually tell you when he thinks you should know. If he doesn't say anything there's either it's just in your head or he feels it's none of your business.
And if you desperately need to know the only thing is asking straight forward and not pulling up any weird crap. That's at least what always works best for me.

[Hudor]

I suggest wait a bit and watch out because staring or putting an arm around another guy is hardly enough to classify him as gay.
If you’re concerned that your friend may be gay and troubled about it and might need help you can always ask him gently about it.
Although keep that as the last possible option.

[jjlewis]

Still don't know what to do about him, hes giving off signs that hes gay, I know he is, I just don't know how to find out 100%

[Chrisscotland]

omg ur like getting obsessed over him just ask him! before u drive urself nuts or maybe u have already!

[Soccertees]

if u like him find a way to ask him but its very hard as well I want to know how one of my friends feels about me but a bit too scared to ask :(