help from bi/gay boys

[yeahsure]

im really confused, i think i'm bi... its kinda complicated.

so, im almost 14, but i think i have a crush on my big brothers best friend, theyre 19 just now..

he is almost like a brother, known him a long time, he is at my house most days. when my bro's gf comes round, or if he is bored, he'll come and chat.. he likes goofing around, like we'll watch funny vids on ytube andd stuff.. :rolleyes:

also we've went out places, just for something to do...

he is honestly really nice, sometimes i hug into him, and he smiles at me, but it's like we both know we like eac other, but cant admit it... i took his hand one night, and put it on my stomach, and i knew we both liked it.

i even joked i had a itchy back,and he said 'i'll scratch it':D i was lying down , and i kept making him go lower :wub:... anyhow, i wont bore you with a big story, just not sure, i keep feeling like i wanna kiss him everytime he is next to me smiling at me, is that wrong?
:mad: any help?

[Living For Love]

I guess you just have a typical teenager crush on him, and those things you two do, I'd say it's normal. Now, don't ever try to have a serious relationship with him, that's completely out of question. Because you're his best friend's little brother, he probably sees you as a little brother he never had as well, so he doesn't mind doing that stuff with you. Does that make you bi or gay? Well, you just want to be around him, I guess there's nothing wrong with that. Just keep being friendly towards him, and don't worry about labelling yourself just because of that "special friendship" you have with him.

[CassnovA]

it doesnt matter if u like him, the age gap is too much.

[The Flash]

it doesnt matter if u like him, the age gap is too much.

The gap between age is large right now, but in 4-5 years time, it'll be fine.

[yeahsure]

I guess you just have a typical teenager crush on him, and those things you two do, I'd say it's normal. Now, don't ever try to have a serious relationship with him, that's completely out of question. Because you're his best friend's little brother, he probably sees you as a little brother he never had as well, so he doesn't mind doing that stuff with you. Does that make you bi or gay? Well, you just want to be around him, I guess there's nothing wrong with that. Just keep being friendly towards him, and don't worry about labelling yourself just because of that "special friendship" you have with him.

It's difficult because i like him a lot... i text him a few months ago after we had been out one afternoon, we had a really cool time, and said 'love you', and he replied 'love you too lol', i wasn't sure if he meant it, or if he didn't. Also we text a lot now, maybe 5-10 times a day sometimes, and we always put xxx at the end. Plus, he sometimes says 'love you' too... i'm just confused bcos nothing physical has ever happened.

we were cleaning my bro's car once bcos he was working, and he whispered to me, "guess what?" , and i replied "what?" and then he whispered back "love you" ... my bro jokes, saying i follow him round like a puppy lol, but that's bcos we are kinda close, and i do really like him :P

he also likes seeing me, sometimes he'll ask if i'm home and come round, my bro works late a lot too, but i know he tries to see me..

it doesnt matter if u like him, the age gap is too much.

thats what makes me feel sad

The gap between age is large right now, but in 4-5 years time, it'll be fine.

i'm worried, because i don't think he'll wanna wait

[Living For Love]

It's difficult because i like him a lot... i text him a few months ago after we had been out one afternoon, we had a really cool time, and said 'love you', and he replied 'love you too lol', i wasn't sure if he meant it, or if he didn't. Also we text a lot now, maybe 5-10 times a day sometimes, and we always put xxx at the end. Plus, he sometimes says 'love you' too... i'm just confused bcos nothing physical has ever happened.

we were cleaning my bro's car once bcos he was working, and he whispered to me, "guess what?" , and i replied "what?" and then he whispered back "love you" ... my bro jokes, saying i follow him round like a puppy lol, but that's bcos we are kinda close, and i do really like him :P

he also likes seeing me, sometimes he'll ask if i'm home and come round, my bro works late a lot too, but i know he tries to see me..

I think he just sees you as a little brother, and those things he say/do just shows how much he cares about you. Either way, the age gap is quite big, and you don't even know if he's gay/bi, so, it's obvious you guys have a great friendship, but I wouldn't try going any further.

[ksdnfkfr]

he's too old. if you stared something with him it could end up ruining his life.

[yeahsure]

I think he just sees you as a little brother, and those things he say/do just shows how much he cares about you. Either way, the age gap is quite big, and you don't even know if he's gay/bi, so, it's obvious you guys have a great friendship, but I wouldn't try going any further.

do you think it would be wrong to ask him how he feels? i know the age gap means nothing should happen, but i think its ruining me not knowing? :( he is coming over later, i feel confused... i asked my bro last nite why his friend didn't have a gf, and he laughed and said 'that wouldn't really work'.. i'm sure he is gay, even though he is defo not camp or anything.

he's too old. if you stared something with him it could end up ruining his life.

i know legally it is wrong, i accept that, but if boundaries are made then could it not work? i'm almost 99% sure he likes me, and losing hope would hurt me a lot. :confused:

[Living For Love]

do you think it would be wrong to ask him how he feels? i know the age gap means nothing should happen, but i think its ruining me not knowing? :( he is coming over later, i feel confused... i asked my bro last nite why his friend didn't have a gf, and he laughed and said 'that wouldn't really work'.. i'm sure he is gay, even though he is defo not camp or anything.

I don't know what makes you feel so sure he's gay, but you know him better than I, I mean, you know his face expressions when he flirts with you, and you're physically there with him, so you can actually be right. Do you think it would be awkward if you asked your brother if his friend is gay or not? Like, when he told you it wouldn't work for him having girlfriend, you could have asked: "Why, do you think he's gay or something?" He might not know, obviously, but it would be better if you were 100% sure he was gay, because, otherwise, if you asked him if he had true feelings for you and he wasn't even gay, I guess you would creep him out and your friendship would be at stake. But if you're really sure he's gay, then just ask him, he won't probably be ofended or something.

[Chrisscotland]

this happened to me as well, first it was my older brother friend, he is 23, so I know far too old for me but it didn't stop me really wanting something to happen with him. now I like one of my sisters friends hes 17, its really unfair because its too risky asking them if they are gay and it hurts liking them and not being able to do anything about it.
if you 2 are good pals then itd be ok to just ask him I think.

[yeahsure]

I don't know what makes you feel so sure he's gay, but you know him better than I, I mean, you know his face expressions when he flirts with you, and you're physically there with him, so you can actually be right. Do you think it would be awkward if you asked your brother if his friend is gay or not? Like, when he told you it wouldn't work for him having girlfriend, you could have asked: "Why, do you think he's gay or something?" He might not know, obviously, but it would be better if you were 100% sure he was gay, because, otherwise, if you asked him if he had true feelings for you and he wasn't even gay, I guess you would creep him out and your friendship would be at stake. But if you're really sure he's gay, then just ask him, he won't probably be ofended or something.

i did ask why, and he said it wasn't up to him to say... he is coming over in about an hour, so i'll maybe just test things out first by making a few 'jokes':rolleyes:

he wouldn't ever hate me, i know he cares about me...

i'll update on here what happens, but thanks for the help, i hope you keep helping bcos i really need it! Thanks:)

this happened to me as well, first it was my older brother friend, he is 23, so I know far too old for me but it didn't stop me really wanting something to happen with him. now I like one of my sisters friends hes 17, its really unfair because its too risky asking them if they are gay and it hurts liking them and not being able to do anything about it.
if you 2 are good pals then itd be ok to just ask him I think.

yeh, i have known him for years... he has been my brothers best friend since i was born... i know there are risks, but if anything does happen, it eould be private.. he only is really friends with my bro, and i would NEVER risk anything by telling anyone.

do you prefer older boys, i seem to.. i just think boys our age can be nasty and immature? nit all, but i trust older boys more..

[Chrisscotland]

I seem to like older guys too, they are hot! but its risky, itd be so much easier if it were someone my own age, but my bro and sis friends always seem so attractive its unfair.

[yeahsure]

I seem to like older guys too, they are hot! but its risky, itd be so much easier if it were someone my own age, but my bro and sis friends always seem so attractive its unfair.

whats the oldest you would go, if there was no risk? i like up to maybe about 30:rolleyes:

[Chrisscotland]

I dunno how old I would go, maybe not 30 that seems a bit too old, but if u think a guy is hot u prob wouldn't care how old he was,, I kinda like guys 25ish most.

[yeahsure]

I dunno how old I would go, maybe not 30 that seems a bit too old, but if u think a guy is hot u prob wouldn't care how old he was,, I kinda like guys 25ish most.

i mean if they were really hot..

i dont think i would irl, but risk free i might :P

he'll be here in 10 minutes :) stay and help me, i'm so nervous

[Chrisscotland]

awwww u must like him a lot if u get nervous like that

[yeahsure]

i do, he is so sweet, and gentle... when he hugs me its like i'm in heaven..

i actually get shakey when i know he is coming lol

i get scared i make a wrong move :/

[StarSpark]

I don't think age is a problem , love is love and I believe people should be able to date who they want , I'm a very shy person never leave the house and talk to people so I'm not 100% how to handle it ... but just ease him into the questions you want to ask him and I believe it will be ok .

[yeahsure]

I don't think age is a problem , love is love and I believe people should be able to date who they want , I'm a very shy person never leave the house and talk to people so I'm not 100% how to handle it ... but just ease him into the questions you want to ask him and I believe it will be ok .

well, last night, i saw him... and i joked to him and said "hey hotty" when he walked in :D

he replied "hey handsome" ;)

so we were just chilling, and doing our usual silly stuff, and i couldn't help myself, i just said "can i have a cuddle" and he smiled and hugged me :D it lasted ages..

i looked at him, and said "I really like you", and he said "same".. so, i'm still not sure, but i think he does like me? i was too nervous to try anything more..

he said he will be back over tomorrow :)

anyone any tips or advice? :what:

[StarSpark]

Awwwwwww <3 :) , that's so cute !
Umm I'm not sure I've never been in a irl relationship sadly :, ( , but I would just keep being nice an friendly . Also try not to label it as you guys are dating because that wouldn't end well legally but if you 2 truly love eachother than I think you guys should be together . But this is my opinion and most people would be mad at me saying that a 14y/o & a 19y/o should date but I see no problem with it :)

Good luck buddy :)

[yeahsure]

Awwwwwww <3 :) , that's so cute !
Umm I'm not sure I've never been in a irl relationship sadly :, ( , but I would just keep being nice an friendly . Also try not to label it as you guys are dating because that wouldn't end well legally but if you 2 truly love eachother than I think you guys should be together . But this is my opinion and most people would be mad at me saying that a 14y/o & a 19y/o should date but I see no problem with it :)

Good luck buddy :)

thanks :D he only turned 19 a week ago, and i'm 14 soon...

i actually got a boner sitting next to him, and im sure he noticed :yes:

i was sitting behind him, with my arms round him when it happened, he was playing COD, and i think he felt it, bcos he said " you happy there?" and laughed :rolleyes: was embarassing but felt nice!

I just want to kiss him so badly, i have to stop myself!

[StarSpark]

I kinda get how you feel about him , I kinda had a crush on my friend who I hung out with a bit in school and I was laying on top of him cuddling and I just had th biggest urge to Kiss him . I never did as for its against school rules and I'm not sure if he would get upset but I do understand how you feel about him.
Also I recommend just going with the flow of things , I think both of you guys relies that you guys like eachother and that things will progress . Just if things do please make sure things don't go "to far " if you feel uncomfortable about it .
If you ever need to talk about it or anything i'm on here allot , I just recently made an account but I've been roaming the forum for a good while.

Have fun and try to keep us updated

~Steven

[phuckphace]

the age gap is too big IMO. just be careful.

[Gamma Male]

Yeah, I doubt things would ever really work out because of the age gap but you never know. If something does happen between you two I don't really see a problem with it, but just be careful for his sake. He could get in a lot of legal trouble.





You two do sound adorable though.:P <3

[StarSpark]

You two do sound adorable though.:P <3

I know right , they so so cute and adorable together , if I could send this ship a sail I would :D

[Dalcourt]

it sounds kinda cute...and maybe he is into you on the other hand he maybe just sees a lil bro in you I can't tell you as I don't know you ... as the others said the age gap is maybe difficult not so much the gap but your age... I dunno about the laws where you live but where I live my boyfriend and I have to be really careful cuz of a similar age gap...I don't want him to get in trouble.

keep us updated, okay?

[yeahsure]

I kinda get how you feel about him , I kinda had a crush on my friend who I hung out with a bit in school and I was laying on top of him cuddling and I just had th biggest urge to Kiss him . I never did as for its against school rules and I'm not sure if he would get upset but I do understand how you feel about him.
Also I recommend just going with the flow of things , I think both of you guys relies that you guys like eachother and that things will progress . Just if things do please make sure things don't go "to far " if you feel uncomfortable about it .
If you ever need to talk about it or anything i'm on here allot , I just recently made an account but I've been roaming the forum for a good while.

Have fun and try to keep us updated

~Steven

i will be careful, thanks for helping ;)

the age gap is too big IMO. just be careful.

i know it's an issue, but we've known each other a long time, we are quite alike, we are both really affectionate.

Yeah, I doubt things would ever really work out because of the age gap but you never know. If something does happen between you two I don't really see a problem with it, but just be careful for his sake. He could get in a lot of legal trouble.





You two do sound adorable though.:P <3

thing is, we already get on amazingly well, so that's not so much an issue, it's more to do with everyone else's opinions.

if we were the only two people on a desert island, i'm sure we'd be 'hapilly ever after'... but we aren't, so i need to be careful..

it sounds kinda cute...and maybe he is into you on the other hand he maybe just sees a lil bro in you I can't tell you as I don't know you ... as the others said the age gap is maybe difficult not so much the gap but your age... I dunno about the laws where you live but where I live my boyfriend and I have to be really careful cuz of a similar age gap...I don't want him to get in trouble.

keep us updated, okay?

my bedroom door has a lock, so...

anyway, he is coming over when i get home from school today :yeah:

[yeahsure]

just an update, but things are going well, after speaking to him.

not sure if anyone needs details. so happy :)

[Living For Love]

just an update, but things are going well, after speaking to him.

not sure if anyone needs details. so happy :)

So, are you guys officially dating or you're just closer than before?

[Dalcourt]

just an update, but things are going well, after speaking to him.

not sure if anyone needs details. so happy :)

what do you mean by going well? did ya talk to him if he's into you?

[yeahsure]

So, are you guys officially dating or you're just closer than before?

what do you mean by going well? did ya talk to him if he's into you?

well, he was lying on my bed, because i was playing GTA, i was sitting on the end, so i turned round and kinda jumped on him (playful), and he grabbed both my hands...

he was kind of holding me off him, so i said "let me lie down", so he laughed and let me, meaning i was lying face down on him... a minute passed and i said "can we stay like this forever, cos i love you..."

he went silent for a second, then said "I hope so."

Anyway, we spoke, a little, and agreed we like each other, not much else... i think we were both surprised to be fair:P

anyway, i'm staying at his house tonight, my mum said it was ok, she trusts him, though obviously, nobody knows we actually like each other. i'm heading there shortly.. not sure what will happen next:yeah:

[StarSpark]

Yaayyy !! It's like an awesome love story :D ❤ , keep us informed of what's up next :D

[yeahsure]

Yaayyy !! It's like an awesome love story :D ❤ , keep us informed of what's up next :D

thanks! :yeah:

it's going great! he said he could die happy now, bcos he loved me so much and was struggling dealing with it, because he felt he had to hide it... he said he felt like it was wrong and bad...

we've agreed to take it super slow, and be extra careful, and nothing is official. we both know how we feel now, so we know we don't need to rush and do anything we aren't meant to.

i'm still over the moon though, he ticks all the right boxes for me ;)

[nino51300]

Good for you, that worked out in your favor :P

[Dalcourt]

thanks! :yeah:

it's going great! he said he could die happy now, bcos he loved me so much and was struggling dealing with it, because he felt he had to hide it... he said he felt like it was wrong and bad...

we've agreed to take it super slow, and be extra careful, and nothing is official. we both know how we feel now, so we know we don't need to rush and do anything we aren't meant to.

i'm still over the moon though, he ticks all the right boxes for me ;)

cute, I wish you all the best then... :P

[kaydencorey]

Must be the best feeling ever if you love someone and you know they feel the same way about you, you must be in heaven :)
Good luck to you both :)