The past two weeks have been an emotional roller coaster

[PinkFloyd]

This thread is not like other threads. This thread is me sharing my story because I need to share it and get it out in the open. Here we go. Grab a beer and sit down and listen to my shit.

Let's start off with me explaining the various people involved in this clusterfuck.

Chris is the center of everything. He is my best friend ever. I met him 5 years ago in 6th grade and we have had a close bond ever since. I love him. Yes. I fucking love him to pieces but not is a sexual way; in a bromantic way. It's completely friendly and we haven't EVER and wont EVER do anything sexual because that's out of the question completely. Chris has always been kind of a risk taker. It all started when we were both in 6th grade towards the end of the school year. Someone gave him LSD and he took it and started tripping and all that shit. He was and still is aware that that stuff will rot your brain so he hasn't come close to it ever since. What he has come in contact rugualrly is Marijuana, Cigarettes, and most of all, an E-Cig. Another thing about him... Chris is very free spirited to the point that when bad shit like this happens, he feels trapped and doesn't know what to do. Bri, his gorlfriend got a text a few hours ago saying that he wanted to give up on life. That alarmed and still alarms me because I fear for his life. Like I said before, I love him in a completely abstract way.

Bri is Chris's girlfriend that very much worries about him just like I do.

Dan is Chris' dad who is very supportive of all that Chris has been going through and really cares a great deal about Chris.

Mel is Chris' mom. She is very strict and not very nice to Chris and does not like Bri at all because Bri smokes an E-cig. I don't see the logic there.

ANYWAYS, About 3 weeks ago, Chris got really angry at a standardized test and made a bunch of death threats by writing on the test sheet. That obviously got the school on their feet. They were going to expel him but he got out of that just barely and instead, put on a tight watch list. Well, remember that dark sense of humor of his I talked about? Today in science, he walked in the room and started gong POW POW POW with his hands shaped like a gun and laughing because it really was nothing more than a joke. Then about 20 minutes after getting in some trouble for that, the teacher put a list of groups that would be in the lab. Chris said "heh heh, it's like a hit list?" That got him talked to again.

When Chris got home, he invited me over to his house to hang out. When I got there, we were doing normal things like Xbox. Then Chris got a call from his mom asking why the school was telling them that Chris "comes off as a threat to other students." His dad then called and asked the same thing. Chris really had no idea what they were talking about so he said he didn't know. He hung up and we proceeded like nothing was wrong because we really didn't think there was anything wrong.

I wanted to go to the mall, so we got in my car, went to pick up Bri and then went to the mall. Here's where it all escalated.

At the mall, we got seperated from Bri. While Bri was off by herself, the crazy mom, Mel saw her with the E-cig and said that she can no longer see Chris. That sent Bri into an ultra emotional state that still remained when she re-united with us. SHe wanted to just go home, so we went home. When we were going home, Chris had to be dropped off to go with his dad on a car ride to talk about what happened.

Me and Bri were alone in my car and ended up just driving around for 2 hours and talking about stuff. We got really deep in conversation and I really liked it becaus I got to know her more and all was good except for the drama. Nothing happened between me and her and while I will admit that I like her and think she's pretty hot, I would never make a move on her. So yeah, we just drove around and then got back to Her house and met Chris.

Chris told us that our school district will not let him back in and that he has to go to an alternate school that is meant for "kids like him." This is all really shocking to me and it wasn't good at all.

From here, I have no idea what's going to happen. I have so many questions and I feel like I'm emotionally trapped. I don't know what to do next. This entire situation blows. Thanks for reading if you actually got this far.

[Living For Love]

I don't want to sound judgemental, but I guess his actions had consequences that he needs to deal with. I mean, he knows the kind of society he lives in, he knows the stuff that has been happening recently as far as school attacks are concerned, yet he just kept acting like it was some kind of joke, like he wasn't aware of the effects they could have.

He seems to want attention, so I guess you, as his best friend, could just talk to him regularly, let him know you care, that he is not alone, and tell his girlfriend to do the same. Maybe it will be better for him to move schools, he will meet new people, his life could actually get a bit better now.

[radsniper]

that sucks,but really he should have stopped or at least toned it down a bit all you can really do is talk to him and make him feel better.

[backjruton]

Wow. I was a bit like that I guess and they never sent me anywhere else because of it. Not because no where else was available, there is a special school here and a school meant for people who need to get their behavior problems sorted when they began to cause a LOT of trouble and it went on for a while. I should have gone to a special school; a few of my teachers even said so and so did my parents - and the more I think of it in a way I wish I did...

In the case I had with someone else who was causing me trouble; he kept saying some really bad things to me, spitting on me and stuff, and a lot of other things I really hated; for that I reported him and along with that and something else they started to realize he really was bad and sent him away for a while. He was somewhere else for 1-to-2 years and he eventually came back nicer and I made really good friendship with him then. Maybe there's a disability somewhere and they sent him to a special school, either that or he's just somewhere to reform his behavior.


Honestly, to me what he did doesn't sound too bad, but that's because I'm also guilty of the same kind of thing. It's the kind of... I really didn't know it was bad, my weird hormones or whatever got the best of me and I actually thought girls liked being asked for sex. I don't even like girls in that way, not at all, so I have no idea what came over me... I remember chasing a few girls around the whole school, even chasing them so far that they ran into the toilets at the other side to get away from me. I really saw nothing wrong with it, didn't know what their problem was, and it was the first year of high school when I'd already got in trouble 3 times in primary school for the same kinda thing. No one ever told me it was wrong, so I did it.

I kept chasing these girls and eventually one of them must have told the teacher which escalated to the head of year, my form tutor and possibly the head teacher and I almost got expelled too. It was only in a shock phone call with my mum that they found out I'd just started to get checked for a disability and that I couldn't help what I was doing. 4 years later we found out I'm autistic, they're leaving it there for some stupid reason when I really really want to get myself checked out for more; a lot of my problems with girls stopped then but none of them would talk to me up until that point in year 10. They didn't send me to a special school because of it, they probably should have but they didn't, but that's probably because I soon learned from my mistakes and stopped doing it. A lot of the teachers actually forgave me I think, but my art teacher didn't and luckily he left a year later. 3 or 4 girls or so still hated me at the end and would never talk to me but it's better than "the majority" of them.

I've done a lot of bad things since, but not as bad so they haven't done anything about it - in all of school I only ever got in trouble for 3 times other than that and I don't think they even mentioned what I did those days in my college referral because I didn't do it again. Maybe he should have stopped, but I will also never see why someone should try to modify their behavior much to conform - I don't like mixing with people, I like being that "annoying friend" who can be friendly but also quite rude. Everything I said was sexual; once telling a girl to piss in my mouth when I got extremely hyper and the teacher wouldn't let her go to the toilet, a lot of sexual jokes to my best friend including looking at eachother when someone uses the word "spanking" and to another girl. To 2 of my guy friends as well, I once jokingly asked a friend for sex, that was another bad one. I can't remember too much, but I've always been quiet and I think now they know more about me they know I'm never serious so only one time in college they've told the tutor about it.


It sounds really confusing but it's good if you can still see him yourself. It will be a weirder friendship as you won't see eachother so often but maybe he'll be better where he's gone too. I don't know as I was never in that situation but it definitely sounds to me like a place where they're going to try and fix his behavior and MAYBE send him back to where you are soon. Try your best with it; I don't really know how much help I can give myself as I'm more like him, but just try your best with it and with him.

:metal:

[PinkFloyd]

Wow. I was a bit like that I guess and they never sent me anywhere else because of it. Not because no where else was available, there is a special school here and a school meant for people who need to get their behavior problems sorted when they began to cause a LOT of trouble and it went on for a while. I should have gone to a special school; a few of my teachers even said so and so did my parents - and the more I think of it in a way I wish I did...

In the case I had with someone else who was causing me trouble; he kept saying some really bad things to me, spitting on me and stuff, and a lot of other things I really hated; for that I reported him and along with that and something else they started to realize he really was bad and sent him away for a while. He was somewhere else for 1-to-2 years and he eventually came back nicer and I made really good friendship with him then. Maybe there's a disability somewhere and they sent him to a special school, either that or he's just somewhere to reform his behavior.


Honestly, to me what he did doesn't sound too bad, but that's because I'm also guilty of the same kind of thing. It's the kind of... I really didn't know it was bad, my weird hormones or whatever got the best of me and I actually thought girls liked being asked for sex. I don't even like girls in that way, not at all, so I have no idea what came over me... I remember chasing a few girls around the whole school, even chasing them so far that they ran into the toilets at the other side to get away from me. I really saw nothing wrong with it, didn't know what their problem was, and it was the first year of high school when I'd already got in trouble 3 times in primary school for the same kinda thing. No one ever told me it was wrong, so I did it.

I kept chasing these girls and eventually one of them must have told the teacher which escalated to the head of year, my form tutor and possibly the head teacher and I almost got expelled too. It was only in a shock phone call with my mum that they found out I'd just started to get checked for a disability and that I couldn't help what I was doing. 4 years later we found out I'm autistic, they're leaving it there for some stupid reason when I really really want to get myself checked out for more; a lot of my problems with girls stopped then but none of them would talk to me up until that point in year 10. They didn't send me to a special school because of it, they probably should have but they didn't, but that's probably because I soon learned from my mistakes and stopped doing it. A lot of the teachers actually forgave me I think, but my art teacher didn't and luckily he left a year later. 3 or 4 girls or so still hated me at the end and would never talk to me but it's better than "the majority" of them.

I've done a lot of bad things since, but not as bad so they haven't done anything about it - in all of school I only ever got in trouble for 3 times other than that and I don't think they even mentioned what I did those days in my college referral because I didn't do it again. Maybe he should have stopped, but I will also never see why someone should try to modify their behavior much to conform - I don't like mixing with people, I like being that "annoying friend" who can be friendly but also quite rude. Everything I said was sexual; once telling a girl to piss in my mouth when I got extremely hyper and the teacher wouldn't let her go to the toilet, a lot of sexual jokes to my best friend including looking at eachother when someone uses the word "spanking" and to another girl. To 2 of my guy friends as well, I once jokingly asked a friend for sex, that was another bad one. I can't remember too much, but I've always been quiet and I think now they know more about me they know I'm never serious so only one time in college they've told the tutor about it.


It sounds really confusing but it's good if you can still see him yourself. It will be a weirder friendship as you won't see eachother so often but maybe he'll be better where he's gone too. I don't know as I was never in that situation but it definitely sounds to me like a place where they're going to try and fix his behavior and MAYBE send him back to where you are soon. Try your best with it; I don't really know how much help I can give myself as I'm more like him, but just try your best with it and with him.

:metal:

I actually did a similar thing when I was in grades 2-4. I would chase kids and hug them and make sexual jokes. I did that until I realized the damage I was doing. After that, I decided to stop completely.

And honestly, I don't think he should have been expelled. I think he needs some professional help from a therapist and not to be sent to some school that has guards armed with Heckler and Koch MP-5's because apparently, all the kids attending are of the same mental state as the Columbine shooters.

that sucks,but really he should have stopped or at least toned it down a bit all you can really do is talk to him and make him feel better.

Yeah, he knows that now. He realizes what he did was wrong even though he didn't actually hurt anyone. He even gave up all the drugs and what not. I watched him smash his glass weed pipe and then his really expensive E-cig. He just smashed both of them to bits and then we walked away.

I don't want to sound judgemental, but I guess his actions had consequences that he needs to deal with. I mean, he knows the kind of society he lives in, he knows the stuff that has been happening recently as far as school attacks are concerned, yet he just kept acting like it was some kind of joke, like he wasn't aware of the effects they could have.

He seems to want attention, so I guess you, as his best friend, could just talk to him regularly, let him know you care, that he is not alone, and tell his girlfriend to do the same. Maybe it will be better for him to move schools, he will meet new people, his life could actually get a bit better now.

What he did was wrong for sure and he nows that. It's not for attention I don't think though. He has a girlfriend that he is always with and like half the school likes him and is pissed that he got expelled. On Monday, people will protest about it for sure.

Anyway, yeah, he needs to know that this shit isn't okay. This is not a situation where he should actually be expelled in my opinion but maybe take the rest of the school year off. Then again, if the officials of Columbine high school looked closer at Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold who were the shooters, maybe they could have gotten some help. I don't know; it's just an idea. Anyways, bottom line, what he did was wrong.

[backjruton]

I actually did a similar thing when I was in grades 2-4. I would chase kids and hug them and make sexual jokes. I did that until I realized the damage I was doing. After that, I decided to stop completely.

And honestly, I don't think he should have been expelled. I think he needs some professional help from a therapist and not to be sent to some school that has guards armed with Heckler and Koch MP-5's because apparently, all the kids attending are of the same mental state as the Columbine shooters.


Hmm I don't know too much because I stopped purely out of fear when I saw how angry these 3 teachers were. I don't actually think they took it to the head, but they came very close to - they called my mum first for some reason. Luckily she wasn't so pissed off with me, it was partly the teacher we told in the first place's fault because mum told her that I was being suspected for this and she didn't tell anyone else even though she was in the Special Needs department they have there. I remember my dad actually laughed, she still partly blames it on him because of that.

In a way, it's good I got the first extreme warning because I fear trouble, severely, and because of that I knew not to get into it again - although when I did make these sexual jokes the other times the only teacher who didn't really find it funny was my form tutor I had for year 7-9. But I remember, when I said this girl could piss in my mouth and the teacher walked back into the room (she was doing something outside when I said it), she told her and I could actually see her smiling, slightly giggling. Everyone in the classroom laughed. I was really really hyper and couldn't think what I was saying AT ALL. I've always been told to think before I speak as that's where most of my problems lie but I never have and never will. The teacher sent me outside for 2 minutes, had a quick word with me about it while slightly giggling, then logged it on the computer to shame me so all the other teachers could see what I'd done. She honestly seemed more pissed off when I told her I'd stole a glue stick a YEAR before my friend stupidly told her, and she took me upstairs to the "head of department" who almost grilled me for it, ONE GLUE STICK, and told me to bring it back the next day - but as my dad is a postman, we got him to deliver it to the school instead and I'm really happy we did that as revenge because I was determined there was no way I'm going in on a half day. The next morning my form tutor (I'd changed at this point because I got sick of being in the one group with a bunch of pricks I no way got along with) actually laughed I think, I can't remember about him as he was a grumpy git. But the P.E teacher laughed, obviously he said that I need to be careful but he still found it funny when he noticed what I'd done as from me they all expected it.

I once took a photo of these 2 girls, showed it to my old form tutor and she actually had the cheek to ask me if they knew I took it yet they were SMILING at ME which I guess is proof they did know. She was probably worried I'd look at that instead of search the internet that night... I still haven't stopped making the jokes but that's because people have actually smiled and laughed at me when I did it as they've come to expect it. Earlier walking back home my brother was about to tell me why I should keep the leaflets I get given in town, I immediately said "spunk rag" and then ran off before he got to say to use it as inspiration for my art projects... Until they show proper proof it annoys them, I don't think I'll ever stop, because even the teachers do hardly anything about it now :)

And if by professional help from a therapist you mean just something like telling him what's right and wrong and making it seem more serious, then I definitely agree. But I know what I was like, my parents were too scared to try and get me help. I've now shown to be more willing about losing weight as i'm sick of going down and back up all the time, and my behavior is slowly improving by itself because I'm getting happier again now I'm done with school. Maybe, just maybe, they'll allow him back when he has had some help because isolating him seems like a terrible idea which is why in a way I'm against the idea of special schools as they don't seem to allow you to mix with "normal" people, and I myself would never do that to anyone. I don't think it's bad that he did what he did, but he should have at least toned it down after getting into trouble once or twice - doing it a lot less so not to get in trouble as easily. That is where I and him seem different as from the shit I got I've learned something that a lot of people like me probably won't. I toned it down, and now because they probably expect worse from me there's not much they can think to do about it... :whoops:

[PinkFloyd]

Hmm I don't know too much because I stopped purely out of fear when I saw how angry these 3 teachers were. I don't actually think they took it to the head, but they came very close to - they called my mum first for some reason. Luckily she wasn't so pissed off with me, it was partly the teacher we told in the first place's fault because mum told her that I was being suspected for this and she didn't tell anyone else even though she was in the Special Needs department they have there. I remember my dad actually laughed, she still partly blames it on him because of that.

In a way, it's good I got the first extreme warning because I fear trouble, severely, and because of that I knew not to get into it again - although when I did make these sexual jokes the other times the only teacher who didn't really find it funny was my form tutor I had for year 7-9. But I remember, when I said this girl could piss in my mouth and the teacher walked back into the room (she was doing something outside when I said it), she told her and I could actually see her smiling, slightly giggling. Everyone in the classroom laughed. I was really really hyper and couldn't think what I was saying AT ALL. I've always been told to think before I speak as that's where most of my problems lie but I never have and never will. The teacher sent me outside for 2 minutes, had a quick word with me about it while slightly giggling, then logged it on the computer to shame me so all the other teachers could see what I'd done. She honestly seemed more pissed off when I told her I'd stole a glue stick a YEAR before my friend stupidly told her, and she took me upstairs to the "head of department" who almost grilled me for it, ONE GLUE STICK, and told me to bring it back the next day - but as my dad is a postman, we got him to deliver it to the school instead and I'm really happy we did that as revenge because I was determined there was no way I'm going in on a half day. The next morning my form tutor (I'd changed at this point because I got sick of being in the one group with a bunch of pricks I no way got along with) actually laughed I think, I can't remember about him as he was a grumpy git. But the P.E teacher laughed, obviously he said that I need to be careful but he still found it funny when he noticed what I'd done as from me they all expected it.

I once took a photo of these 2 girls, showed it to my old form tutor and she actually had the cheek to ask me if they knew I took it yet they were SMILING at ME which I guess is proof they did know. She was probably worried I'd look at that instead of search the internet that night... I still haven't stopped making the jokes but that's because people have actually smiled and laughed at me when I did it as they've come to expect it. Earlier walking back home my brother was about to tell me why I should keep the leaflets I get given in town, I immediately said "spunk rag" and then ran off before he got to say to use it as inspiration for my art projects... Until they show proper proof it annoys them, I don't think I'll ever stop, because even the teachers do hardly anything about it now :)

And if by professional help from a therapist you mean just something like telling him what's right and wrong and making it seem more serious, then I definitely agree. But I know what I was like, my parents were too scared to try and get me help. I've now shown to be more willing about losing weight as i'm sick of going down and back up all the time, and my behavior is slowly improving by itself because I'm getting happier again now I'm done with school. Maybe, just maybe, they'll allow him back when he has had some help because isolating him seems like a terrible idea which is why in a way I'm against the idea of special schools as they don't seem to allow you to mix with "normal" people, and I myself would never do that to anyone. I don't think it's bad that he did what he did, but he should have at least toned it down after getting into trouble once or twice - doing it a lot less so not to get in trouble as easily. That is where I and him seem different as from the shit I got I've learned something that a lot of people like me probably won't. I toned it down, and now because they probably expect worse from me there's not much they can think to do about it... :whoops:

It would be nice if they let him back in, but I really don't think they can. Once you're expelled, you're out for good. That's the American school system for you.

[Menzis]

When I was 12 or something I did the gun thing too in my classroom, It was just like playing, because I played a lot of games at the time like shooting etc.
I didn't think there was any harm in it, but my teacher flipped out for me for doing so.
I guess they take such things very seriously and because of his circumstances like using drugs (not any heavy ones imo though) they took it more seriously than they already do.

[Stronk Serb]

He was harshly punished. What he did was out of line, not wrong. He got punished way worse then here.

[Jack russell dad]

I can't say i know what ur goin thru, but if u need to talk, leave me a message. He is very fortunate to have u and bri as friends. I wish u luck, hope he turns out alright