I HATE puberty!

[Curious.kid]

I hate puberty! I had an awful day :(. I told my best friend ever since kindergarten that he was cute and asked if he wanted to kiss and when i kissed him on the lips he pushed me down and now won't talk to me any more. I feel so sad and angry. I like him a lot and I like a girl in my class but she doesn't care about me. I hate that puberty makes me want to do a lot of things but then I can't do it. It makes me feel wrong and guilty and like a gross person.

When I get a boner in class it won't go away when I want it to because of the cute girl I sit across from. It's embarrassing if a girl sees it or the whole class like when I had to give a presentation! I also am getting bad grades in school now because i cant pay attention in class because I always look at the girl and think about her boobs and kissing her and my friend.

So now I'm in even more trouble and get punished for my grades by my parents. I really try to pay attention but puberty makes it so distracting for me. And I hate how I get wet dreams and it wakes me up every time and I have to clean up the sperm and change my underwear and wash off the rest from my penis. I just want it to leave me alone! My dumb little brother says I still wet the bed and I don't. I always get wet dreams of having sex with people in my class, especially my best friend and the girl I like and its always b/js or kissing.

I hate that I'm always hungry because of puberty. I get in more trouble if I eat my little brother's food and even when he doesn't finish it he gets mad and I get punished. My parents caught me masturbating twice already and I explained it before and got me in trouble for looking at porn and masturbating with a condom and I want to watch porn but I'll get punished again if I do that. And plus when I wake up every morning I get a boner that teases me like "you can't even do what you want with me but I'll just make fun of you and bother you all day long and make you embarrassed". I hate it so much!

I want to go back to being like a little kid. Puberty isn't worth all this getting in trouble and feeling like my head is going to explode. I used to have so much more fun all the time but now that all I think about in school and church is sex it just makes me sad because I can't do it for real. It's like I'm not in control of my own body any more. Hormones make me want to have sex all the time even though I can't and make me look at girls and boys and always think about doing bad things that I know I shouldnt do. And now my best friend hates me and won't talk. This is the only place I can talk about it. Puberty ruined everything for me and now I'm always in trouble or alone. And now my auntie died so I feel even more sad.*

I'm sorry that was so long. I'm really frusterated right now.

[ibramazin]

Oops, sorry for everything but Everyone hates puberty..Its like the worst phase of life. If he's really your "best friend", he should understand. Unless he's not going through what you are going through..How old is he??

And just hold on, It'll definately be over one day.

[NeuroTiger]

One basic question:
Who doesn't want success in life?

The answer is certainly no one.
Throughout the route towards success are obstacles. Hurdles which are meant to make us a stronger and better person.

Do you want to achieve your dream career, dream life; your objectives in life?
To the vast majority of people, it happens in their adult phase and not when they are kids.
And to be an adult requires certain degree of maturity.
And this maturity is obtained by your experiences during your adolescent phase.

This is supposed to be the learning-to-be-an-outstanding-adult phase. It is an awesome phase in life...
You have the opportunities to be a better person based on your everyday experiences.
The more challenging the opportunity, the more mature you become provided that you do everything with tact ;)

Use your current situation to show the outstanding you...
I know you can do it! ;)
JUST DO IT!

[Professor Moopicorn]

I'm sorry to hear that mate, but the truth is, it will all be over one day. Early puberty is usually the hardest time for someone. The most intense sexuall urges come when you start puberty and in some cases it is just harder to manage the hormones than other people. Anyway, it will all calm down later on and things will start going well. For me, puberty is a great point of my life, but that might just be my attitude to what's going on. If you think it's the worst, it might not be any fun, but if you try to enjoy it you'll have a great time!

[Straya]

I hate puberty! I had an awful day :(. I told my best friend ever since kindergarten that he was cute and asked if he wanted to kiss and when i kissed him on the lips he pushed me down and now won't talk to me any more. I feel so sad and angry. I like him a lot and I like a girl in my class but she doesn't care about me. I hate that puberty makes me want to do a lot of things but then I can't do it. It makes me feel wrong and guilty and like a gross person.

When I get a boner in class it won't go away when I want it to because of the cute girl I sit across from. It's embarrassing if a girl sees it or the whole class like when I had to give a presentation! I also am getting bad grades in school now because i cant pay attention in class because I always look at the girl and think about her boobs and kissing her and my friend.

So now I'm in even more trouble and get punished for my grades by my parents. I really try to pay attention but puberty makes it so distracting for me. And I hate how I get wet dreams and it wakes me up every time and I have to clean up the sperm and change my underwear and wash off the rest from my penis. I just want it to leave me alone! My dumb little brother says I still wet the bed and I don't. I always get wet dreams of having sex with people in my class, especially my best friend and the girl I like and its always b/js or kissing.

I hate that I'm always hungry because of puberty. I get in more trouble if I eat my little brother's food and even when he doesn't finish it he gets mad and I get punished. My parents caught me masturbating twice already and I explained it before and got me in trouble for looking at porn and masturbating with a condom and I want to watch porn but I'll get punished again if I do that. And plus when I wake up every morning I get a boner that teases me like "you can't even do what you want with me but I'll just make fun of you and bother you all day long and make you embarrassed". I hate it so much!

I want to go back to being like a little kid. Puberty isn't worth all this getting in trouble and feeling like my head is going to explode. I used to have so much more fun all the time but now that all I think about in school and church is sex it just makes me sad because I can't do it for real. It's like I'm not in control of my own body any more. Hormones make me want to have sex all the time even though I can't and make me look at girls and boys and always think about doing bad things that I know I shouldnt do. And now my best friend hates me and won't talk. This is the only place I can talk about it. Puberty ruined everything for me and now I'm always in trouble or alone. And now my auntie died so I feel even more sad.*

as much as it sucks man you just gotta try and deal with it the best you can and a little tip when you have aboner start doing maths in your head thatll help distract you and get it to go down

[Brown13]

One basic question:
Who doesn't want success in life?

The answer is certainly no one.
Throughout the route towards success are obstacles. Hurdles which are meant to make us a stronger and better person.

Do you want to achieve your dream career, dream life; your objectives in life?
To the vast majority of people, it happens in their adult phase and not when they are kids.
And to be an adult requires certain degree of maturity.
And this maturity is obtained by your experiences during your adolescent phase.

This is supposed to be the learning-to-be-an-outstanding-adult phase. It is an awesome phase in life...
You have the opportunities to be a better person based on your everyday experiences.
The more challenging the opportunity, the more mature you become provided that you do everything with tact ;)

Use your current situation to show the outstanding you...
I know you can do it! ;)
JUST DO IT!

I couldnt have said it better myself. I remember when i felt exactly like you and all i can say is it always gets better. No matter what happens it gets better because once its at the worst it has nothing better to do but get better. Am i right? :)
I really wish the best for you and im sure if you need advice or anything that someone is here to talk to

[Dalcourt]

Hey, hun I know it can be hard going through puberty, but we all do...it is just part of life and can't be helped. You go through a bad phase atm...but it will get better again...I promise.

[ComfortableInChaos]

I felt the same way when I was like, 13 and 14. Fuck, I would even get depressed about it. I would lock myself in my room and blast some music because I wanted my life to work out as if I were playing The Sims 3 and I could control how everything happened. When I turned 14, though, I didn't feel as though I hated my life, but I was still depressed. I would hate myself for not taking chances that I could've taken so I would sit around in my room, eventually I would take up reading. I ended up buying a bunch of books from Amazon because at this point, I had moved from all of my friends to a big city out of my home state. I left and I didn't know anyone at my new school. People would call me emo faggot, faggot slut, trash, piece of shit, but after I while, I ordered my books and got to reading. I found a bunch of books that I liked and by that time I didn't need any friends. This was my 8th grade year.

I move into high school and I meet an entire group of people who are just like me- outcasts who just want to be noticed and want friends. I started going to the mall with them, eating lunch with them, hell, I started going over to one of their houses almost every day because I liked how they were. We were alike and I liked that.

I almost turn 15 and everything changed. I ended up moving back home to my home city and I ended up meeting some of my friends and the people I didn't like. While these last two years happened, I realized I'm bisexual and so a lot of people here decided it's okay to make fun, make games, and laugh. This depressed me a lot and I ended up becoming suicidal and put on suicide watch.

I just recently turned 16 and right now, I couldn't like my life any better. Of course, I have faults like my parents splitting up and me not being able to see my dad and me being an insomniac, but I just want you to know that it does get better eventually. Try reading manga and watching anime and seeing if you like that. I found some of my friends that way. I started listening to a wide variety of music so I could talk to my friends about stuff they liked and other stuff I liked. Trust me, it won't get better for everyone as soon as it did for me, but hey. Just give yourself time. And if you're worried about your body, height, or anything light that, give yourself time. I know it sucks being 13 and it is basically a fucking nightmare, but trust me, you'll begin to like yourself and your life better.

I know most of this had nothing to do with this post but I want someone to see that their life can get better because it will. Maybe not today, tomorrow, a week, month, or year from now, but just give yourself time to be where you wanna be. You'll become who you wanna be when you begin to finish puberty. I feel like I'm starting to get there.

If anyone needs to talk, just message me. I'll try and give the best advice I can.

[deregisterme]

Puberty can be tough when it's at its most rampant I'm afraid. In terms of your friend, I hope you can make it up with him. It may seem like forever, but it will level off eventually. In terms of boners, try and think "unsexy" thoughts - an old person naked for example. It does ruin the mood

[ValentinClarke]

Puberty is a , to be honest, tough bitch! Its alright. Plow through it!

[Jack russell dad]

Welcome to manhood. We all hate puberty. And 1 more thing. Life is a bitch, and puberty is just the start of it. You'll make it through tho. We've all experienced atleast two things on ur list. Best of luck

[Jack russell dad]

One last thing, i sent u a friend request, if u ever want to talk.

[beenthere]

You’re a great kid, brutally honest I love it! Dude anyone in your position understands, and church definitely tends to make things more difficult because we are taught that we shouldn’t think like that. I can remember plenty of times standing next to my parents in church singing and being all boned up looking at the kid in the row in front of me. Nothing easy about it Dude. It’s great that you have this place to let out some of your frustration, but my advice to you is to find a few internet friends that are really the same as you, Like the oldest boy going through puberty with religious parents.

I can tell also from the postings I have seen of yours that you are a good kid, and you want God if you life. It is definitely a hard time for you, but I would suggest you just really find I couple really good internet friends that are in your same situation so you have someone you can really talk to about things. The advice you will get in this place will vary a lot because all walks of life are here. I think the best advice for you will come from other kids that come from a church background. You can still talk to God even though you are going through a tough puberty. He understands, he was human once.

Your best friend will probably forgive you, I understand that for a beginner kissing seems like the most innocent thing you can do, but in reality, it is quite serious and has a lot more meaning then just touching or being close to someone. It is kind of like saying I love you, or I want sex from you. Talking about the things you are going through with him would probably be a lot better way to find out if your friend feels the same as you. Most guys are very worried about being labeled as gay.

Don’t worry Dude, everything is new to you right now, so of course you are making mistakes. Yes it is true most your friends are going through the same things as you are, but most of them are not talking to anyone about it, so they are more in the dark than you, and probably a lot more scared about it and scared about the things they are feeling. So just keep in mind to most guys it is privet thing, so you have treat it as a privet thing and respect that for some people it is very privet, others not so much. That doesn’t mean they won’t talk about it, but it depends a lot on how you show respect for the way they feel.

I think with you talking to all these guys here and seeing the things they are doing is probably giving you some bad Idea’s, and your trying to rush things a little too fast. Relationships are all about trust, and trust is something you have to earn, so don’t rush too much for things, just work on the trust and let your trust grow with your friends, things will work out trust me.

[FaitoDayo]

My turn to talk~ Yay~ Sparkles~ Rainbows~

Let's get down to the topic. Puberty. You hate it. Constant boners. Embarrassment. So have you tried to deal with people that call you transgender? I have. My classmates always say I'm transgender. Quite... mean, when you are a true guy. That was a bit off topic, but it really is kind of embarrassing, that guys do that to people. For some reason, I do not have any true sex drive or many wet dreams. I know I can ejaculate, since I have had wet dreams a few times. 3 times in my whole life... about once every few months so far... Erm... Oh, more details about the previous thing, err, why would people think that I'm transgender when...
-I don't have boobs.
-Some people have seen a bulge there.
-I keep covering my crotch in hopes people won't stare.
To be honest, I wasn't aware that I was going through puberty until my penis grew like... 2-3 inches? Then came pubic hair. I had a growth spurt. And another wet dream. Relationships are complicated. Anyways, I'm kind of in a love square? Someone likes me. Another person likes her. I like someone else. She likes another person. Hard to describe... Apparently the person I like isn't resisting and doesn't avoid me anymore. Umm... Guys are really worried about being named gay. Don't worry, this will work out by high school or later on. I'm labeled gay by everyone. Though I'm not. But I do fantasize about my classmates and stuff... it's happened with guys also. I also call some guys cute like you do too... Yet I don't like them. I know. Umm... if you want I'll talk to you more...

[Crispybacon]

Puberty can be tough when it's at its most rampant I'm afraid. In terms of your friend, I hope you can make it up with him. It may seem like forever, but it will level off eventually. In terms of boners, try and think "unsexy" thoughts - an old person naked for example. It does ruin the mood

Lol that's what I do. I usually think about the creepy girl in my school making out with a creepy guy in my school. I scare myself sometimes :P

[Jtyler]

We all know how you feel

[targaryen101]

Puberty is not kind to anybody! some scenario's are going to be worse than others and vice versa. This the time of your life where you truly find yourself in every aspect so yes its annoying and sad at the time but you will look back and say "that is what made me who I am now" Its better to embrace it than to hate it and then hate yourself.

[Brightwolf]

Yeah? So does everyone else at one point or another. I, for instance, feel like I'm not far enough into puberty. I get hard when looking at hot girls sometimes but it's not like some people discribe here. I sometimes think I like my best friend even though I don't want to. I have a lot of pubic hair, some facail hair but that's just about it. I literally HAVE to sit down to pee because (1)
My dick is small (and it won't grow. It's bothering me) And (2) I have two other holes where their not suppose to be. I don't have a bulge. I just don't feel normal. So yeah so do I. Ok. Rant over.

[mmppfc]

What you have to remember kid is that everyone aorund you will be going through the same phase as you, so you wont be the only one! When I was 13 I also had bad grades but now im much better. Once youve passed the phase it will all get better from there!

[PinkFloyd]

Yeah man, puberty fuckin sucks. You're right. I went through something similar when I was 14 but an a smaller level. I feel your pain and I'm sorry that you have to deal with all of this.

[Curious.kid]

Oops, sorry for everything but Everyone hates puberty..Its like the worst phase of life. If he's really your "best friend", he should understand. Unless he's not going through what you are going through..How old is he??

And just hold on, It'll definately be over one day.

I don't know what I should say to him. He's my age so 13. But I don't want him to think I'm weird all of a sudden since we're best friends our whole life.

I couldnt have said it better myself. I remember when i felt exactly like you and all i can say is it always gets better. No matter what happens it gets better because once its at the worst it has nothing better to do but get better. Am i right? :)
I really wish the best for you and im sure if you need advice or anything that someone is here to talk to

I really don't understand what you and him are talking about. Sorry can you please explain it in a different way?

Hey, hun I know it can be hard going through puberty, but we all do...it is just part of life and can't be helped. You go through a bad phase atm...but it will get better again...I promise.

How can I make it better when I feel all jittery all of a sudden when my hormones make me think about sex? Because when I feel like I REALLY want to masturbate I can't focus on my teacher. And then I get lost and don't understand how to do my homework. Please help!!!!

You’re a great kid, brutally honest I love it! Dude anyone in your position understands, and church definitely tends to make things more difficult because we are taught that we shouldn’t think like that. I can remember plenty of times standing next to my parents in church singing and being all boned up looking at the kid in the row in front of me. Nothing easy about it Dude. It’s great that you have this place to let out some of your frustration, but my advice to you is to find a few internet friends that are really the same as you, Like the oldest boy going through puberty with religious parents.

I can tell also from the postings I have seen of yours that you are a good kid, and you want God if you life. It is definitely a hard time for you, but I would suggest you just really find I couple really good internet friends that are in your same situation so you have someone you can really talk to about things. The advice you will get in this place will vary a lot because all walks of life are here. I think the best advice for you will come from other kids that come from a church background. You can still talk to God even though you are going through a tough puberty. He understands, he was human once.

Your best friend will probably forgive you, I understand that for a beginner kissing seems like the most innocent thing you can do, but in reality, it is quite serious and has a lot more meaning then just touching or being close to someone. It is kind of like saying I love you, or I want sex from you. Talking about the things you are going through with him would probably be a lot better way to find out if your friend feels the same as you. Most guys are very worried about being labeled as gay.

Don’t worry Dude, everything is new to you right now, so of course you are making mistakes. Yes it is true most your friends are going through the same things as you are, but most of them are not talking to anyone about it, so they are more in the dark than you, and probably a lot more scared about it and scared about the things they are feeling. So just keep in mind to most guys it is privet thing, so you have treat it as a privet thing and respect that for some people it is very privet, others not so much. That doesn’t mean they won’t talk about it, but it depends a lot on how you show respect for the way they feel.

I think with you talking to all these guys here and seeing the things they are doing is probably giving you some bad Idea’s, and your trying to rush things a little too fast. Relationships are all about trust, and trust is something you have to earn, so don’t rush too much for things, just work on the trust and let your trust grow with your friends, things will work out trust me.

It just seems like everything I do is going to get me in trouble or make me feel bad about myself and my body. The worse part about it is I never feel in control of my own body and life. My parents make me wear certain clothes and what I am supposed to do and what I can't do like look at porn even though I want to. And then at school and all the time my hormones always make me think of sex even when I dont want to like when I'm trying to learn. If it happens and I look at somebody I like for a minute then I am completely lost about what my teacher is saying and I can't focus anymore. I want to learn and be a good student but no matter how hard I try my hormones won't let me. What should I do? I really need to get my grades up or else I'm going to get punished some more.

[Jack russell dad]

Dude, puberty is what makes us get sexually mature. Without it, the human race couldn't survive. I mean, I'm constantly thinking about doing this girl in class, i failed a algebra test cause i was setting beside her. Andd as 4 porn, use ur imagination. Its what they used to do. And u should be able to decide what to wear, i mean its ur body, right? Just relax, give it a couple months, and you'll calm down

[TheKingIam]

Well puberty gave me a ton of acne when I was 13/14, I lost all my confidence and was bullied pretty badly because of it for a whole year (which I wasn't used to cos it never happened to me before)
but it's not as bad as it used to be now at all, I don't mind it any more

[Jack russell dad]

Brown13 is saying he has went through what ur goin thru. He understands ur situation

[ksdnfkfr]

How can I make it better when I feel all jittery all of a sudden when my hormones make me think about sex? Because when I feel like I REALLY want to masturbate I can't focus on my teacher. And then I get lost and don't understand how to do my homework. Please help!!!!

It just seems like everything I do is going to get me in trouble or make me feel bad about myself and my body. The worse part about it is I never feel in control of my own body and life. My parents make me wear certain clothes and what I am supposed to do and what I can't do like look at porn even though I want to. And then at school and all the time my hormones always make me think of sex even when I dont want to like when I'm trying to learn. If it happens and I look at somebody I like for a minute then I am completely lost about what my teacher is saying and I can't focus anymore. I want to learn and be a good student but no matter how hard I try my hormones won't let me. What should I do? I really need to get my grades up or else I'm going to get punished some more.

I don't mean to downplay your situation. but with the things i've dealt with about my own body, my difficulties and struggles with just about everything my whole life. I can't speak properly and have take speech therapy. I can't really make eye contact and look like i'm unable to pay attention to people. i've always had a very hard time staying focused because of adhd. I have a coordination disorder called dysparaxia which makes me look really awkward even when i'm standing still. I can't play any kind of sports because of it, can't even tie my shoes yet.

I could go on, but my point is, while i have a difficult time with being horny all the time and other stuff like that, compared to what i've had to deal with my whole life, it just adds to jumbled mix of mind and body problems i've had my whole life. Just remember that you will go back to normal. i've never known what it's like to be normal. So don't sweat it so much.

[Dalcourt]

as I already said we all understand what you are going through, even if puberty seems why harder for you than I ever felt myself...but well, I've been sexually active from a young age on, and never was forbidden masturbating or watching porn or anything...so maybe as it's all easily accessible it never was that interesting for me, dunno.

[Ttssman]

I don't know what I should say to him. He's my age so 13. But I don't want him to think I'm weird all of a sudden since we're best friends our whole life.



I really don't understand what you and him are talking about. Sorry can you please explain it in a different way?



How can I make it better when I feel all jittery all of a sudden when my hormones make me think about sex? Because when I feel like I REALLY want to masturbate I can't focus on my teacher. And then I get lost and don't understand how to do my homework. Please help!!!!



It just seems like everything I do is going to get me in trouble or make me feel bad about myself and my body. The worse part about it is I never feel in control of my own body and life. My parents make me wear certain clothes and what I am supposed to do and what I can't do like look at porn even though I want to. And then at school and all the time my hormones always make me think of sex even when I dont want to like when I'm trying to learn. If it happens and I look at somebody I like for a minute then I am completely lost about what my teacher is saying and I can't focus anymore. I want to learn and be a good student but no matter how hard I try my hormones won't let me. What should I do? I really need to get my grades up or else I'm going to get punished some more.

Maybe you should just try to masturbate more. That might relieve sexual tension. How much per Day do you masturbate?

[Kjack31]

I used to feel like that, but it went away with time. Just go with it, it really does get better.

[FaitoDayo]

Umm... well... this is a really pumped conversation now.

[Curious.kid]

Maybe you should just try to masturbate more. That might relieve sexual tension. How much per Day do you masturbate?

I masturbate around 3 times a week. It's hard because my mom is around and my little brother is in the room we share. And I don't like it when my mom knows I'm masturbating because she knows that's what I do when I close the door.

[Curious.kid]

as I already said we all understand what you are going through, even if puberty seems why harder for you than I ever felt myself...but well, I've been sexually active from a young age on, and never was forbidden masturbating or watching porn or anything...so maybe as it's all easily accessible it never was that interesting for me, dunno.

How can I make it better when I feel all jittery all of a sudden when my hormones make me think about sex? Because when I feel like I REALLY want to masturbate I can't focus on my teacher. And then I get lost and don't understand how to do my homework. Please help!!!!

[Ttssman]

I masturbate around 3 times a week. It's hard because my mom is around and my little brother is in the room we share. And I don't like it when my mom knows I'm masturbating because she knows that's what I do when I close the door.

Do you ever masturbate in the bathroom like after you shower? I know I usually like to close the toilet lid and sit on that after I get out of the shower and just start masturbating. Try it if you haven't already.

[Curious.kid]

I couldnt have said it better myself. I remember when i felt exactly like you and all i can say is it always gets better. No matter what happens it gets better because once its at the worst it has nothing better to do but get better. Am i right? :)
I really wish the best for you and im sure if you need advice or anything that someone is here to talk to

Hey I sent you a message!

[TheKingIam]

You'll learn to love Puberty m8, I was kind of the same spot as you at one point.
The year I started jacking off and I got acne is the same year I lost all my friends and started getting bullied
but it gets better :)

[Curious.kid]

Do you ever masturbate in the bathroom like after you shower? I know I usually like to close the toilet lid and sit on that after I get out of the shower and just start masturbating. Try it if you haven't already.

No I tried to masturbate in the shower but I can never get the sperm to come out. I can try that but how is that going to fix all my problems?

[jelly3000]

Playing with yourself more won't fix all of your problems, but it should significantly reduce your sexual tension. This in turn should allow you to find it easier to concentrate in class and do what you want to do.

But finding privacy is always hard. Specifically when you and your body wants to do something more but you don't have a way of dealing with it....

[IceEssence]

There are several things you can do.

1. Try to think of other things such as concentrating in class. Don't think of boners and all that kind of stuff, if you think about them for a while, its fine but don't let it distract your attention in class.

2. If you do not understand how to do your homework, the least you can do (if you can) is to call your friends up and ask them about it, not about puberty, but about the homework, so at least you'll be able to think of homework instead of worrying all about your puberty.

3. Try not to dwell on embarassing situations for too long. If you keep showing that you're worried about them, your classmates will definitely notice, including your teacher. There are much worst situations to be in than puberty to be honest in my opinion.

[Ttssman]

No I tried to masturbate in the shower but I can never get the sperm to come out. I can try that but how is that going to fix all my problems?

It won't fix all of your problems but is will most certainly relieve sexual tension which can make a big difference.