Sexual drive vs emotions

[Chase_57]

Hi guys! I know I haven't posted anything in a while but here is the problem. I have never had an emotional drive to date anyone. I'm nearly 18 and it really concerns me that this has never happened. There are planet of guys and girls I would have sex with, both because they are good people and because they are attractive, (at Least sexually speaking I'm bi) but I have never felt an emotional connection with anyone. What does this mean and have any of you experienced this? Thanks.

[Plasma]

You'll know when that person comes along. I really didn't either until about six months ago.

[Menzis]

Just wait for the right one,

[Hey-Im-Connor]

could be that u havent met the right person or u might just have other priorities, either is fine, you dont HAVE to date or marry someone. a lot of ppl are happy single

[Cloud_Strife]

Hi guys! I know I haven't posted anything in a while but here is the problem. I have never had an emotional drive to date anyone. I'm nearly 18 and it really concerns me that this has never happened. There are planet of guys and girls I would have sex with, both because they are good people and because they are attractive, (at Least sexually speaking I'm bi) but I have never felt an emotional connection with anyone. What does this mean and have any of you experienced this? Thanks.

Hi Chase,

Saw your post and wanted to comment. There is more to intercourse than just the physical component alone. Of course the act in itself involves physical contact - however, there is the emotional component and attachment to the other person too. As you identified, you could have intercourse with all these people, you'd likely satisfy the physical component temporarily, but what then? There's no mental fulfillment.

You'll know when that person comes along. I really didn't either until about six months ago.

Just wait for the right one,

could be that u havent met the right person or u might just have other priorities, either is fine, you dont HAVE to date or marry someone. a lot of ppl are happy single

As the guys here have said, you just need to wait until the right person comes along.

I guess the other potential to consider, is whether something else is causing the problem you have described. Is it low mood from stressors? Or is it something physical, like fatigue or even other medical problems like anaemia, low thyroid, etc. If you can identify that it is just the mentality, then all good - just a matter of readjusting your thought processing.

Hope that helps mate, keep us posted! :cool:

[targaryen101]

Honestly dont worry too much. I only had my first "real crush" just a few months ago and I turned 18. Same age, so there will be times especially now during puberty that there will be times you will be wanting to sleep around, hook up etc: and there will be times where you do want to be in a relationship, and times you will want to be single! just embrace where you are now and whatever happens next happens next

[NeuroTiger]

We are no magnet to feel attracted to everybody...
Our complementary other will surely come into our way someday, somehow and we should be wise enough to jump on the opportunity.

[Elysium]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[backjruton]

I've never felt a romantic attraction to anyone either but that's because of my own personal issues. Maybe you just won't, I know I'm more likely to be there just for the sex if I ever lose this weight and I know how disgusting and bad that sounds. I have an EXTREMELY high sex drive and a lot of sexual attraction towards 3 of my friends but I've never really felt the romantic boyfriend thing. That's my problem... These 3 friends however KNOW I'm sexually attracted to them and at least the Danish one didn't seem too surprised, worried or offended :D;):lol:

Either wait for the right person or...
You might not. I see nothing too bad.
It's nicer to be your own person anyway...

[Chase_57]

Thanks guys!