Social help

[parzzival]

Ok here's some back round info on me. I am starting pograming lessons and I spend most of my time on my computer. I was thinking I shuld actualy make friends out side of school. I have never left home Bisides for school and food. So my question is, do any of you know where a lot of teens hang out. Keep in mind I'm not popular or a party animal.

[DiamondsGirl]

Why do you need to be one? Anyways I love to hang out in cafes. Because I love coffees and teas, but I also know people hang out in cafes because it's a great place to meet new people. Heck, Patti Stanger; the host of Millionare's Matchmaker; brings her client to a cafe once.

[Dalcourt]

Well, if you are more of a loner and not really happy around others why force yourself to make friends? But if you like to meet new people...cafes as DiamondsGirl said are great...or places where you can hang out and eat in general, well at least where I live. Or what about a gym...or so, if you like sports or working out...I met my now best friend while I was shopping...so if you are open for new people you can meet someone basically everywhere, so I don't know if it really has to be a special place where lots of teens hang out...in those places they they will be together with their cliques anyway...and so making new friends will be way more difficult than just in a random place.

[parzzival]

Well, if you are more of a loner and not really happy around others why force yourself to make friends? But if you like to meet new people...cafes as DiamondsGirl said are great...or places where you can hang out and eat in general, well at least where I live. Or what about a gym...or so, if you like sports or working out...I met my now best friend while I was shopping...so if you are open for new people you can meet someone basically everywhere, so I don't know if it really has to be a special place where lots of teens hang out...in those places they they will be together with their cliques anyway...and so making new friends will be way more difficult than just in a random place.

I'm not forcing my self. I figgered I might as well try just to see if I could make some. And what I'm taking away from this is go to the places you would find other people that are like me.

[Wyatt 13]

I got some friends in church and practicing sports and doing some volunteer jobs.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I guess you can only look around where you live - ask at school where others go -

[Ryan1698]

I never had a single friend, in or out of school and I was bullied a lot throughout secondary school. What worked for me was just simply changing my group of friends. I found one guy, and he integrated me into his group of friends, and it just grew from there. Just try talking to people more, and ask to do stuff. Doing stuff outside of school, like the cinema or shopping, will really help build your friendships up.

If you'd rather not develop school friendships, I guess you could always try a youth club or something like that.

2 years ago, I was lucky if I went to my local shopping centre once a year with a friend. Now I go at least twice a month. Feel free to message me if you'd like further help :)

[Body odah Man]

Ok here's some back round info on me. I am starting pograming lessons and I spend most of my time on my computer. I was thinking I shuld actualy make friends out side of school. I have never left home Bisides for school and food. So my question is, do any of you know where a lot of teens hang out. Keep in mind I'm not popular or a party animal.

Not sure if it applies for you but in my neighborhood there's a park nearby and a lot of people hang out there. Mebbe try checking out that. If not, cafe's the way to go

[backjruton]

It depends more on if you're happy the way you are. I'm secluded and only leave the house for college or town sometimes with parents or brother (but not very often) and meeting people outside of college or school from those places can actually scare me which is why I try my best to avoid it.

If it's really causing problems, try to make friends and meet new people. As I say, I'm really not sure how to but it can't be too hard if you actually try. I personally will never approach people, even on facebook I want them to come to me first and I'm too secluded recently I will only talk to ONE old friend yet I have all of them added. Cafés and parks too, although I personally think cafes are noisy so I myself would avoid it :D Sometimes it can be better to have your alone time and be secluded. My art project is the theme of "Don't trust anyone or you might get hurt" because this is how I feel which is why I am very careful when talking to people and making friends now. I would rather expose to everyone myself than have someone else do it. You don't have to worry about yourself telling other people the stupid things you did with and said to anyone. I would personally recommend staying alone and doing what you do like me for this reason in my past experience...

[plebble]

You should make friends in school, hang out with them, then make friends with their friends who are outside of school.
Avoid making friends on the internet who just happen to live nearby. They can be dangerous.