started again :(

[paraholic]

Started cutting again since I've been back to school after easter holidays, I have managed to stay clean for a while before and I felt that I was recovering. Now schools started again and I have more worries I don't know how I can let my feelings out in a better way is there any point stopping because it's keeping me going.

[Zeke]

Alright. Cutting. Not the way to go, which you probably know but for some reason just can't help but to do it. I don't want to bash on you, I want to help.

The reason teenagers cut is because they need to cover up emotional pain with physical pain. I do not know much about you as you didn't give much information. If you can please give some info and answer some questions i can start to help!

When did you start to cut?
When you started to cut, why did you start?
School might be a cause of emotional distress, why?
What else is causing you emotional stress besides school?
Have you been diagnosed with any mental illness?
Does your family know about this?
If so do they do anything?

These are just some basic questions. More information will help, thanks :)

[paraholic]

Alright. Cutting. Not the way to go, which you probably know but for some reason just can't help but to do it. I don't want to bash on you, I want to help.

The reason teenagers cut is because they need to cover up emotional pain with physical pain. I do not know much about you as you didn't give much information. If you can please give some info and answer some questions i can start to help!

When did you start to cut?
When you started to cut, why did you start?
School might be a cause of emotional distress, why?
What else is causing you emotional stress besides school?
Have you been diagnosed with any mental illness?
Does your family know about this?
If so do they do anything?

These are just some basic questions. More information will help, thanks :)


I've been cutting for around 4 years
I'm not sure as it was a long time ago and hurting myself turned into a habit but it was usually after family arguments
I have social anxiety and not many friends at school and have been bullied jn the past
I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety and have been on antidepressants for a year and came og them about 4 months ago
My family know they try to help but when we argue they say my self harm is stupid

[Zeke]

I've been cutting for around 4 years
I'm not sure as it was a long time ago and hurting myself turned into a habit but it was usually after family arguments
I have social anxiety and not many friends at school and have been bullied jn the past
I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety and have been on antidepressants for a year and came og them about 4 months ago
My family know they try to help but when we argue they say my self harm is stupid

Alright. First off self harm isn't stupid, its actually very serious and very dangerous. Although your parents say it is stupid, they are just stressed out that you harming your body like this, and they feel hopeless and aggravated that nothing they do can help.

Now since the your family may be the root cause of your depression, I should suggest some marriage counseling as the family falling apart is causing this type of destruction such as your self harm. Does your family still have these severe arguments? How bad really are they would you say?

As you stated that the self harm is a habit. Is it a habit that whenever you get that depressed feeling you go and cut? Or is it that you are feeling depressed that you need to cut in order to get rid of that feeling?

Now the bullying in the past may have furthered the depression, but we are not going to go into that now since you stated it was in the past. How much in the past though?

With a little more information from answering these questions, I'm sure you and I can figure out a way to stop this behavior, but for now I want you to try your hardest not to harm yourself please :)

[BuryYourFlame]

There definitely is a point to stopping Lydia, it's hurting you physically but also mentally. There's a list here (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=190748) of some alternatives to cutting that can help calm you down or make you feel a bit better.
I know school is shit, but we all do have to do it. It honestly does get better after you finish and you can start doing what you actually want to do.
With your family however, you need to try and think ahead. I say this because a lot of arguments happen in the heat of the moment and if you think ahead about what you're going to say and how you're going to respond to certain things, it's less likely things are going to blow up. If you can remain calm while you're talking to your family about these problems and how you feel about them then there's a greater chance they will too. If you're remaining calm but they still can't, then I would suggest just to remove yourself from the situation if things get out of hand. If these arguments are too bad then just remember you won't have to stay with them forever and you can get out of there in a few years.
If you have any more problems or need some help, post them in on to VT, most people are very supportive and hopefully you'll get the answers you're looking for.