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jenjenjordi
April 28th, 2014, 04:56 PM
Before I begin, I want to share some background information
I'm 16 years old and I am an introvert with a few really close friends but not many friends overall. According to some of my friends and the girl who rejected me last year, I am average looking. My Crush is in Year 9 and I'm in Year 11 and I leave school for Study leave in 8 days time. I think that she is prettier than I am handsome, and she always hangs around with big groups of people in the Tennis courts, and this includes boys and girls (I think).

In January, my Crush, lets call her C, came up to me a few times and said Hi. She used to go to my youth group but left last Christmas. For some reason, even though we hardly knew each other there, in January at school she said Hi to me and hung around near me with her friends. I was too shy to say anything but Hi back to her, and I probably should have said more.

When the Tennis courts stopped being out-of-bounds, she sort of left her old group of friends (from what I observed) and began to hang out in the Tennis courts where she currently goes every lunchtime and breaktime. I don't like to go to the tennis courts because I'm not very good at sport and I get intimidated by those who are.

Over the last few days, my crush is getting worse and I know it's not healthy but I don't know how I can realistically go up to her and ask her out in school because I don't know any of her friends and I am too afraid to leave my friends and go find her and ask her out in front of loads of other people who might be watching. I've left it too late, because I only have 8 days of school to go before Study leave, I will be back there in September, but by then all hope of her becoming my girlfriend will be lost.

I don't even know if she likes me or not, but I don't know if I should ask her out or move on, or even how to ask her out. I'm not the average teenager who plays sport and can easily attract girls, I am a web developer who is only confident at speaking to people with my interests.

I really don't know what I should do next, because this crush is eating me up inside :(

Blood
April 28th, 2014, 08:43 PM
Well, if you really like her you have to have the balls to ask her out. We can't tell you what her reaction will be, but if you never try you'll never know.

emilyly
April 30th, 2014, 01:36 AM
You know, it's sounds kinda strange. I'm a girl and I have no idea how a man could impress me if he is totally lack of self-confidence. :confused: Don't you know that people see you same as you see yourself? If you see yourself as not handsome man who has nothing to offers (no smile, no sence of humour), how others can see you as funny man? And how would you make a friendship(relationship) with this girl in (now) 6 days? I think "C" gave you signs to start being her friend but you simply lost it. Maybe before you go study read more about self-confidence and body language because it will be quite useful for you in the future. Look here http://howikis.com/Make_First_Impression_Count (http://howikis.com/Make_First_Impression_Count) you must get to know how imporant self-esteem is. Remember girls love confident men!!!! :D :yes:

Zeke
April 30th, 2014, 07:23 PM
Alrighty now! Crushes!!! Right, I'm not going to agree with the person above and say "get some balls" as you biologically already probably have them haha! As a shy guy myself, it takes some serious courage to ask a girl out, so being nervous is completely normal!!

As Emily said, Girls love when guys do something to them in public, why? Honestly have no idea! No one said you had to go up to her while shes with her friends, why not just walk up to her when shes just kind of hanging around doing her thing at school by herself and just ask her if she liked to go on a date!

I believe in you, good luck :)

jenjenjordi
May 3rd, 2014, 02:42 PM
So do you think I should just bite the bullet and ask her when she walks past me?

Stronk Serb
May 3rd, 2014, 05:58 PM
So do you think I should just bite the bullet and ask her when she walks past me?

Essentially, yeah. In the worst case, you won't go quietly.