How should i react?

[alliancerules]

My boyfriend is a self harmer, I recently found out by accident when I saw his wrists.
We want to get more intimate with each other and obviously I'm going to see what his arms look like properly and I know he cuts all over his arms (that's unless he still keeps his arms covered, im not sure)
What I want to ask is how should I react? when I see them, I don't want to stare but I am curious, I think that would be a natural thing to look, ive never cut myself so I do want to see, I think that's not a nice thing but im being honest.
I don't want to make him uncomfortable, we want to get closer and I don't want to ruin this, if you cut yourself and knew someone was going to see and probably be curious about it, how would you like them to be?

[Living For Love]

I would like them to just be there for me, really, not forcing me to stop but not ignoring it at all, because it's something it simply cannot be ignored. But different people have different reactions, and you know him better than I do, so just tell him you care, and at the same time don't give it so much importance that it could make you two distant from each other.

[Chrisscotland]

pretend u don't notice, ive had my parents and a doctor look at my cuts recently and its horrible, makes u feel ashamed

[sqishy]

I agree with what the others said, be there for him and accept that he might not want to talk to him. Best of luck!

[maddogmj77]

Well, you could try and talk about it, and maybe you can help him quit. If he really likes you and you want him to quit, he will. I know that if somebody that important wanted me to quit, I would. Don't say that he HAS to quit or else you'll leave him, that'll probably make it worse. If he doesn't listen, or doesn't stop, you can just choose to leave it for a while. Then try another time.

[Babs]

sometimes it's really just the elephant in he room. just don't stare. try not to ask about them. chances are, he doesn't want to talk about them. obviously, if his cuts are showing he knows that you see them, just don't be judgmental and don't try to make him talk about it if he doesn't want to. at least that's how I'd want my partner to be.

[thatgothgirluknow]

wait for a time when ur alone and ask him without being to pushy and let him know that ur there for him and you care