Video gaming

[Etcetera]

So girls, do you agree on me that a guy should be able to put down a video game for you?

I mean if they can still talk to you while playing it, then cool. But to go 20 or 30 minutes before responding because they are caught up in the game is ridiculous, right??

I don't expect my boyfriend to talk to me and respond immediately 24/7 because that's obsessive. But I do expect that he be able to get off minecraft if needed to talk to me.

Am I wrong?

[Synyster Shadows]

I totally agree with you, Destiny. 20-30 minutes between replies because he's playing Minecraft is ridiculous and somewhat rude.

[Pensive]

There are a few ways to look at this situation.

Firstly in a relationship, there may be some people who want/need time to themsleves.
Is it that he is playing video games over talking to you? For example would you feel the same annoyance if he was playing sport, or with his friends? (Male or Female). We all need our hobbies and passions!

It is reasonable that for 30 minutes (or a few hours), he doesn't reply to you unless urgent. Why were you trying to speak to him?

What does he say in response when he finally replies? Have you raised this issue with him?

[Etcetera]

There are a few ways to look at this situation.

Firstly in a relationship, there may be some people who want/need time to themsleves.
Is it that he is playing video games over talking to you? For example would you feel the same annoyance if he was playing sport, or with his friends? (Male or Female). We all need our hobbies and passions!

It is reasonable that for 30 minutes (or a few hours), he doesn't reply to you unless urgent. Why were you trying to speak to him?

What does he say in response when he finally replies? Have you raised this issue with him?

I write music and I play music and it's my life but I still talk to my boyfriend while doing it. And he has FOUR devices he can talk to me on. He can play it on his computer while messaging me on his kindle, ipod, or even texting me. It's not like he cant.

I'm trying to speak to him because I want to carry a conversation with my boyfriend who lives 7 states away. And all I'm getting are 1 worded responses every 20 minutes.

[Pensive]

I write music and I play music and it's my life but I still talk to my boyfriend while doing it. And he has FOUR devices he can talk to me on. He can play it on his computer while messaging me on his kindle, ipod, or even texting me. It's not like he cant.

I'm trying to speak to him because I want to carry a conversation with my boyfriend who lives 7 states away. And all I'm getting are 1 worded responses every 20 minutes.

Whilst I understand your perspective and frustration, I do feel if he commits time to you when he is not gaming, that your reaction is a bit unjustified.

HOWEVER if he does this constantly (for example from the second he gets home till he goes to sleep), then it is entirely understandable.

Communication is key in a relationship, it can conquer all problems. I notice you didn't reply to my question regarding his response. Have you raised this issue with him? What does he say?

One must also take into account that he will most likely be more immature than you.

P.S. I LOVE music myself, do you have a Youtube or Soundcloud?

[Melodic]

I really don't care about it.. As long as they make time for me at least..

Guys should be able to have their free time as well.. I mean if we were doing stuff we love or enjoy, would we want someone distracting us every five seconds?

[Etcetera]

He literally has not hardly talked to me all day because he's been playing minecraft ALL day.

[Pensive]

He literally has not hardly talked to me all day because he's been playing minecraft ALL day.

"Has not" - Double negative.

Stop telling us and tell him.

Avoiding obvious questions and ranting doesn't help you. And it's rude.

[Etcetera]

"Has not" - Double negative.

Stop telling us and tell him.

Avoiding obvious questions and ranting doesn't help you. And it's rude.

1) Does it matter?

2) I am talking to him right now. But thanks for your rude concern.

3) Ranting does help me. Holding it in doesn't because I'm holding way too much in right now.

You wanna talk about rude? Go look in the mirror, bro.

[Pensive]

1) Does it matter?

2) I am talking to him right now. But thanks for your rude concern.

3) Ranting does help me. Holding it in doesn't because I'm holding way too much in right now.

You wanna talk about rude? Go look in the mirror, bro.

1) Yes.

2) Try not to take your problems out on people who have taken time to help you, or even just strangers online. That is not an appropriate way to vent.

3) Addressing your problems helps. It lets them out productively to reach a solution/conclusion.

I'm glad you're talking to him, I hope he appreciates your concerns maturely and acts accordingly. Perhaps you two could skype call instead of just texting, he'd still obviously have to stop gaming long enough, but surely calls are better?

If you want more advice or care to share the outcome let us know, good luck

[Plasma]

So girls, do you agree on me that a guy should be able to put down a video game for you?

I mean if they can still talk to you while playing it, then cool. But to go 20 or 30 minutes before responding because they are caught up in the game is ridiculous, right??

I don't expect my boyfriend to talk to me and respond immediately 24/7 because that's obsessive. But I do expect that he be able to get off minecraft if needed to talk to me.

Am I wrong?

You could always try skyping with him while he plays. It's not really fair to expect him to drop what he likes doing just because you demand a quick text or something. Relationships are about compromise, right?

[Etcetera]

I cannot skype with my boyfriend and it is a very complicated situation. Don't always assume that everyone has that benefit because the truth is not all of us do.

Just stop. Drop it.

[Plasma]

I cannot skype with my boyfriend and it is a very complicated situation. Don't always assume that everyone has that benefit because the truth is not all of us do.

Just stop. Drop it.

Don't ask questions on here if you can't take solid advice.

[radsniper]

he should definitely make time for you but you also have to leave him time for himself

[DiamondsGirl]

Pop over. He'll talk to you then.

[Cece14]

I agree with you 110% sista

[Vocabulous]

But seriously op, don't just ask for justification. Try to take some of the advice that is being offered instead of rejecting it.

[backjruton]

Everyone needs their alone time. This is why personally I don't want to be in a relationship and just have the friendships I have right now where if I see them I'll talk to them and I'll speak to them in college too. I hate speaking in private, so I wouldn't want to be the one a boy/girl turns to whenever they need help UNLESS I felt I could properly trust them and do the same with them. As for getting off the game, if someone talks to me on facebook messenger I can just reply but not so often unless I'm not doing anything else so I don't know my problems there. Luckily my best friend is also the kind of person that would rather speak to siblings for advice I think, so I'm fine there... :whoops:

[hithere14]

XBOX but girls first

[Brown13]

I always look at it this way: it all depends on the game he is playing. 99% of the time theres no pause feature so a response after 20-30 min is fine but after the first session he should definitely be able to have some kind of true conversation with you. However there's always the case of a gamer guy who plays games that DO take longer and a bit more attention to play where it could take up to an hour to respond but he still should take time after to talk to you.