Telling partner about your mental illness

[Columbus]

So I've been seeing this guy I like for over two months now and we've meet each other in person once, as we meet online and havent gone a first date yet (hopefully soon since were just now starting our relationship). But how do I go about telling him about my mental illness once things get serious, I have been diagnosed with depression and getting followed up for possibly bipolar. I know I wont tell him on the first date but when and how should I tell him. Im just afraid of scaring him away if I tell him since I never told any about this to anyone let alone how I feel to anyone personally besides my therapist.

[Body odah Man]

You just ahve to tell him after a few dates. If he's the right person for you he'll understand. If not, ur gunna have to wait for the right guy :(

[Menzis]

Do NOT tell him right away.. tell him when you know each other for a little longer.
Just do it when you have like a conversation where it's not crowded do it when you are alone with him together.
Just start talking about whatever.. and slowly get to the subject of your mental illness and explain what it's all about.

[Living For Love]

If he really likes you, I think that telling him you have depression, and possibly bipolar disorder, will make him even closer to you, as he will want you to feel safe, and help you out with your illnesses. Of course, you should only tell him when you're ready, and when you two have already met and feel pretty comfortable with each other, but if he's a good and caring person, he will understand you and even help you out, so no worries.

[highschool]

tell him when you guys are close and probably when you're having a really deep moment. I know it sucks but it is soo important that he knows and accepts it. If not, it wasn't meant to be, you are who you are and people can either love it or leave it.

[Pensive]

If he really likes you, I think that telling him you have depression, and possibly bipolar disorder, will make him even closer to you, as he will want you to feel safe, and help you out with your illnesses. Of course, you should only tell him when you're ready, and when you two have already met and feel pretty comfortable with each other, but if he's a good and caring person, he will understand you and even help you out, so no worries.

I also feel it's important to point out the element of trust involved in this. He should understand by you telling him, just how strongly you trust him with this vulnerable private part of yourself.

As I'm sure you know, Depression and Bipolar can be helped by changing the way you think - your outlook on life. By involving him, he can provide a somewhat constant positive perspective on situations, which will aid your recovery.

On a slightly off-topic note (and yes I quote a mod oops...) it really irks me that these illnesses get referred to like they are permanent. They aren't for most.

[Chrisscotland]

its a hard thing to even think about telling someone something like that, I don't think I could tell anyone about mine unless we were very very close and I knew he would be ok with it

[backjruton]

The first thing I would tell someone is I'm autistic. All my friends know, and they like me more because of that in a way I think...I wouldn't say to tell him right away, but do it quickly and soon because I would want it to be the first thing someone finds out about me and not one of the last, because I can't help blurting things out and it can piss some people off :lol: I almost got expelled from high school within the first 2 months because of this as no one properly knew my issues for a while there and I said something REALLY bad in one of my slight rages when I lost awareness of myself and my surroundings :D

[Columbus]

tell him when you guys are close and probably when you're having a really deep moment. I know it sucks but it is soo important that he knows and accepts it. If not, it wasn't meant to be, you are who you are and people can either love it or leave it.

Thanks yeah I guess ill just have to wait a little longer so we can get to know each other better, ill just have to figure how to bring the subject up.